6 Side Effects of Toxic families

Growing up in a dysfunctional family is not always obvious. Similar to symptoms of anxiety and depression, the signs may range from mild to severe, which can go unnoticed in the everyday lives of toxic families.

Types of childhood Abuse:

Script: Catherin H.
Voice Over: Star Martin
Animation: Grace Cárdenas Cano

Intro: Surey Camacho

Project Manager: Erin Bogo
Community Manager: Priscilla Cha, Nicole Pridemore
Producer: Psych2Go

Solar Planet Bracelet:

code: introvert

[thia]

You basically spend your childhood/teen years soaking up all the abuse, and the rest of your life recovering.

[-_--_-]

The hard thing about growing up in a toxic family is that it doesn’t stop within it. You see other families that are happy and “normal”, and deep down you start to feel like you were cheated by life.

[ecijatomee]

That moment when you start to cry because literally everything is true for you

[MrMorsbach]

Also passive aggressive parents, over protective parents and parents that hold their kids down. This is all toxic. Doesn't always have to be aggressive or loud to be toxic.

[theonetrueking]

your family are either your source of strength or loneliness

[nostalgia]

You can't be yourself in my household...or else you'll be judged, manipulated, and looked down upon.

[mirothe_melancholicdreamer]

you...
1. have a fear of being manipulated
2. struggle to develop a self identity
3. have difficulty trusting others
4. have trouble interacting socially
5. have anxiety overload
6. deal with the trauma by going through emotional cutoff or estrangement from your family

[abraham]

The sad part is that you know your parents are NEVER going to change.

[curtistinemiller]

Toxic parents leave scars that take a long time to Heal!

[Nina-vvev]

Cutting off toxic people is healthy.... don’t forget that !

[SatanOfficial]

Just because someone is your family does not make them entitled to your trust. Trust must be earned.

[waffleman]

When your parents actually make you lock up your emotions in your early childhood
But then ask you why you do not show your feelings
Does dat count as toxic parenting
Edit:well this was surprising
As someone being highly sensitive(at least I think)I know that I spit out poison when I talk recently, so I tend to get out of conflicts to avoid offending my parents.It's unhealthy yes, but between making them upset and making them upset, not offending them directly seems to be the safer choice to me

[bunnybecca]

It’s like I can never talk to my parents about anything sensitive without feeling I fucked up. I am always being talked down to and I have little privacy. I have been emotionally distant from my dad since I was 12. It felt easier just to cut him off than to constantly be disappointed.

[AlucardPeach]

Yes to all
And at almost 40, I have never been able to believe anyone who says they love me, because I have never felt like I could be loved.

[HerbertKrab]

My family is unintentionally toxic. And they only seem to affect me not my siblings.

[luckycharm]

When I was a child, my parents never considered my feelings when they continue to fight loudly (and gradually escalating to a more physical fights) in front of me. After their fights( they didn’t manage to fix the cause of their fight every single time), our house entered a ‘silent treatment’ period where they don’t talk or recognize one another.

In my young and impressionable mind, I said to myself that I had to tip toe as to not trigger them anymore than their current aggressive selves. I knew I was the cause of their fight. I knew because they said it. Out loud. Or more like they shouted it.

Gradually, as their fights gets more physical (at one point, their fights included throwing breakable things like cups, electric fans etc to knives and even a gun), I didn’t recognized it at that time but i gradually retreated inside my mind to the point that I can’t escape it ... even today.

Now, I’m still living with one of them. I can’t go outside without wearing one of ‘presentable clothings’ that they chose. I can’t get a job without their approval (they made me quit as they didn’t like my job), I stopped my college education as they made me question my choice of program EVERY SINGLE DAY saying that I won’t get a job because it’s a program for MEN. I don’t have a friend because every time I left the house to see my friend, their body language is screaming of disapproval. I showed visible signs of depression and self harm. I didn’t hide the scars I made in my arm. I don’t know if I’m seeking attention subconsciously but it definitely numbs the pain in my chest and the voices in my head.

At this point in time, I hated the person I saw in the mirror. I decided to change. I cut my long hair short and bought comfortable clothings that ‘looks like a menswear’ according to my parent. I secretly applied for a job and reapplied in another college. All the things they disapproved. I knew this spells big trouble but I really don’t care anymore. In my mind, even getting disowned is better than bottling everything.

After years of not asking how I felt, for the first time in a very long while, my parent asked me while crying “what’s wrong with you? Why don’t you talk to me about what you are thinking? I sacrificed everything for you and this is what you’ll repay me.


*what will other people think if they see you looking like THAT* “

My mind goes blank and my heart goes numb. I told her *this is who I am. This is what makes me happy* (in my mind: this is the first time that I felt good with myself ever since I was a child). I stayed silent and stared in one corner of the room while she keeps crying and crying for five minutes.

I didn’t know what else to say. I couldn’t say a thing. My mind and mouth wouldn’t let me. Every words is like a knife piercing me again and again.

PS.
Sorry I got triggered and my muse wouldn’t let me stop until I finished typing everything

[clashcourse]

I distanced myself from all my relatives successfully and I am going to completely cutoff from my family just like I planned THEN I can start living FINALLY.

[calliea]

i honestly never considered my family to be toxic, but after relating to literally everything in this video, I'm kinda shook.

[meisha]

I recently moved to a different state with my fiancé & it’s honestly been so amazing being away from my family. It feels weird because all of my childhood & teenage years I had to just accept being verbally & emotionally abused because I had nowhere else to go, but now that I’m an adult I feel so much more free. My advice to anyone who’s been waiting for their parents to change or finally start caring for them is to stop waiting for them. As soon as you can just let them go, because you have to do what’s best for YOU & you deserve the freedom to be yourself & be free from any form of abuse!

[BlackHatTy]

When you grow up with parents who made it clear that you weren't wanted, you always feel unwanted.