Top 3 Reasons Adult Children Are Estranged From Parents | Ep.104

Are you estranged from your adult child and wondering how you got here? This video shares 3 of the most common contributors to adult child estrangement.

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ESTRANGEMENT AND ABUSE: When considering the possibility of reconciling with an emotionally and or physically abusive great care is required. Reconciling may only be possible if the abuser is willing to work with a family therapist. When there is abuse, individuals estrange out of necessity and self-preservation. Consider if it is safe to resume a relationship with an abusive family member without evidence that the abuser has changed or takes responsibility for their harmful actions.

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[Witchhovel]

I cut off my parents officially a year ago. It's been wonderful, I went from calling everyday to zero contact.
My no one from my family has reached out. It's wonderful.
I always felt like I was held hostage, if I didn't check in either I would be punished or someone else would be.
My mom would threaten to make my dad kill himself, or would drop threats toward my niece.
I just let go of being Responsible for her behavior.

❤❤❤ Now I am only responsible for my behavior, and my childs happiness 😊

[Langkowski]

Of all the videos on Youtube, I had actually never seen a video about parents of adult estranged children admitting they were wrong, realizing their mistakes and understanding why their children have cut them out of their lives. It's always about victimhood and how they sacrificed everything for their ungrateful children. Now and then the parents are probably right when they say they have no idea why their children have become estranged. But not a single parent admitting their errors? It makes me conclude that most of the time, their children left them for a good reason or two.

[marlynnek]

You watch all these parents on social media who are experiencing this and they all act so surprised like they have no idea why they're adult children have gone no contact. What did you do? What did YOU do?

[kell_checks_in]

1. Sexual abuse. 2. Violent abuse. 3. Alcoholism and drug abuse. Those are your top three reasons, right?

Note: you can't even get two minutes in to the video without playing mind games. "The top 3..." is quite different from "Here are 3 top reasons..." I'm calling great big smelly BS.

[channanana]

The estranged parents of adult children . . .are adult children as well, just for a longer time in a world that has twice as many people compared to when they were kids.
Estrangement has a double edge that does not discriminate based on who does it. The result is

(a loss of relationship)

whether wanted or not.

[ericagardens]

different, like avoidant communication styles, aka emotional neglect

[MC]

Thank you Marie. This was very validating. I cut my mother out of my life a total of 3 times in the span of about 2 years. And it was years, even decades, in the making. Only after cutting her out for the 3rd time did I realize how often I had been scapegoated by her. I emailed her about a year into no contact to ask her if she was willing to get joint counselling with me as one last attempt at reconciliation (I didn't mention the scapegoating). She did not reply but many months later, sent me some information via messenger (completely unrelated to the email) and, as an afterthought, told me I was the one who needed long term counselling (once again, scapegoating me). She has never taken accountability and I believe that is why she has refused joint counselling as it would mean she would finally have to address what she has been avoiding, my whole life. I was the only one ever doing the emotional and psychological heavy lifting for myself and our relationship. I was so burnt out and broken hearted and had to accept she never really wanted much to do with me. I still wish I could have a healthy, loving and close relationship with my Mom and I always will, but, at the end of the day, I have had to accept she never wanted this and it was far too painful to be around her, hence the no contact.

[BrantleyLong-me]

Morin please keep your articl es coming, I find comfort and understanding in your words. It’s been 8 long years since our son Abandoned us.

[DistrustUS]

We parents should really be grateful. We are free from the whining and bitching about how bad they have it.
Enjoy the time left, parents. Life is short.

[elyse]

I actually cannot believe the narcissism of the Baby Boomers. This is totally incredible. Zero responsibility zero accountability. It’s just all the adult children’s fault. Now if the child became a celebrated neurosurgeon, you would take to s if credit for it.😂 sick.

[GG-pzvw]

According to God’s Word, some children are just rebellious and or stubborn. Sometimes the parents don’t have to do anything wrong. Parents are NOT children’s only influence in this world. So, when they enter the school system and or affiliate with other children, a lot of the people they come in contact with have now become influential to children, whether good or bad and they develop learned behavior from other adults and or peers. Moreover, some children may just be genetically hard-headed and will become estranged from parents, because they never liked rules and laws noway. Truth is we have to keep praying for our children and leave them in God’s hands. God gave us our own minds and sometimes people are going to “choose” to do what they want to do, regardless of whether they were raised correctly or not.

[turowat]

*It is false there is lack or poor communication* , estranged kids are always running away from narcissistic abuse. Shame on you.