When You Know It's Time To Leave A Relationship But You're Too Attached

[heidipriebe]

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[sylviahalo]

After many, many years of ambivalence, suffering, and uncertainty, I finally ended a 12 year relationship with my high school sweetheart, and mere hours later, you post this video THE EXACT SAME DAY. Everything in this video is so spot-on. In all areas of my life, I have always felt alone, dysfunctional, dysregulated, irrational, disconnected, lost. In your videos—especially this one—I have never felt so seen in my entire life. Heidi, you must be a guardian angel or something. Thank you.

[SeekAliveness]

Dang, the part about insecure attachment operating “strategically” and then having regrets about what if they’d used a different strategy vs. Secure attachment operating cleanly/genuinely/ laying all their cards out and feeling clear (yet sad) about a breakup is such an aha.

[cindylouwhoo]

This is so completely spot on. My man was an avoidant and I was anxious. But through hard work, therapy, devotion and love we survived. And are now thriving. I'm so glad we didn't give up. But we're so secure now we could leave without it being the end of the world. Although I don't see that happening. He's my dream man now ❤

[Yintendo]

Heidi Priebe should be declared a world wonder. ✨️😂 thank you for all the work that you do. 🙏🏼

[jamescalbert]

The concept of self care being a social responsibility rang like a bell in my consciousness.

[ignasmaciulis]

"Strategy mode" sounds like a term that could be useful. All these years, I have been so sick and tired of *something* about my relationship dynamics; all of that trying, doing, hoping, being amazing, jumping through hoops, and looking for ways to get noticed, and all those maybes, coulds, what-ifs and if-onlys. And now I have a word for it.

[rynfiaryn]

I ended a relationship that I was still very much wanting to stay in a few weeks ago... I just couldn't take the avoidance anymore. I tried so hard to be patient and understanding, but got nothing back in return and felt taken for granted. Yet for some reason, I still feel attached. I'll be listening to this on my drive to work tomorrow.

[laurah]

I love that you haven’t followed the formula for daily/regular videos or videos of a certain length and your channel has still quadrupled in subscribers in a year. Shows how valuable what you’re doing is

[larrychoiceman]

Your videos have helped facilitate a lot of healing and growth. And it's so generous of you to share your learning and insight with us gratis. Thank you thank you. (Please don't respond; it'll feel like I'm buying a reply. In the same way that you share what you have with us for free, this is what I have to share right now, with no expectation in return. Wish it could be more, you certainly deserve it.)

[heaventwig]

15:29 “you might have an anxious-leaning partner, who just tells you over and over again that you’re their favorite person in the world, that they can’t imagine life without you. But it also feels like they’re chronically kind of angry at you, or actually really displeased with your priorities and values that they’re claiming they like.”
I’m listening to this line on repeat.

[treeoflife]

Crazy the timing of this video. Literally going through this right now

[Rissy]

Girl, i needed this years ago 😅 but I did ultimately leave my husband a few months ago and WOW! I have never felt so good. It feels like it's the first time in my life I've truly been living. Everyone can see the difference in my spirit and say that I'm ✨glowing ✨

I cannot believe how much I was letting myself suffer by staying in the relationship!!

[asvegas]

I have often noticed I start grieving a relationship before it even ends. It’s a weird, confusing state to be in like one foot out the door but my heart still in. It’s probably part of being FA but I’ve had secure/stable relationships as well. It takes two to tango and sometimes it’s better to cut our efforts. My brain almost always perceives this and I can’t not act on it after a while - but it still takes time to disentangle the heart. Thanks for this video! Best wishes to everyone else here !

[JordanRey]

Heidi your channel has been probably the biggest factor in completely changing my life over the last 3 months and assisting me through the darkest period of my life. Thank you.

[jeanpgwinnett]

As an avoidant person struggling to accept my decision to end my relationship with a man I am still in love with. Heidi's advice has made me feel like I can survive this heartbreak aslong as I keep focused on this whole process. 3 months after breaking up, I have been rethinking my decision, but this has just reassured me. Thankyou 🙏🏻

[wangcheng]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient

[HasToPee]

Heidi you CANNOT call me out like this right now. PLEASE let me flounder in uncertainty a little bit more 😭

[UploadPicture]

I finally let him go after 2 weeks of him ghosting me. Sent him a message telling him that I love him too much but it's not what he wanted and that I needed to heal. I became too attached to him and it suffocated him. I made him my saviour. I lost myself in the relationship and valued myself based on how he treated me. I am slowly healing but it only happened when I finally sent him that final message.

[mindfulmovesmorgan]

I would love if you could make a follow up video about strengthening these areas in yourself after a break up. When I chose to end my relationship, I felt very secure in these areas. Then over time as I grieved the loss of this person being in my life, I started abandoning these areas one by one. I’m now feeling nostalgic for the relationship even tho I know it was not as healthy one because I’m associating success in these areas with my ex partner. Almost as if I don’t believe I can maintain them outside of a relationship.