Wife Will Not Budget

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[hollyb]

He said she was a stay at home mom. She’s NOT a stay at home mom. She’s a stay at Starbucks, stay in Target, etc mom.

[tomjohnson]

Sounds to me like the woman is spending a ton and doesn't want to stop/see how much she's really spending which is why she's arguing/getting defensive.

[jamesrodrigue]

Your full of it Dave. She feels bullied because she doesnt like what shes hearing. She cant handle the truth!

[krillansavillan]

$2.5k-3k per month on general shopping?!! that is ridiculous!! Dave completely missed the ball on this one... wow

[ir]

ADULTS devise a plan, CHILDREN do what feels good!
if you're not feeling uncomfortable, if your level of comfort is more important to you than your health and wealth, then you're not growing as a person.

[maxxg]

She should appreciate her husband being responsible and thinking about THEIR future.

[yourmilitarymoney]

I went and met with a marriage counseling 15 years into our marriage and it was great!  We learned how to communicate effectively with each other.  Right on target Diamond Dave!

[liveyourbestlife]

We had the same struggle. I got a part time job. It helps me to feel involved when I am also bringing money in.

[cattsmahal]

I’m a women. I know there’s two sides of the story, but I feel bad sometimes when men call in. It sounds like the wife is spending due to emotions rather then being and adult and planning. 🤪

[jcmcgarry]

I'm so glad I stumbled upon this video. I'm floored by how compassionate you were with the caller. The parallels between the "symptoms" he described to ones in my own marriage piqued my interest in the hope of finally finding "the answer" for this situation.

From experience, I can confirm that trying to carry all of the financial-planning burden can do far more harm than good - even with the best of intentions. I have found that the more I was willing to swallow my pride and ask for help; the more my spouse was involved in the conversation - and genuinely felt as though her vote mattered - the more she took an active role in the process and the responsibility for her personal spending.

"Manning-up" and trying to sort it all out yourself is, in my experience, destined to fail. As is the essence of marriage itself, marital finances function most healthily when part of a partnership between two people in open dialogue.

[ir]

well sir your wife might as well be a 5 year old, this is ridiculous.

[deekayvixen]

$2500 to $3000 of shopping every month?? 😯

[Zoeybamboey]

I dont think this is the guys fault, he is actually trying, it's his wife that is not meeting him half way.

[candyluna]

at least he manages to make a budget. my husband won't even help

[MrVic]

Dave kills me with this .
Always the mans fault

[z]

I'm new to these Dave Ramsey videos. Does Dave ever hold the wife accountable?

[dabliss]

I see Dave lean on men, but again the woman gets a pass.   Can we ever say the woman is acting irresponsibly like a teenage girl and needs to grow up?   We (and Dave) can repeatedly say that a man is acting like a boy!

[shawnsnow]

If she is spending $2500 a month I am 100% with the husband. This isn't a communication problem, it's a spending problem.

[josephjakubec]

"Only a nurse" says volumes about this person.

[maxxg]

i disagree with Dave. It seems like she is just childish and wants to spend and not change her habits. There are women out there who are just that spoilt !

She doesnt seem to care how stressed or pressured he is by all this. If she was, she would committ herself to less spending.

From what i hear, the only way for him to get a change, is to step up and put his foot down.