Ditch the 'Yes Man' Mentality: How to Stop Being a People Pleaser!

You're probably tired of saying 'yes' to everyone else, and 'no' to yourself, right? You've got that nagging feeling that you're too busy bending over backwards for other people and forget to stand up for yourself. If this sounds familiar, well, it seems like you're ready to learn how to stop being a people pleaser. Let's dive right in! But before we do that, remember to hit that subscribe button, share this video with your friends, and drop a comment below. Your support means a lot!

Did you know that research suggests people-pleasing habits are rooted in fear? Yeah, it's crazy right! This study published by Psych Central in 2019 found out that, at the core of people pleasing, there's often a fear of rejection or a fear of failure. Now, let's figure out how we can break away from these fears, shall we?

Step One: Understand your behavior.

This is the foundation, my friends. You have to understand why you're acting the way you are. Are you afraid of conflict, or worried about what others think of you? Maybe you're seeking validation? Keep a journal of your people-pleasing incidents for a week. Write down who you were with, what happened, how you felt, and why you think you acted that way. It's like detective work on yourself.

Step Two: Start saying 'No.'

I know, it sounds easier said than done. But you know, a study by the University of California in 2012 found that the more difficulty you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout, and even depression. So, let's work on that!

How about this? The next time you're asked to do something you don't want to do, take a moment. Pause. Then, let them know you need to check your schedule and you'll get back to them. This gives you time to decide if it's something you want to do or if you're just falling back into the people-pleasing trap.

Step Three: Practice Self-care.

You might think it's all about face masks and bubble baths, but a 2020 study from the International Journal of Qualitative Studies on Health and Well-being explains that self-care is much more. It's about mental, emotional, and physical health. So, spend some time on you. Do things that bring you joy. Prioritize yourself.

Think of it like this. It's like on an airplane when they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others. You're no good to anyone else if you're not taking care of yourself.

And there you have it! Remember, change doesn't happen overnight. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress along the way. So, are you ready to break free from the people-pleasing habit and start pleasing yourself? I think you are!

Before we say goodbye, remember to subscribe, share this video with anyone you think might need it, and don't forget to drop a comment below! How are you planning to break the people-pleasing cycle? We'd love to hear from you! Until next time, take care!