Why Aren't Men Getting Married? | Doug Wilson

Doug Wilson reacts to a video of Michael Knowles on the Whatever podcast discussing why men aren't getting married.

Doug Reacts is a reaction video series presented by Canon Press.

[BirdDogey]

I got divorced in California. She filed when I lost my job after 6 years of marriage. The divorce cost me 75% of my assets. She then made it hard for me to see my son. The courts were of no help. Most of today's women aren't worth marriage.

[whatever]

Hey Doug, thank you for your insights on this and reacting to my video! -Brian (guy in the video)

[segurosincero]

I met both of my ex-wives at church. The first one threatened to kill me in my sleep and the second one divorced me after 27 years of marriage because she “wasn’t happy“. Both of them are faithful Christians who go to church every Sunday.

[annatar]

My brother’s ex-wife cheated on him because she was bored in the marriage. She divorced him, got the house and my brother has to pay child support and can only see his kids 4 days a month.

I don’t blame men for boycotting marriage. The laws need to change because women are incentivized to divorce at men’s expense.

[robreich]

Men don’t want to get married because marriage doesn’t mean anything anymore. It’s like signing yourself up to be open to having your life savings stripped from you at any moment.

[i_am_thebatman]

Marriage is no longer till death do us part.

It is now till she says
“I’m not happy”

[jauger]

I was divorced in California. Wife moved to Utah and took out son with her. We had a court ordered custody that was split down the middle, she had him for the school year, I got him on summers and holidays, thus no child support order. Two years in, the guy she left me for became an abusive drug addict, and she fell on hard times financially. I was unaware of this. She had also developed anxiety regarding sending our boy back and forth via plane during the summers and holidays. So she concocted a plan, I suspect she had help, and fed me a story that our boy had passed away. I was stupid, and didn't imagine anyone would ever lie about such a thing. I fell into a depression for a year and a half, and just as I was pulling out of that, I was thrust into an entirely new and dare I say far worse emotional rollercoaster when a friend of mine called me after spotting her with the boy. I spent some time acquiring legal representation(which was hard, because I was not well off and many lawyers declined due to doubts over my chances of success), and once I had a lawyer I filed for full custody based on the idea that anyone willing to lie to a parent about their child passing away is a liability to that child and not safe to allow them continued custody. Needless to say, she was not happy about this, big shocker, and called me to tell me I can't have the boy. I told her watch me. She proceeded to explain that I could not have him because he wasnt' mine. I wasn't about to believe a word she said at this point, so as expected the court ordered a paternity test. Turns out it's the only thing she's ever told me that I can verify is true. In a wholely unexpected turn of events, the courts granted her request that instead of saddling me with the role of parental guardian as is the courts usual default given I was the only one to take on the responsibilities of being a father to that boy for his entire five years of life at this point, they stripped me of all my rights, and explained that any further contact with the boy would be strictly at her discretion. As you can imagine, Ive not seen or spoken to the boy since. Despite my having tried. When I asked her in one of our last conversations over the phone why she did this to begin with, what was her motive for telling me he had passed in the first place, she replied that everytime she sent him on a plane to me, she feared it would be the last time she'd see him, convinced I would eventually run away with the boy, and thus "I felt I had to do it to you first, before you did it to me.".After this, I was slapped with a $47, 000 bill by DHHS for debt accrued by her via welfare programs that I was told I, being her husband at the time, owed. So we'll after our divorce, I continued to fight against the state attempting to steal money from me for a marriage I was no longer in, over welfare debt accrued to care for a child that wasn't mine and who I had no custody for. I would spend nearly 15 years fighting that, tooth and nail, to the point of living my life like I was on the lam, an outlaw, taking under the table jobs, and changing jobs and residence whenever uncle Sam would catch up to me and begin to send me bills or attempt to garnish my wages. The case was finally resolved last year. I'm now 44, and only now feel as if my life is my own, and I'm able to begin living normally. I am well behind in terms of financial stability and established work history. Due to my stubborn d decision to duck and dodge uncle Sam since I had no other recourse to stop him from stealing from me, I lost out on focusing on establishing a career or working diligently at a single company slowly working my way up the ranks. I have my pride and my principles at the end of the day, but I am starting life now where most people do in their early 20's. I'll never get that time back. I'll never get the money they did get from me back, and worst of all, I'll never see the boy I raised ever again. To say that marriage is a risk is an understatement. I take every opportunity I get to scare every man I can out of the idea of marriage.

[someguynamedvictor]

35 yo software engineer. I stepped out of dating about 7 years ago. It was clear then that society was progressing in a direction I couldn’t be part of. Now other than sex, which is not a personal driver, I have no reason to interact with a woman. I can cook and clean better than 99% of them and in less time and with less complaining.

[CornCod]

I'm glad that Mr. Knowles has a happy marriage. I married a very pious Christian woman who divorced me without any moral compunction at all. She even said very flippantly that "God will forgive me." There are women out there that worship happiness over God's law.

[lewisedwards]

The dating period has to be the most incredibly scrutinizing period of someone’s life. The popularity of men opting out marriage isn’t necessarily because they believe it will grant them more freedom, but that it will save them from more pain.

[mazaroth]

Im a single 40 year old Christian man. The amount of worldliness I have seen in Christian women is astounding. There are not very many women out there who are wife material. And rarely will you find a church that will call out women's sinful behavior. Its almost as if men are seen as this broken and sinful wreck who can barely make it into heaven. And women are these pure beings that have to put up with men.

[sorcelord]

That “ who hurt you “ line triggered abusive instincts In me I didn’t know I had 😂

[gwithts]

How can women be so oblivious to the pain men face? I honestly think feminism has done immeasurable damage to our society. By the way I am a happily married grandmother.

[CornerTalker]

My pastor's son married a Christian woman. They were both very involved in their local churches. After two years, she walked out with his baby because he worked too much (first year in a new job). She returned to her old church the very next week and occupied her old pew. No one said anything.

[jth_printed_designs]

“Marry a woman that’s not going to get divorced” lmfao

[clintit]

As a 24 y/o I’m avoiding a life destroying divorce that my father went through and caused me to grow up from 12 onward without his guidance. No fault divorce people.

[danielhamilton]

Women initiate over 70% of divorces and it rises to 90% when they're college educated. I met my ex in Church, she walked away with no qualms. Another ex had 0 qualms cheating and then nuking the relationship. Both Medical Doctors and highly accomplished. As Women rise in socio-economic status so do their demands for control and absolute happiness/fulfillment at all times.

[jasonj_vii]

These girls seem so perplexed that a man is hesitant about entering a contract that only benefits her lol

[RobertJohnson_Zeppo]

A coworker of mine related the story of a man who married a solid Christian woman who, after only a few years, divorced him. Her congregation help remove all of the possessions in his house, while singing Bringing in the Sheaves. Not far from where I currently live, a guy came came home early to find his wife in bed with the Pastor. He held them both there, in bed and staring down the business end of a shotgun, until her mother had time to arrive at the scene.

My question: How many of these incidents would an otherwise intelligent man need to be aware of before he writes the institution of marriage off as a fool's errand?

[thomasmulhall]

I'm a restorer of classic cars by trade. Caught last girlfriend telling someone "We did this, " and, on the spot, corrected her by asking "What part did you clean, paint, purchase, or bolt on to this car?"
Her answer was that she was "Invested" in the project by her sacrifices of bringing food to the shop, or having to wait for me to get home, exhausted.
I knew at that moment that I would lose the cars, shop, parts, tools, etc that I had earned over the years if I spent 1 more day with this fraud.
Pink slipped her after the Concours.