Why Men REALLY Shut Down

[YoFreshWiggy]

There’s another factor; a lot of the time when a man opens up about himself, suddenly everything he says gets weaponized against him.

[jasonallen]

Every time I've shown vulnerability I have been punished for it in some way.

[PBAJ]

The first time a man shows you his emotions and you hold it against him will be the last time he'll show you his emotions.

[thecapone]

Women can’t understand us because when they talk about their feelings, turns out, they don’t want a solution. They just want you to listen to a rant.

[elfrad]

I am a 62-year old male. If there is one thing I have learned in my life it is that a man can only cry in front of his male friends and his mother.

[richkeylor]

Spent 4 hours with a friend in his garage yesterday.
Changed the oil in a car, worked on motorcycles and had a beer.
Didn't spend one minute talking about personal problems.
It was the best day of the week.

[Hawksforever]

A man finally breaks down and shares his feelings with you it's because he trusts you. IF you tear him down or insult his feelings, you best believe that shit will NEVER happen again.
Congrats you just manufactured your very own emotionally unavailable man. WAY. TO. GO.

[michaelsantoro]

I know people say "oh you dated the wrong girl" everytime I bring this up, but after 5 relationships, one thing is constant (in all 5)- anytime ive been vulnerable or honest about something im dealing with, it gets weaponized. Every. Single. Time. One relationship, I went 2.5 years being as stoic as humanly possible, despite dealing with chaos, and i let my guard down once. A week later, I was called a "p**sy". Needless to say I ended that relationship.

[dreamagery]

Society says that “Women have feelings, while men have insecurities.” Our feelings are mot validated.

[ConnorElzaim]

Also, and this is a factor I've heard reported by many dudes, if they share something sensitive with you...never use that in a fight. No, not even if you are losing, because the moment you throw that in his face he will clam up tighter than fort knox and it will be entirely your fault. You'll have proven that out of the billions of people in the world, and the fraction of those he trusted with his vulnerable side, you aren't one of them and never will be. There is no walking that back.

[GaladorLP]

I once cried in front of a girlfriend. She broke up shortly after

[sssugarquartzzz]

And people would call this woman a “pick me” because she defends men. Thank you for talking about this you’re a gem 💎

[thomasmount]

A man talking about his feelings gets the same treatment as someone who walks down dark alleys yelling about how rich they are.

[LinkofLegend]

Won’t trust it: always gets used in the next argument as an attack.

[katlynklassen]

I was talking to a young guy at work. Some female coworkers overheard me tell him never open up to a woman. They all five suddenly dogpiled on me telling me i was wrong and did not let me get a word in edgewise. I just stayed quiet till they were then looked at the young guy and said "point proven".

[jamesblunt]

We treat talking about our problems like being questioned by the police.

We know every word we say can and will be used against us.

[onetruth]

They literally will throw the smallest shit you do speak up about as soon as an argument comes up.

[mymaskofshame]

My ex would get mad at me for not being more emotional and opening up more, i started opening up and expressing what was upsetting me and she told me we need to have this conversation another time.
Men can never win at this sadly.

[Woisjla]

When you are at your lowest they leave.
They only come when you are at your best.

[davidhensley]

When she tells him how wrong his feelings are, he decides to never again tell her about them.