The truth about narcissistic hypochondria

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When a narcissist is also a hypochondriac then you have nothing but trouble. Watch the video to find out more.

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[clamarroan]

Thank you for this video. My mother has been "dying" for more than 30 years LOL! It's amazing how she has managed to create a circle of suppliers/hostages around her who try to guiltrip or shame me by calling me a bad daughter. I tell them: You will all die before her. LOL.

[KarenG.-qswc]

You're describing my mother exactly.👍😞

[mariannekoroleva]

YES, they are either too ill to care for you or too superior to get involved with you. The "joy" is always to switch the both "states" constantly... Thank You!!:))!!👍🌞🍥

[Lisa_]

Wow, there are two women in my life who regularly do this to me, it's exactly what you are describing, like they want me to "witness" their suffering and constantly obsess over their health issues. (One of them does indeed have a serious health issue, which is being managed, but mostly they obsess over minor stuff and they don't take any action to help themselves. I am also noticing that these health issues always get worse when I try to break free and assert my independence.) I try to be a compassionate with them, but it's like a lightbulb went off, I am realizing that my empathy seems to make me a magnet for narcissists. I never thought of it this way before because it has been going on for so many years, but more recently I have felt drained by certain people and I am starting to feel in my gut that their behavior is not normal. I am noticing certain patterns in many of my realtionships. I am myself a cancer survivor and I don't obsess over my health the way these two women do. I don't know how to break this cycle I am stuck in with these people.

[Thetis-gb]

Yes! Exactly this! Thank you so much for sharing!

[AlexandrakS]

thank you for this video! In previous sharings I posted on the comments about my experience with my narcisistic mother and the way she uses her hypochondriac traces against the family, I'm so glad we now have a video about this - now i'm not feeling so alone LOL

My mom basically made herself a fully disabled person once I grew up into adulthood - unlearned everything that she actualy tought me like cooking, using a computer, taking medication, doing fixer uppers, etc. In need of constant assistance. And then, sickness ALL THE TIME.

Fake pneumonia, fake heart attack, fake depression, fake colds, fake colestherol, fake kidney stone, you name it! Did she accepted medical help easily to check it? LOL Of course not. Just wanted the attention and care of everybody.

The manipulation is so umberable! My experience with my mother is that if she has a cold it's like she has cancer and all the attention must be on her because she could die at any minute and if not done so then she immedially concludes that nobody cares about her, to the point that she can convince anyone to do what she wants. Over the last years this grew into suicide threats and hunger strikes - it goes like "I'm throwing myself down the window, this is too much for me to handle, nobody ever does anything for me/I don't matter to anyone" and "I haven't eat anything all day because you went out to have lunch and dinner with friends/date and I don't have the will to eat when I'm alone, it's so sad and I was so weak to cook" and "I'm going to my grave very soon, you should all take pity on me, if not on me, then on yourselves when my soul hunts you by not being able to rest in peace" it's riddiculous, you are supposed to abdicate on your own life to take care of someone who's actually not sick, just desperate to own you.

100% real about the way they mirror it into their children, my mother would always interrupt me at the doctor and describe symptons I did not have or turn them much worst. Also with humiliation like "she's been like that for 3 days, she's only saying it started today because she's embarresed to addmit that". Also, my mom could ignore and make up diagnoses of her own and impose them on me: hypotireodism was me being mental, sore tonsils was STD and food poisoning was Malaria. However when I broke my nose she waited a whole week to take me to the hospital. I also have this small mole on my head from childbirth and some people of the family have the mole in different parts of their bodies as well, but to my mom mine it's clearly a brain tumor that makes me evil, moody and corrupt. Any sympton I had would be advised by her to be treated with a dangerously amount of medication to "heal faster without annoying anybody" and "stop being a baby and take your medication I cannot understand why you refuse this, I'm telling everyone how much of a baby you are". Self medication on herself to an extreme was also an issue. Anxiety and depression followed me up but that obviously was lack of God in my heart in her point of view. Once I fainted on the hospital and when i woke I heard my mother telling the nurses they should give my hospital bed to someone who was actually sick lik wtf not to mention that time when I was a teenager and she took me to a pyschiatrist and told the doctor was "mental" because I "didn't love and respect her boyfriend" just to recieve from the doctor a memo card with a psycologist number recomended... TO HERSELF.

It obvious became unberable to live with her so I went no contact. It's horrible because even though is unlikely that my mother kills herself I still feel like she could just fot the attention and final word about this living argument. I'm on therapy to deal with the nonsense guilt over that and keep free from her influence. Let me tell you all: no contact was the best thing I EVER did. Made me realize 100 things I was afraid of and felt incapable of doing myself that were literally an imposed reflex from her. I'm glad of my healing (a step at a time) and hope you all find yours. Nowdays I can understand that she would either fake her health conditions to recive attention or make other people's health worst to make them need care and attention from her, however it went her goals were accomplished: imprisonment and spotlight.

[mini_skinny]

I had this work colleague and I think she has covert narcissistic traits. She was always doing some cleansing, drinking certain teas or extracts, eating some mixture of fruits or veggies. She was suspecting she was having some life transforming illnesses like multiple sclerosis or ankylosing spondylitis, and she was doing medical tests (almost none of her suspicions was confirmed, other than a professional illness). I didn't think she was a hypochondriac at that moment, but looking back I think she was/is. And I think she was choosing illnesses with an interesting name, to draw attention. When she was young she wanted to go to a Med School, but she failed repeatedly. Probably the scientific jargon made her feel a bit like a specialist. And people would marvel at how much she knows about the human body. So this hypochondria of hers had two sides: one, to get simpathy from people for her state, and the other - to get admiration for her scientific knowledge.

[diamondslb]

This has been my mother her entire life. She does have chronic issues with her heart BUT they are ultra exaggerated and if she is perceived as being well and stable, she invents something to be anxious about. This is especially true if I express that I have something I want to do for myself such as a dinner out with friends or travel. She recently became widowed and even any mention of me being away for a few days or a week... is out of the question as she is fragile and its shameful for her to rely on strangers.

[raebearsings]

Holy shit—I never made this connection before. I have always attributed my mom’s behavior to ADHD and OCD, but more and more since becoming an adult I’ve picked up on narcissistic patterns. The medical anxiety is especially real for her and she has most definitely tried to rope me back in whenever I get a cold or have a mental health crisis. She’s only ever been a “mom” when I’m in dire physical or emotional need. I’m living with my parents at the moment, but I spend a lot of time out of the house with my girlfriend (which another point of contention—I’m trans and queer and she uses her religious beliefs to justify loving me conditionally🙄) and trying to live under the same roof is getting increasingly difficult

[Cerri-ot]

So spot on, but what is the correct way to deal with this?