How boredom can make a toxic person go crazy | The Narcissists' Code Ep 773

Boredom is a narcissists worst enemy. when a narcissists gets bored all bets are off. boredom can lead to a lot of narcissists destroying their own lives or the lives of other people. Boredom is unavoidable when you are dealing with a toxic partner and there is very little that you can do to get rid of the boredom aspect in the relationship. the narcissistic person in your life has to do things to deal with the boredom in a healthy way and not a way to destroy themselves and/or your relationship dynamic.

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Thank you so much

[gloryrose]

This explains a lot about my ex, I felt that he found reasons to fight with me or bring me down. I walked away because I couldn’t do it anymore, it is always the same cycle.

[danieladegan]

Beginning of relationship we were always doing something fun, every chance we got. Towards the end he didn't want to do anything anymore, all the stuff we did before he said it wasn't fun, boring or had some other excuse and he wanted to do new things..now it makes sense.

[DoesItReallyMatter]

My ex used to call his utility companies or cell company to dispute charges and see what discount he could get JUST because he was bored. Narcs are f’ng wild 😫😂

[kimrothery]

I was bored with the ex narc. He often said to me “ geez you get bored easy”. I just hated being stuck at home with his boring lazy ass. I’d already started my emotional detachment with him.

[asiasmith]

That explains a lot. My ex couldn’t even stay focused at the movie theater. He kept checking his phone more then 20 times, kept moving around his seat, getting up to go to the bathroom and kept taking deep breaths as if he wanted the punchline to just happen and end quickly.

[stacy]

They get bored easily but they are boring. Always want to be at home.

[Luca-]

They walk out of jobs with no plan. Just because they get bored.

[MoKurls]

This is facts! My ex literally ruined our honeymoon and multiple trips. The best thing you can do is leave

[agnesem]

Now I understand why the hell my narcissistic ex boyfriend was always initiating unnecessary drama to ruin our peaceful time together. I’m the type of person who tries at all costs to avoid drama and ignores every provocation, I wasn’t the right match, I guess 😂

[nathc]

This is 💯 a fact. I’ve literally had someone explain every symptom of narcissism w/o them realising it 🤧!

[BeXquisite]

This is so true!! Thank you for explaining this behavior because I thought it was me. Whenever I would mention it, let the gaslighting begin.

[Allthingsfazzi]

When Lee rolls his eyes and takes a deep breath, it cracks me up every time. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏾‍♀️💯

[jennyk.]

You were spot on. Mine would want to take a trip last minute because he was “bored of the routine” turn around start fights during the trip and be angry and rage. Like wth??

[InvisibleBorderline]

Mine WAS boring. I kept trying to get him to get out of the house and do “things”. He wouldn’t. He would rather sit in front of his computer and fight with people on Yahoo News site or watch videos about whatever topic he was obsessed with that day.
He did blow his life up. Long before I arrived on the scene.
He convinced his mother to take a reverse mortgage on her paid for house (that he lives in with her). He blew all the money in 10 months and has nothing to show for it.
The house is in horrible shape and he has all the tools and skills to fix it but he didn’t. Just blew it on ???

Glad I’m gone. I’m not going down with the Titanic

[janetb]

My husband would say how he didn’t want to do stuff with the kids and I, we’d leave the house to go do stuff and most times he wasn’t home when we got there. Always galavanting doing nothing productive and usually up to no good

[aseasonalname]

I could never just sit at my home on My day off and relax after 60 hours of work every week. He would always make me feel like I never wanted to do anything or I was just a drab. I wanted to relax I was on the go go all week. He would run around in circles huffing and puffing cause, in his words “was the only one that did anything”
So draining and so stressful to be at my own home. So glad to finally be out of that marriage and living alone.

[empressaissatou]

Its true from my experience. Its like they have ADD and their mind is constantly looking for something new to stimulate them. Again like a kid that always throws a tantrum for a new toy. Then immediately gets bored with it, throwing it to the side.

[katoxic]

his excuse for flirting/cheating with a girl was that he was bored and didn’t mean it 😭

[baldwincynthia]

Love Your Love Lee...You have Empowered me so much...Thank God for leading me to you...I knew I wasn't crazy as proceeded

[billindawatts]

In hind sight I see what you're saying . My (now his choice not mine) ex-husband after retirement and a two week ice storm stood up in frount of his recliner, put his hands on his hips, stomped his foot and said "I am NOT sitting around here and doing nothing for the rest of my life...
I never stopped him doing whatever he wanted to do. But he stopped me from doing what I needed to do all the time ...go finger.
Thank you for explaining why he totally blew up what we carefully built for nearly 50 yrs. Such a shame. I still love him, but was informed that he hadn't loved me for decades.