Why your partner doesn't appreciate you (and how to fix that)

Have you made it easy for your partner to devalue your worth? If so, here’s what you did wrong and here’s how to make it right. Learn the inner workings of person who takes their partner for granted, and how the non-prioritized partner gets stuck in the loop of believing their false promises.

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[IchoOoseU]

This made me cry. Because I was partner B and I walked away but the pain still remains.

[suip]

This is so on POINT in my relationship. I need to stop being lazy, afraid and comfortable. I deserve and worth more.

[Taryn]

I am 1 month out of being with partner A. I know I will never find someone who values me as long as I keep A in my life. No contact - walking away. Thank you for the reminder!

[babysab]

I found myself in one of those situations and I realised there is only one solution: stop giving. That is how you see people’s real colors. If you know your boundaries and speak up early in the relationship, you’ll be with a person who truly likes YOU

[is.b.]

You are one of the smartest, down to earth, loving and inspirational people I've ever seen. But the best part is that when You talk, I can feel your words and the connection. God bless you.

[jasoncleve]

I have to watch this every day to get it into my head. Bizarre how someone can completely change the way you see or value yourself...

[uSpeakTruth]

The reason why it's so important to move on even when it hurts. Value and love yourself first before anyone else. 😉

[robertzsombok]

I´m such a partner B. Why can´t love just happen naturally without power struggles or taking the other for granted?...

[morebacon]

I wasn't being appreciated. And I need to watch this a LOT of times, because the pain is still there. Thanks Susan. 😘

[ErnestHale]

I’m here. And I hate it here. Deep down inside I know that I have not been happy and feel used and taken for granted yet a part of me routinely creates hope in hurt. Married since 19 and at 32 nothing has changed. This message was presented in a beautiful manner and has revealed the ugly truth of many unhealthy relationships, including my own. Thank you, Dr.

[stormfalcon]

Ooh! I’m hearing one of the last things I said to my ex the night she broke up with me, “Babe, I’m not asking for a lot.” Ashamed now, because I realize that I had been asking to be appreciated and wanted her to put some effort and energy into maintaining the relationship for weeks. I went no contact from that moment on. No begging, crying or further devaluing behavior. Peace

[diggarcia]

Wow, this was my story! I took him back multiple times. This went on for several years. I finally saw the light and said goodbye 2 yrs ago. He still tries to call me but I am not falling for it. I have grown and realized my worth.

[jrfish]

This lady is 100% spot on at first I didn't want to believe some of the things she said on the hot and cold videos but I'm sorry she's 100% right! so save yourself a lot of trouble and take her awesome advice cuz she knows what she's talking about

[syaurahilyana]

i've let him go, it was too hard and tired, fighting all alone to fix this relationship...now i feel so much better, i just hope that i'll meet someone who will appreciate me :(

[celticsoul]

That was me but I’ve worked on myself and never again. I deluded myself into thinking I was a good person for doing this when truly I was devaluing myself. It doesn’t help them either. Thanks for the lesson. I’ve wasted a lot of time but my time left will be quality whether alone or in partnership.

[RG-hfet]

Susan, I have watched practically every video you have made and somehow I just found this one. I wish you were around years ago to help me see the light. This video is spot on. I was partner B. I married my high school sweetheart after 6 years of dating. He was the best boyfriend anyone could ever have. I felt so lucky to find this wonderful guy at a young age. He always had my back. Everyone I knew loved him. After we got married, everything changed. The relationship was all about him. Everyone else became a priority and I was last on the list-work, school, his parents, brothers, the neighbors, friends, coworkers, etc. all came first. No matter what I said or did, A didn't get it until I finally left after being sick and tired of being sick and tired after 7 year being married. I felt like why did I get married? I should have stayed single. This is all about him. He acted like he was a Tom Cruise or rock star on tour and I was the faithful wife waiting for him to come home. On paper, we were a couple but not in reality. He had everyone else's back but mine. And he was still this wonderful, terriffic guy to everyone but me. No one knew I was miserable. We did counselling together at my insistence. He got better for about 2 months then back to his old ways. Then I went to counseling on my own for about 2+ years to find the strength to leave. It took me over 3 years to get the nerve to leave. My leaving was a great shock to those who knew us. We were the perfect couple. He was the perfect guy. The final time I walked out of my house, I felt tremendous relief because I knew my life of being last was over and I wish I found the strength to leave sooner. He told me during the divorce, "I thought no matter what I did, you would always be there. We were married." He didn't know how to be a husband. I hope this helps other B's out It is years later now, dated different people. I find a common thread that most relationships I have been in start out nice and wonderful, then it's all about the guy. I now have zero tolerence for bs and have no problem getting up, walking out and not looking back. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

[k.w.]

Brilliant commentary. Until Partner B opens their eyes and kicks Partner A to the curb and doesn't EVER EVER look back, regardless of how hard Partner A tries or how many well crafted, flirty texts/emails Partner A sends. Did it; I walked away and never reply and now I'm free! So much stronger now.

[sagenosnibor]

ouch... but its exactly what my heart needed to hear. i love myself more than the abuse. NO MORE

[letellier]

So hard to hear! I am definitely the B partner. I have been with my A partner for 35 years, since I was 15 years old! Time and time again I did not feel like a priority. It is very hard to let go after 35 years and two beautiful children and a beautiful grandchild. I finally asked him to leave but still prayed he would change, to which he responded, “I am not changing.“. I am healing but it is a slow and lonely process.

[jondabron]

I'm bawling my eyes out in my car because I don't want to leave her. I've never loved anyone like this but it's so obvious that she's only gotten worse since the last time I watched this video. I was the happiest I had ever been with her and now I feel like I'm a servant, I don't feel desired or appreciated and it hurts so bad. I love this woman so much, she has been the center of my universe since the start, and it's because of that I am left miserable clinging to someone who I can't even tell if they really want me anymore.