Men: STOP Trying to Make Your Wife Happy #shorts

[DWthaman]

"An empty bucket with holes" that's the perfect description.

[jackreston]

PLEASE TELL THIS TO THE COURTS, POLICE, THERAPISTS AND JUDGES

[joejones]

You are exactly right. Unfortunately you do not offer solutions. My ex wife became unhappy and angry after 20 years of marriage. She filed divorce after year 30. Counselors and therapists had no solutions. They used the word "hopeless". My ex wife destroyed our family and home. She made allegations of abuse, then after the divorce was granted she told me that she didn't want a divorce. It is way too easy for a woman to break up a marriage and win cash and prizes. Our society is doomed.

[dtuitt]

It took me 44 years to realize that no one can make anyone happy or unhappy. It all comes down to how the individual person perceives the interaction, experience, etc. I recommend men to seek out optimistic women over pessimistic women.

[georgemoran]

And here I thought I was alone??? Sorry guys...this really sucks that it took so many of us, so many years of trying to make someone happy, that was never going to be happy with us or themselves. So FN sad

[ernestbuckley]

Please give this woman a security detail. She speaks the truth and we know what happens to those who do that. Be your own happiness. Never ever depend on someone else or something outside yourself to make you happy.

[chrismcdonald]

You can't imagine how attractive it is, a woman who can "actually" take responsibility for herself. May you find the rewards in life that you so justly deserve. Lead on....!

[BringYourPlatoon]

To the lady in the video. Thank you on behalf of all of us men who have tried everything and sacrificed all of ourselves to women that only blamed us and broke us because of their own unhappiness. Thank you for telling us we were always good enough. Thank you for the hope that good women still exist.

[truthfulpatriot]

there’s Nothing a Man can do to make a bitter woman a Better woman🎤

[dankimbrough]

As a man twice left by wives I dearly loved and did my damnedeset to be what was needed for them both. So I thank you for your perspective on this. I pray people are listening to you. Please don't stop sharing your insight. Thank you for hearing me.

[williamj.dovejr.]

One of our biggest fights, she was blaming me for everything, including her unhappiness; I retorted, " I am not responsible for your happiness, you are responsible for your own happiness! " She exploded, but she never said it again. She filed, dated, moved in with someone who gave her ten times the anger and pain she gave me. It was enough that her health took a nosedive after getting her " revenge figure ". She gained it all back and then some...she was so stressed that she went in for a EKG. Today would have been our 22nd anniversary. The kids are almost grown, four years left on CS and then I return to my hometown to retire. It cost me my health and more trying to make her happy. I've retired from relationships... soon I will ride off into the sunset.

[allanjones]

I am going through this as we speak. My wife listed things that she needed, that I constantly offered, but it’s not enough. This is a demonic spirit on this nation!

[HOCWarrior]

This is simply the greatest piece of marriage advice I’ve ever heard in my entire life. There is more truth in these two minutes than all the relationship books ever written. This woman must be protected at all costs.

[bobcantstandzyobitz]

I come home from work and shes sitting on the couch staring at her phone. "I'm bored" She says. "did U sit there all day?" "Well, I exercised a little, but, yeah".
Why can I be content with myself, learning, reading, doing hobbies and she just sits there being unhappy?
I have told her it's not my job to literally entertain her. She needs interests.

[ronlugbill]

Yes! I read every book trying to fix our marriage, did multiple marriage counselors. Finally, someone has this figured out. I had to figure it out for myself. But I thought it was just my wife. It is most every wife. Even people who don't get divorced are miserable in their marriages. One point I would add is that mental health issues are contagious. If you are constantly around a miserable person, they will try to make you miserable too. They will drag you down to their level.

[arieldelacruz]

I literally saved my wife's life twice , now i am nothing to her, i spent 6 years taking care of her during her ovarian cancer recovery now she is cancer free all i get from her is rejection for 12 years

[abraynor]

I completely agree with this. I am a married man, and I have learned a few lessons. One is don't engage and argue with your wife. If she's emotional in that moment, she will push you deeper into an argument. Tell her I am done talking about this. We will talk later when cooler heads prevail. If she continues, say enough. Arguments and fights happen, but you don't engage with someone with an emotional based operating system with logic. The other is never reward bad behavior. If she's being crappy to you, don't reward her. The best thing you do is tell her her behavior is unacceptable. My wife and I are happy, but she is a woman, and I am a man. We won't always get along, but I know if I am not a strong man, she'll lose respect for me. Men want loyalty and respect in a relationship. Women want to be vulnerable and secure. If a spouse's needs aren't being met, it creates conflict. Communication is the only way to have these needs met. Men have to have the balls to say no. Happy wife, happy life is a crock of crap. You have to tell her no. You have to be right. You have to say no. You have to lead. Usually, when a wife isn't happy, it's because she doesn't feel safe with you. She's mad because you didn't say no to her and stand up for yourself. She feels you're being condescending by bribing her. Women don't want to lead. She can't be vulnerable if she's leading the relationship. It's simply this. You don't reward bullies. You stand up to them. Your wife, when she screams at you, is a bully with a ponytail. You tell her enough and go away, she'll do it.

[John-utp]

Amen sister! I can testify from first hand experience. My ex did exactly everything that you described. Many times throughout the relationship, I told her "I don't mind being the icing on your cake of happiness, but I can't be the whole cake". People are responsible for their own happiness. Counseling was useless.

[CiluhStyle]

I always hear this from men but to hear this from an experienced married woman warns my heart with sweet tears. Thank you.

[mrktmsx]

THANK YOU! I just listened to this on loop for 30 minutes. No matter what I do, it’s never enough. I’m so tired. I’ve been married to a miserable person for 30 years. I can’t imagine what life would be like to be married to a happy, optimistic person. It’s too late for me but I hope I can keep my kids from going down my path. But my God how I needed to hear this today!!!