Do This When You Don't Feel Chemistry or a Spark With Him | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

Mat Boggs shares relationship advice for women and what to do when you don't feel chemistry or a spark with him.

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So, what do you do when you've met somebody and they have a long list of great qualities, but they don't ignite that crazy chemistry that you crave and desire?
When they tick all these boxes except for the chemistry box, should you walk away or is there another possibility? That's exactly what we're going to talk about today.
Watch the video to discover the two scenarios that I've seen really work for women in my Manifest Your Man program and how they can work for you!

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Mat Boggs Bio:

As a sought-after dating and relationship coach for women and international speaker, Mat Boggs has helped thousands of women understand men, improve their relationships, and attract the relationship they want.

As the best-selling author of Project Everlasting, and creator of Cracking The Man Code, Mat Boggs? dating and relationship advice has been featured on national media including The Today Show, CNN, Headline News, Oprah and Friends, and many more.

Mat's Mission: To increase love in the world, one heart at a time.

As a dating coach for women, Mat believes that your history does not determine your destiny, and that you are more powerful than any circumstance you are facing. The relationship dream in your heart really can become the life you love living!

Mat Boggs highly acclaimed relationship programs have served women around the world in all age groups.

Directed and Editing By: Luke Dejoras
Written By: Mathew Boggs

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[khloeknievel]

Just a reminder to anyone who needs to hear it: you should never feel obligated to go out with someone. Dating should be fun. If you feel like you're forcing yourself to spend time with them, you shouldn't be doing it. Chemistry can grow over time but sometimes it's just not there and it never will be. I think some people watch videos like this and come away with the idea that they are monsters for having preferences about who they date. Remember, eventually this will be someone you'll see every day for the rest of your life. You're allowed to be selective and pass on anyone who just isn't doing it for you.

[dishappywithlife]

I went on a date with a guy yesterday, we talked for hours- it just flowed. There was no crazy sparks at all, but I felt we had enough in common we could see if chemistry could happen. So today he wrote saying he didn’t feel chemistry, nor did I, but I feel one has to go on a few dates to see if something awakens. I have to agree with other comments; our society has “instant” gratification syndrome, and if things don’t happen instantly people won’t try. Real connection is based on friendship and chemistry is built slowly like a fine wine - ❤

[chayliegibb]

People have veered away from letting relationships and intimacy build over time. I’m not sure if the issue is social media and instant gratification but this is a good reminder that great things take time! ❤️

[VeronicaStories]

My current boyfriend came about just like this. We had so much in common on our first date and talked for an hour before we even ordered food. It was a wonderful date and I knew I wanted a second one even though he wasn’t exactly what I wanted physically in a man. We had a second date at his house and talked again for hours and it was a lovely time but our kiss outside my car was just awful; closed- lipped and we bumped noses lol. I texted him that I wanted to give kissing a second try and he definitely agreed. As soon as I got to his house on our third date I went in for a kiss and it was the best 45 minute Makeout session I’ve ever had. The chemistry just started to build from there and I couldn’t be more in love than I am now. It’s been three months and I feel like I’ve found the one. It’s really the best. Thank you for your content; I love it!

[aaaxthelm]

I have experienced this build up of chemistry over time with my current boyfriend. For me the key was to realize I deserved someone as kind and courteous as he was Also I had to believe in myself that I was a loving woman and could handle a mature stable and committed lover It’s a first for me.

[nevisuristio]

As simple as just giving a chance for chemistry to grow, sometimes we get caught up in our own ‘types’ and not letting others who aren’t matched our ‘types’ to come and prove their values, we put the spark on the pedestal, as if it’s the only guidance for us to find a compatible partner. In fact it’s sometimes misleading.

[sunshinedayz]

There were these 2 men that I knew. Met them both at the same time. The 1st guy was taller, confident and great smile and energy. I felt an instant attraction . As time progressed, he appeared to be more and more self centered and more and more less attractive.
The 2nd man was calm and funny and consistently interactive in a fun way. He showed care and concern and warmth. My attraction really grew. It grew so much that to this day I still think about him and hope to find someone of that caliber and quality in the future.

