Confidence Secret - How To Deal With Feeling Left Out

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[casseycaaas]

is it just me or it is really sad that we actually searched for this video just to overcome being left out. :((

[tamarabitter]

it's not nice making some one feel left out

[claraschofield]

We should make a group of all the people that feel left out and one day we all meet up and nobody will ever have to feel that way again

[therobertnewsshow]

In conversations I do my best to include others around me. it is rude when others don't do the same. I acknowledge that we have to be assertive, but we should also seek to include others as well in our society in general. Just because our society is, often very pushy and rude, does not mean we have to be as well. I don't like the idea of being overly aggressive in conversation. i think that, often, waiting to be included is a show of respect to others around us.

[mayl]

I’ve inserted myself in conversations and I thought things were fine. Until they would get lunch without inviting me and go out on outings without inviting me. Which was weird because I was close and part of their group... but I guess they bonded more. So I spoke up about it and they apologized and said they’ll invite me next time. Still didn’t. Basically, nothing works when it’s with inconsiderate people. It’s not you, it’s them. And the best thing to do is to move on

[sohaibahmed]

I often times have to jump in and interrupt in conversations just to be heard.

[stirlingite]

My 2 other friends frequently go to eachothers houses for sleepovers and to hang out. And they never think of inviting me. Yes I have talked to them about it and nothing's changed :/:(

[akriti]

One of the biggest reason why I am so happy that I finally finished school, I don't have to deal with feeling left out anymore.
My last two years at school were really bad 'cause of this, so bad that I even hated lunch breaks or any free time there.

[CatharineRiverRain]

I have learned to insert myself, but people still will leave you out if you just don't share similar values or interests

[Raylee-btcv]

I'm a very shy person and people take that as my weakness and call me lame or a square or a loner..
its like i don't want to live anymore:(

[UnsuspectingCommenterPassingBy]

I used to be that one secretly shy girl who fought her awkwardness with a lot of humor that ended up giving me a lucker little spark of charisma, I even became extremely outgoing and almost completely confident, even when I felt like running away deep inside...until I started noticing how people started avoiding me and friends that met each other because of me started going out without me, little by little, until literally none of them cared about me, I knew that because I would try to get close to them again and they would just brush me off. Tbh, it's been so long since I made new actual friends, that I just became downright anxious and awkward and people avoid me even more even when I remain just as friendly and inclusive in my conversations as always lmao it's tragically funny. I don't know if it's only me, but it seems like recently some people have been acting like they hate to be treated nicely, they just want you to be as pushy, overly sassy and rude as they are, but when you are, they get offended and go away, but if you act the same as you were before, they see you as lame and boring and go away anyway, like wtf, how do I socialize anymore? lol

[impastaissus]

I feel like when I join into the conversation they find me annoying and dislike me

[ansleyiscooler]

I can’t even describe how bad it makes me feel being ignored. One time, I was in a group chat with all my friends and it took them a good 20 minutes to wonder why I wasn’t talking! I started crying and they didn’t even notice. It felt like I was trapped and I was screaming for help but no one noticed. I deal with that DAILY! And to top it all off I have about 2 toxic friends that I have to deal with and can’t escape from. I wish I could be more confident so people would actually care about me

[MrMetalHead]

Here is a quote I heard recently that really helped me find the strength to make a change. "On your last day on Earth, the person you are will meet the person you could have become" Never let fear stop you from being who you are, or doing what you wanna do. Live you life to your potential.

[ainsley]

I feel like I’m a good friend. I feel like I’m a good listener, I feel like I’m entertaining, I feel like I’m not clingy, I feel like I’m fun to be around, I’m social, I feel like I’m relatable, I feel like I’m funny, I feel like I’m a good friend. The last time I had a real friend was in kindergarten. It’s been years. I’ve tried so many different activities and reached out of my comfort zone. I’m on a dance team, and they had a late night. I was the ONLY kid in the group that didn’t get invited (there where 10 kids) I am so depressed, but literally no one cares. I have no one.
Edit: and then when I’m down from it they talk about me in front of my face and say I’m “rude” and “moody” and “a bully” someone help me please

[zara.f]

I’m used to this feeling because growing up my parents were very overprotective and didn’t let me hang out with my friends often. So in group chats when they were talking about when they hung out I would feel very left out. But I hope everyone else doesn't have to experience this horrible feeling and that everyone has a good day. Don’t worry you are valued and you are important.😊

[ghizbinthuda]

Indeed it's a long life struggle, it's like building a muscle.

[fatimahaltamimi]

Me watching this as I cry about my friends sharing the outing I planned, but wasn’t invited to on their stories

[denisaandreea]

Its not even about being able to budge in, it’s the lack of interest they show when it’s your turn to speak, walking in front with another person and leaves you behind idk 🤷🏻‍♀️

[hollyemerson]

I totally feel like this is directed towards me, like you're talking to me. I'm in a group of three but I severely left out, to the point where I'm rarely with them or see them. They prefer each other of me and I feel so excluded and worthless