What happens when the scapegoat grows up and leaves

What happens when the scapegoat child in a narcissistic family grows up and leaves? This woman left her narcissistic family and he toxic dad had to find another scapegoat to take her place.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[carolinelaronda]

🙋🏼‍♀️ adult scapegoat here. One thing I’ve also realized is that when I enter into a relationship, I find myself in the role of the scapegoat within an unhealthy family dynamic and naturally becoming scapegoated by others . It’s crazy how we fall into these roles even in other peoples families. I now understand why I’ve been attracting narcissist for so long, but pay attention to this. Once you’ve come to understand how it works and healed a little, you can almost laugh at it because it’s so absurd to think you could be blamed for things that have happened in a family that you just stepped into when they’ve been having problems they created for decades . it’s beyond ridiculous. Start understanding who you are and strengthen your boundaries and these people have no power over you. They can try to scapegoat all they want, but it’s really not effective if your boundaries are secure.

[AngelsHikari]

I actually felt relief as a scapegoat walking out, because when I left all the narcissists attacked each other and all their friends saw what I said. All the narcissistic family members begged me to return and I was like why, you hate me, anyway, you should be relieved. Gladly changed my number. ✌🏽
I don't think they really know that the scapegoat does help them regulate. I honestly feel like they're oblivious to it.

[tab]

Ahhh....I didn't see it that way. Makes sense how everyone is blind to their ways and a reason why they don't attack others, cuz they are busy attacking "you"

[SarahSmith-dfny]

Went from golden child to scape goat when my brother (original scape goat) left. What a wild ride. I apologize to him EVERY TIME we talk.

[nightbrite]

No wonder my mom favors my sister and when I had to come back after leaving they blamed me. Makes sense. Now I know it’s not my job to emotionally regulate anyone anymore:)

[bridgettetraveler]

Thank u for explaining this chaos of narcissistic family members!!!

[knatural]

One of my family members would always come to me to talk bad about the rest of the family members that are doing things they don’t like . I would just listen to what the person is saying, respond back in a way where it do not look like I’m gossiping with the narcissist. The person will run and tell them what I was saying to make it look like it was me that was talking about them .

[Girlwithapurse]

This is such a real thing, thanks for making this video

[awakeningyourspirit]

Oh man, I was blamed for smoking in the house and burning holes in the floor and for calling psychic hotlines. Who knows what else but I sure was in trouble… a lot 😂 on a good note, I never started smoking due to the groundings of the accusation 😂

[Loviethecreative]

Lee, can you talk about when you're the romantic partner and the scapegoat... They kind of bring you into their birth family dynamic to scapegoat you with their parents, siblings, and friends? It's a dynamic I don't see discussed much.

[latashadjefferson]

💯💯💯 I've said this before. I do feel bad for all those left behind in my situation, with my ex-narc. But not too bad, because no one told me, I damn sure ain't going back.😂😂😂 But for real I do feel bad for the kids, their children and innocent. My daughter included because we share 50/50 custody now. They done nothing to no one. I do feel bad for them only. 😢🤨😢🤨😢🤨

[grantaugustyniak]

They need a new host to feed off of - sounds like a creepy ass movie to me 🤷‍♀️

[tamarajacksonpeanut]

I was in a family w the same situation. I had to burn many bridges and stop having anything to do w any of my family. Both my parents r gone..And I got 1 brother w some issues and Im expected to help him now and in the future im the only 1 alive that can help but I don't know if I can live w him or keep him from drugs and the ppl who enable him. Everyone in the family is like y would u help him hes a lost cause..I'm doing what my mom would want me to..

[supriyaingle]

I have often observed my narc mother who have fixed (2/3) people with whom she talk for hours and hours blaming/saying nasty things some chosen 3rd person whose they both known. I found out I was one of the chosen 3rd person by accident. I heard my mother telling another person that I am on the way to become prostitute ( which is absurd- I am medical doctor by training) etc etc. Their whole talking is verbal pleasure tinged with After the talk, she reverts back to her vulnerable sweet self like a switch. One time I told her this much negativity is no good for you (before my situation came to light), she threw tantrum saying don’t try to control me. Nasty talking is like a drug for her.

[A_mV]

Does this apply to romantic relationships with narcissists, as well? When the scapegoat leaves, will they start taking everything out on friends/new supply/anyone available?