[audraoliver]

My husband died 2 yrs ago from kidney cancer. No chemistry when we met. As we had breaks together at work, it took awhile for chemistry to build. I never expected this unexpected. I miss him terribly. He was the nicest guy I ever met and was a great man. It's a surprise when realizing what happened.

[rcsp]

I was with my partner for over 10 years and he was a great guy! The best, really, but there was never any chemistry. Not in the beginning and not at the end. He passed away a couple of years ago and there were two types of grieving for me; his passing and the giant void it left in my life, and secondly I had to grieve the loss of 10 years with a partner that was devoid of chemistry and physical intimacy, and the immense amount of loneliness that brought into my life. Which, quite honestly, I didn’t even pay much attention to until after his passing. Perhaps some women can “grow” into chemistry. That simply wasn’t the case for me and, to date, never has been.

[lathiemckinney]

This is good. I had this experience. He wouldn't go away. His persistent text and attention eventually softened my heart.

[deliapasqualini]

I don't know if I am the only one here, but chemistry is something immediate to me. Even if a man has great qualities but I don't feel any sexual attraction to him, I won't give him any chance. When I did, it was a total torture to me. I guess you can sense instantly if you like a man or not

[void________]

Give it 6 dates. Chemistry builds. Do not tell them you don't have chemistry.

[SASSY]

After watching Married at First Sight, I remember someone saying “people don’t fall in love, they grow in love”
I recently met someone on a dating app and we texted for a month and realized how much we had in common and both gave each other the respect to respond daily to one another.
When we finally met (when our busy schedules allowed), it was very comfortable because I felt like I knew him, although it was a bit strange to now put a real life person and a voice to what I may have imaged.
We’ve now met 3x and I can say we’re friends? (No butterflies and maybe not my usual type- but I KNOW he can be good for me. But I actually communicated to him tonight ( before seeing this video), that I don’t feel a spark but I’m scared to get more vulnerable.
The last bit of this video, is me. I’m already anticipating the failure and feeling like I wasted his time or hurt him. But I communicated my feelings and even though he thinks I should be feeling a spark by now, we have plans to see each other this weekend and spend some more time together in person. We haven’t been physical at all yet so perhaps a little physical touch will ignite this friendship. TBD. Being vulnerable is scary 😅

[Joy-mmcz]

I would definitely agree with this message Mat. I met my ex and had amazing chemistry right off the bat. Unfortunately, that’s all we had. Got divorced after spending over 28 years with him. Met someone whom is a great friend and has all of the qualities I’m looking for. I choose to develop the friendship and after 2 years see if any chemistry was there. The chemistry did come. It’s one of the healthiest relationships I’ve ever had.

[lauriepeifer]

I waited 7 years hoping I'd feel chemistry and physical attraction. I most certainly loved him but I'm sorry, if it's not there you can't make it magically happen by waiting it out.

[angelmd]

For me it's all about how the man treats me. My husband is on the heavy side but I respect him, his ways and his time and he respects me, is kind and helps me when I need it. Because let's face it beauty fades but love is eternal. Thanks for a great video and God bless!

[xantipa]

I always fall in love over time, when I get to know a person. But of course there has to be some kind of connection in the beginning, not that it could happen with just anyone. 😋

[prencessmccormick]

My favorite type of guy being in RESPECT not in love

[jartotable]

I gotta be honest I've been married to a man that I wasn't completely in love. Chemistry never came. We just got in the friend zone quite quickly after marriage. I'm. Never going to date a guy who grows on my like fungus. Would prefer that spark.

[RndmMcRndmnss]

There is a difference between not being attracted to looks and not feeling chemistry or a spark. Depending on the person, not being attracted to looks can be too big a hurdle to overcome. That's what people need advice on: how to build attraction when they're not attractive enough for the person to decide whether they want to be friends or date. Telling them you don't know if you like them is fine & dandy, but what do you do to find out? The answer isn't kissing. Some people don't just kiss someone they don't find attractive enough to find out if they like them like that. Ew