Confident Men NEVER Do This Around Women

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[retrorecall]

1) don't apologize for preferences
2) don't focus on impressing, focusing on connecting
3) don't overcompensate
4) don't need to fill the silence
5) don't control the situation - overthinking, preplanning

[koolandblue]

0:20 They don't apologize for preferences
(2:02 Factor sponsor ad)
3:17 They don't focus on impressing, they focus on connecting
4:48 They don't overcompensate
5:33 They don't need to fill the silence
6:42 They don't try to control the situation

[ajtaylor]

Own your interests and hobbies, fellas. Even aside from getting women to find you attractive, you will just feel much better about yourself because you love what you love. People constantly criticize my love for WWE, and I could care less.

[PRdude]

About how a confident man doesn't feel the need to fill the air with word, it reminds me of a quote by Plato that goes "a wise man speaks because he has something to say. A fool speaks because he has to say something".

[Ezilla]

Honestly, I'm still working on my social and conversational skills so that's going to be some baby steps for sure. I'm glad to be part of groups that are share the same interests that I do like horror to action figures to movies and etc. And having conversations that are civil and what not so that we get their points of view on certain topics.

[ilai]

Thanks for #5, I'm with a girl who is very generous and considerate to me through her gestures but often just talks about herself and said she's not all that good at thinking up questions on the spot, so besides encouraging her once in awhile to also ask questions I'm learning to be patient and allow the conversation to flow as it may

[ChadSteehler]

I must say that I really admire how you hold and present yourself in these videos. You speak the definition of what a real and genuine women is.

[austinmcnair]

I had to start out with a list of talking points or fun questions. I was creative when I had time to think, but not in the pressure of a moment. Eventually I was able to notice patterns, learned good conversation tips, and develop a flow that works for me. Coming from a background where it was difficult for me to talk, knowing what to talk about and noticing how those topics make someone feels gave me more confidence for natural conversations. Even your natural quirks can become charming if you learn to master what works for yourself.

[jmac]

2) Connect vs. Impress. This might be the first time I've heard this comparison; I don't think it can be overstated.

In my 40s now, and connection is such an integral component of all my relationships: romantic, personal, and professional. Point 2 cannot be fully accomplished without points 3 and 4.

Well said.

[arthurfranklin]

Great clarity all points well taken. It’s a learning process…Thank you and grateful for pointing it out.

[IsaacBlencowe]

Yep authenticity is one of the most important aspects I believe. I was following a women on instagram who was doing dating content. Was putting out some Ok content. But then she put out one saying that on the first few dates a man should take down any posters that might turn a women off her examples were star wars, video games etc. And even though I dont have any of these myself. It just didn't sit well with me. And doesn't really make any sense. And would mean starting the relationship off right from the start by diminishing yourself and pretending to be someone else. Which just doesn't make any sense to me. Far more power and confidence in being authentic and confident in yourself than trying to be someone else to impress a women. Needless to say after that I unfollowed. A lot of poor advice out there. Very glad I found you Courtney. Thank you for being such a authentic and mature voice in a sea of immaturity and superficiality 🙏✌️

[Snarge]

I prefer to sit with my date, not directly opposite to her, but having her to my left or right (on a square table). It's less confrontational and more comfortable.

[chrisarksey]

Embracing silence...so true! Even in a marriage...being able to pause and acknowledge that two people have come to a minor conclusion/agreement and live in that moment for 3seconds is great.

[TheSaneHatter]

Thank you for addressing confidence as a matter of technique and strategy, rather than of attitude. Confidence, I have come to realize, is not a character trait but a behavior that's often taught to people with desirable social attributes and discouraged in others. It's something you do, rather than something you are, and the playing field isn't very level.

[kevinj]

Damn, that was a SUPER-smooth transition into the sponsor commercial! Extremely well done! My compliments. I think it was the smoothest transition that I've ever seen. Same tone of voice. Same camera angle and lighting and clothing and spoken rhythm. Very, very well done!

[loganshell]

Speaking of confidence I’ve been watching some of your old videos and wow has yours grown. Keep
It up Courtney!

[orionanderson]

I do the one where I take the time to listen to her and let her think instead of trying to fill the silence. I find it helps me get to know her better and we grow closer as a result

[johngonzalez]

Wishing you a wonderful Sunday, Courtney ❤

[brianbee]

Not feeling pressure to fill silence. Best thing I ever learned.

[armanddimeo]

"Thanks for your patience" is a less wimpy way of saying "Sorry."