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Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, and Meditation

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[GAMEKING]

"If you want your child to be honest with you, you have to stop punishing them for honesty". I feel so validated by that having come to that conclusion with those precise words during my childhood.

[anxav]

*Introduction & Disclaimer:* 00:07:57

*Importance of Professional Diagnosis:* 00:08:22
- Dangers of self-diagnosis and internet information: 00:08:44
- Value of differential diagnosis: 00:09:00
- Importance of understanding problem origin: 00:10:09

*Community Spotlight - Brandon's Video:* 00:12:04
- Importance of sharing stories and AOE healing: 00:17:41
- Accepting suffering and personal growth: 00:18:34
- Dr. K's impact and community support: 00:20:35

*Dr. K's Reflections on Community Impact:* 00:27:12
- Importance of independence and carrying the torch: 00:28:02
- Community health improvements and AOE effect: 00:30:04
- Responsibility to help others: 00:35:31
- Efficiency of helping others vs. self: 00:36:34
- Learning from gaming experiences: 00:39:24

*Announcement - Dr. K's Guide to Trauma:* 00:45:34
- Reasons for creating the guide: 00:46:03
- Addressing trauma's prevalence and impact: 00:47:19
- Trauma as adaptation vs. malfunction: 00:50:13
- Guide's structure and holistic approach: 00:53:44
- Understanding the source code of your body and mind: 01:07:26
- Release date and pricing information: 01:00:05

*Addressing Community Posts on Trauma:*

- *Feeling "Cringe" About Trauma:* 01:01:18
- Understanding memory and learning's role: 01:02:14
- Impact of past relationships on current ones: 01:04:02
- Epigenetic changes and lasting effects: 01:06:42


- *Using Trauma for Attention:* 01:10:36
- Guilt and learned responses to care: 01:12:40
- Parents' role in shaping beliefs about needs: 01:13:45
- Unwiring guilt and seeking therapy: 01:17:40


- *Dark Internal Dialogue:* 01:20:38
- Understanding thought-generating mechanisms: 01:20:50
- Identifying the source and emotional roots: 01:21:47
- Observing and disengaging from thoughts: 01:23:03
- Boredom's role and distraction's impact: 01:25:41


- *Symptoms and PTSD Diagnosis:* 01:27:08
- Exploring various trauma symptoms: 01:27:13
- Differentiating trauma's influence from PTSD: 01:28:34


- *Overuse and Misuse of "Trauma":* 01:38:06
- Addressing the "cult of trauma" phenomenon: 01:38:11
- Importance of nuance and differential diagnosis: 01:43:43
- Recognizing conscious and subconscious manipulation: 01:50:36
- Stability as an antidote to manipulation: 01:55:35
- Understanding the drivers of behavior: 01:57:38
- Consequences of strict parenting and control: 01:58:16


- *Being Unaffected by Trauma:* 02:16:52
- Exploring post-traumatic growth: 02:17:51
- Normality of resilience and healing capacity: 02:19:09
- Introspection and understanding personal motivations: 02:22:02
- Focusing on the present and personal power: 02:26:59
- Active vs. passive challenges and overwhelm: 02:30:50
- Taking control and choosing challenges: 02:32:42
- Recognizing and exercising personal power: 02:39:13

*Closing Remarks and Gratitude:* 02:40:06

*Upcoming Stream Announcement:* 02:42:21

[noellerecoskie]

The idea that "trauma is an adaptation that becomes maladaptive later in life" is such a straight to the point fact. As a child I experienced a few child adverse experiences which caused me to do certain maladaptive behaviours like binge eating, internalizing my emotions, becoming more depressed and anxious, as well as losing motivation.

Dr. K and healthy Gamer GG, thank you so much for helping me understand me and why I have particular thoughts, emotional responses and engage in certain behaviours! I have been able to start my journey of healing through this community, as well as also giving me the courage to continue this healing through therapy

[naid]

this might be one of the most useful HG streams that i’ve ever tuned into no wonder i’m always overwhelmed because I rarely take on challenges that I want to pursue to the point where I don’t even know what it is that I want to do.

[dukmccuck]

32:15 "I'm not messiah" thats something what messiah would say!

[Fecius]

1:45:55 "There is a great question.. how do you spot a chameleon?"

I liked this part a lot since I encountered a lot of these "people" and I think this is something that is really useful to know yet had to be learned by experience.

[JetWave]

I didn't think the trauma module would be relevant for me but seeing the steps and how they relate to each other was like a flash of connecting the dots of my own life. I had already come to conclusions in the past, like how my calm and distant personality in school was an adaptation to not get bullied, tested and validated at the fourth school I started in as the new kid. But it's just a single puzzle piece, one of several steps that has lead me to who I am today. And now as an adult, I've had severe issues with choice paralysis among many other things. Logically, the facts says that the trauma guide is an obvious step for me. But making "traumatized" into a part of my identity is strongly rejected by my ego. Hell no. My instinct is to avoid it. Don't touch it. It's both surreal and fascinating to me how stuck I get on this even writing this comment flashing a light on it with evolving awareness.

[bedazzledmisery]

The video from Brandon was so beautiful. Thank you for putting it out to the world, dude.
Dr. K's reaction was touching to watch.
You really change lives, Dr. K. Thank you. All of you, team. So much thanks.

