This is why you’re unhappy with your man

If he’s not protecting, providing and defending you, you won’t feel safety and if you don’t feel safety, how can you feel attraction? And if you don’t feel attraction, how can you truly be happy and fulfilled? You can’t.

It’s a man’s role in a marriage to protect, provide and defend. This is the masculine and this is the structure of the home and the relationship. Without the structure or foundation, how can you feel happy, free, safe and therefore attraction?

Protecting means that you’re with a man that understands he has shortfalls, and is willing and able to hear your complaints and frustrations (as long as you’re being respectful in your approach). He holds space, he’s steady, calm and assures you that he will fix whatever it is you need to feel centred, taken care of and happy. He doesn’t become emotionally reactive, blame, make it about him and escalate the situation.

Attractive men are calm, put their wives first and know how to deescalate situations.

Defending means that when anyone disrespects you in front of him, he immediately corrects it. That could be anyone on his side, including the kids. If kids are disrespectful to you, and your husband allows that, how can you look at him with respect and as if he’s your hero? You can’t.

And lastly, a man must provide. If you’re taking care of most if not all of the bills and you’re hustling to the same degree that he is, you won’t feel happy. We live in a society where we need 2 incomes, however, most women feel best with men that manage money well and take the lead in this area. If you feel overworked and exhausted, it’s likely that he’s not taking on more in this department.

You’ll need all 3 to feel truly happy with a man. A provider that is unable to defend and protect still won’t feel good.

In the most successful marriages, men have learned to honour, respect and appreciate their wives, and their wives flourish. If you don’t feel this way, the above could be the reason why.

Fareen

#marriage #marriage101 #healthyrelationships

[muma]

That's exactly it, all three are necessary, protection, provision and defending

[cinderling]

Honestly I'm crying rn because this really hits


Fareen, thank you so much. I'm glad I'm not crazy!!

[CMilla]

You are unhappy in your marriage if you are unhappy in yourself as a woman. Don't project anything onto the man... Be happy, find yourself before you find the man, then you will know that happiness has nothing to do with your man

[hereandnow]

Yes, it would be nice to have all thst! Remember that Only God understands us " perfectly:

[cinderling]

sweetie you look amazing! You always do but GOSH :3

You look ten years younger today<3

Hihihi, i know this channel isn't about looks or anything, and it's kinda weird to have random strangers say stuff about how people look!

But it is hard to ignore honey 🤭 hope you don't mind

And to what you say..i can personally confirm that what you are saying is so true...🙏 Thank you, i feel validated ❤