Men Do NOT Want An Independent Woman!

[jordanh.]

The flip side is also true. You can chase a relationship and then be left with nothing when the guy abandons you. At least if you have a career you can support yourself.

[mikewizoski]

Just to put things in perspective my ex didn’t want me to be independent and guess what? He left me and I am alone now and struggling more than before I met him. So no independence is important because your partner can leave you, pass away, or become incapacitated from illnesses.

[ramonaearnest]

My sons married independent and educated women! They have mutual respect and friendship! They are high achievers and successful because they are secure in who they are and what they want! God forbid if anything would happen to one of my sons but I know the woman they married can make a mortgage payment and pay the bills and not miss a beat!! I don't think their independence caused them to sacrifice anything! I think independence has given them the freedom to focus on other priorities and not held back by neediness! It really depends on a man's security in who he is! Independence is a trait to admire it's not a weakness! They are a dream team!

[theuniverse]

make sure you are financially independent ladies. being independent doesn't mean you don't want a man it just means you don't want him for the wrong reasons.

[peilin]

I'm glad I was raised by a father who encouraged independence in women. He said as long as you can steady on your own two feet, you have complete freedom to self-actualize yourself. Nothing is free in this life, if you depended your livelihood on someone else, you are giving your power away.

[loveyourself]

Being independent and self sufficient isn't a bad thing. I think you have to date intentionally. Don't partner with a man that sees you being independent as a threat.

[marionwilliams]

Sometimes women are assumed independent just by how they move in life humbly . It’s really sad out here . The woman could be just doing the right thing and her presence alone will intimidate a man .

[Nirobiscloset]

Being alone is saving women's lives. This is sad.

[aprilmarinakes]

Hmm. Let's see...A: travel the world, experience culture, maintain mental peace, and date on my terms OR B: marry, cook, clean, and take care of a grown man...Marriage is not a prize. I'll take A for 500, Alex😂

[_Renee]

Nah, I call bs. I climb corporate ladders and still require a man to be the man in my life, yet some men are intimidated by your success. Calling me “boss” is a passive-aggressive B move and it's quite frankly telling.

[downbad]

Then y'all complain she like a child if she doesn't have some independence

[djuanacarter]

Most independent women look for marriage, not a relationship.

[kristinaharris]

It sounds so sad to hear that a man doesn't want a woman to be independent.

[annewalker]

Bullshit. Be free. Be independent. Set big goals and conquer. Settle down with the man that can celebrate your wins no matter how big. Being weak does not make you feminine. Being successful does not make you masculine. Being independent and successful means you have the power of choice to pick, choose and refuse what and who you will put up with. Having these qualities doesn’t mean that women don’t want a relationship it means that they value there personal growth and happiness more than chasing the attention of a man that wants her to be less than her absolute best self. Shrink for no one!

[Ak_mami]

This still fall into men having a sensitive ego. They don’t want you to be doing better then them because it makes them feel less of a man! Get that business boo and and get that money a real one will support you.

[pelosuelto]

I’ll keep my independence thanks. My soon to be ex husband has always tried to make me feel hopeless about no one wanting me and want to cater to him. I’m tired of it. I need to make a jump and get out, now that I have a career going. Forget the insurance. And he can take care of himself when his surgery comes - he pushed me enough times that I don’t care. He said he can find a more gentle feminine woman who will listen to him. Go ahead. Never again will I be married to a man child.😊

[missmelodyjoy]

This is not true. Never met a man who valued my femininity and I am a highly feminine, traditional woman. Every man I’ve ever met dreams of dating a “woman” who is more like one of this homeboys. She likes to play video games, she’s into cars, she likes sports, she dresses very casually. Meanwhile women like me, who take care of their appearance, know how to be submissive and enjoy fulfilling the traditional female roles like cooking and cleaning, we are taken advantage of until a man finds that tomboy type of woman.

Everyone should be independent, because a lot of men want to just use you and move on to the next. Gotta always have your own safety net and priorities taken care of and a man is there to ADD to that, not control that.

[montessialandrum]

Convenient argument for a man that may not know statistics of rape and abuse. There are multiple reasons and the answer can be more complex than my upcoming explanation, but calm your impatience. The number one reason is safety. Men, families, society, and/or religions either could not provide them, created or pressured women into situations where we could not expect to receive and often did not receive it. Women were told to endure it. Many women did not live to endure. Women who experience harm by the people that were supposed to protect her: teach their sisters, daughters, cousins, nieces, and any woman that will listen: “Have your own money so you can leave when you want.”
It’s only a small jump to go from: “I wasn’t safe” to “He can’t stop me.” It’s only a short walk from “He can’t stop me” to “He can’t entice me” In a few short decades, we went from “He can’t entice me” to where we are now. Stop admonishing women to be feminine and soft and ask Who made it unsafe to be a woman in the first place. Women are still being asked to endure, compromise, negotiate? For a who that might not be safe, might humiliate, betray or manipulate emotion, lie, cheat, or beat. The answer might surprise you. We earn our own money and independence so that we are not OBLIGED to stay where we are not safe, honored, valued, respected and autonomous. Women have equality, have equity, have decision making, and responsibilities in the relationships women choose to maintain. Women will still choose men for relationships and sometimes will choose badly, but with money and independence, we have the opportunity to try to make ourselves safe when no one else will, when the relationship is non viable, deception is present, or abuse is present. Independent women are not the cause, independent women are the response.

[raesully]

I told my father that and he doesn't believe me🤦‍♀️

Education is number one in my family.

[MissAriii]

That’s why those kind of women need a certain kind a man to handle her. There’s men out there that don’t see that as intimidating, they love a woman like that.