[lPOTCl]

i live a pretty different life but you have helped me so much over the past year. my favorite thing i learned is Dr.K's mantra "i am, i exist" to help accept my problems and forgive myself. so i dont go down a guilt spiral.

[natalieeuley]

I love Dr. K saying that helping people is the most important thing you can do. I volunteer over 300 hours a year and I absolutely agree. Helping other people a little makes you want to do it more, and more. And you meet other people who want to help. And you find out other organizations to help with through them. Until eventually, your whole life is work, family, and doing what you can to help people. And it's a really wonderful life.

[Kath]

Thank you so much for doing this!!! Thank you all for your hard work I have been searching for comprehensive help like this for a long time❤😂😅 Thank you to the community for being here without all of you I wouldn’t be here. Dr. K is freakin awesome but together I believe we can accomplish a lot. ❤

[kateginger]

So I've been watching dr K for a few years and got the meditation guide. I've been doing yoga almost everyday for just 10 mins and I am trying to make meditation a habit too. I got an anxiety disorder and struggled with panic attacks and since I started watching him and doing all that I've mentioned, mainly because he inspired me to, I've seen 80% percent improvement.
I've also been in a happy relationship for almost 4 years and I've never felt so calm and happy, so thank you for the bottom of my heart.
Also, I got in this relationship after 2.5 years of therapy and medication and 1 year of inconsistent yoga, but back then I only had 30% improvement. Which is still a lot and, but I don't think that the therapists and psychiatrists in my area would even get me were I am now.

[elisle]

Hey, viewer from 4 years here 👋 I can confirm that your videos have been of help. I have been diagnosed with autism recently to my own surprise, however, ADHD has been on the table for my whole life and your tips about having a consistent routine for ADHD have helped me immensely in terms of being disorganised in daily life. The part about gut bacteria has had a lot of impact on life as well. I've been struggling with gut issues my whole life and the one yogurt and veggie soup a day cured a large part of my issues and improved mental health and immunity A LOT, believe it or not

[ShaeMarshallRae]

Wow, Dr K! Like so many others, I’m a huge fan of yours (I’m not a gamer or your target demo so I usually just lurk...) but this spoke to me in so many ways. The SOCIOPATHIC smile is 100% a thing, I’d never thought about this before but, yep. I’ll never forget it. Also, the “black eyes” of anger are a thing, if you’ve seen it you’ll know what it’s like, and it means RUN (I mean I’m talking from experience with one man here but I have read many similar accounts on reddit).

I was with a violent sociopath for almost 8 years (I spent most of those trying to get away), I learnt to become totally neutral over the years (like you recommended, to deal with manipulation) and honestly I feel like this behaviour saved my life because it was the only thing that made him lose interest in me in the end, and since his last prison stint I haven’t heard a word and it is the BEST feeling in the world! I spent years trying to understand what the hell was happening, why was he like that, how could someone be so cruel... I just couldn’t comprehend it... I was reading countless research papers on all kinds of disorders to try and understand what to do to keep myself safe, but being neutral to everything he tried to provoke me with was honestly the only thing that worked. And I only started doing it out of pure exhaustion but when I saw how it changed things it got easier and easier (and almost satisfying tbh). I’m now putting those 8 years of bullsh*t into completing a bachelor of psych and criminology (in my last year now!) and although my trauma response tells me I’m never going to be “wanted” in that industry (because of my experience of victimisation), little by little I’m trying to change that voice in my head - because living through it gives you a whole different understanding... and (along with therapy and a lot of other recovery work) your videos give me these little tidbits of advice that stick in my head and help in the strangest of ways. This one in particular compelled me to comment (instead of lurking in the shadows like a weirdo) because I just want to say I appreciate you and your team and what you guys do so much — THANK YOU!!

[jnaramusic]

Hi, just discovered your video. Just quickly wanted to say thank you for streaming my music "The Mind" @ 21:32 Im glad it supports your video and story. Thanks :)

[maryjahns]

When I was in swimming in high school I had less time but I was more likely to do my homework. Something about having less time forced me to schedule my time better?? Like oh well I only have an hour before dinner so I really gotta get to it. As opposed to: I have plenty of time I can start later.

[thesaddestdude]

"you are the only one who has to live with your choices" It realy hurts that one.
The things that pain me are always deeply personal, and no matter how much you share
Youre always stuck afterwards because no matter how much i talk about my issues
they never disapear.

[Authentistic-ism]

Dr K's authoritarian Midwestern discipline dad voice is my new favorite accent of his.

[tundrafire]

I would definitly agree with the 10% improvement in mental health. Just having the ability to hear and research new understandings is in itself a massive help. Including helping ones mind seemingly become more open to learning, especially in the interviews.

[xXx_Regulus_xXx]

This is probably a weird ADHD takeaway but Alok hating his voice makes me feel a bit better about mine. I know all the stuff about how hearing your voice reverberate inside your own skull makes it sound different and how microphones and audio codecs work and yadda yadda but like Brandon said sometimes you just want to see somebody going through the same thing you are.
Anyway if you're still reading wish me luck with my own AOE Healing work. For me it's more like DPS Healing with an elite raid team and our deeply traumatized friend. The mechanics are tricky but I refuse to let him wipe.