My Friend Cheated on Her Husband (How Do I Still Support Her?)

My Friend Cheated on Her Husband (How Do I Still Support Her?)

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[crystalnelson]

Not only did she cheat, she is actively choosing to keep what she did from her husband. This isn't a momentary betrayal but a continued one. Disgusting.

[ModernSouthernBelle]

A person who can betray their spouse is a very dangerous person. If they will lie and deceive the person they sleep next to every single night…why on Earth would friends think they’re safe with this person? Run. Bad company corrupts good character.

[livelife]

I had a "friend" who cheated on her bf and from that experience i realize that is not someone you ever want to associate yourself with

[mimimonster]

Having been cheated on and TONS OF PEOPLE KNEW AND DIDN’T TELL ME - It was humiliating. It is humiliating knowing I went to dinner and hung out with with people who knew. It was over a decade ago and I’ll never forget it. Drop this girl as a friend and I honestly think your husband should tell her husband. He deserves the truth and a real friend wouldn’t let someone waste their life away under these circumstances. You probably cant say that as a therapist but as someone who was cheated on and everyone knew and no one told me … HE WOULD WANT TO KNOW. If you care about him, y’all do the right thing here. Screw your friend, she’s not a good person.

[Gabster]

My dad is friends with a man who cheated on his wife while she was battling breast cancer. They later divorced and he married the lady he cheated with. Then that marriage ended in divorce, too. My dad tells me this story to me so I don't make mistakes like his friend did.

[kathleensmith]

One of my friends cheated on her husband with his best friend. I left the friendship. He was a great guy and didn't deserve it. If she is willing to treat the most important person in her life this way, then why would I trust her to be a decent friend.

[amiblack]

Years ago, my best friend cheated on her husband with a married man she worked with. I mistakenly thought my role as her best friend was to support her (I was in my early 20s and didnt know better). I watched as she wrecked her home and destroyed her husband/family, knowing what she was doing was wrong. Two marriages were destroyed because of her selfish, immature actions and as much as I wanted to tell her that truth, I didnt because I thought I was supposed to support her; thats what friends did (especially best friends), right?? WRONG. It happened 25 years ago and to this day I want to tell her ex husband how sorry I am for SUPPORTING her in doing something I knew was wrong and that hurt him/his family so badly. I will always regret supporting evil instead of calling it out as I should have because it might have prevented destroying 4 people who were entirely innocent in that scenario. Big surprise-that best friend was a narcissist who only cared about herself and once I saw her for what she was, I left her in the dust. Oh, so did the piece of crap she cheated with AFTER he cheated on her. Lesson learned: Do the RIGHT THING; dont support what you know is evil/wrong.

[AstroMedia]

My ex was caught in infidelity and I realized later that her friends and family had helped her hide it for months on end. Absolutely zero character on her side of the aisle. On top of it all, they blamed me for the affair, told me I was wrong to divorce her over it and then threatened me and my family with violence and murder when I went through with it. The upside is that it gave me all the justification I needed to completely sever any ties which might have been left between me and her side.

[kcourtney]

A friend that co-signs your actions isn't necessarily a "supportive friend", the friend that tells the truth isn't necessairly a "hater"

[ericah.]

Its not just the cheating which is harmful enough by itself, its the way her "friend" has humiliated her husband by telling these details to everyone but him and the way she parades him around on double dates to make him look crazy. Plus, she is demanding that others lie for her. That "friend" is manipulative. You can hear the anxiety in this callers voice. She thinks that she has to be the one to fix her friend's marriage.

[sidehustlevikki]

Saving this video! I’m constantly loosing friends bc this is how I respond to ppl after I find out that they are ok with doing things that are shady or goes against my morals. Seems like most ppl think you back your friends up regardless of what they do and personally I can’t commit to being that kind of person. People are quick to say your judging them but in my head I’ve really just lost trust in that person. If your willing to lie steal or cheat to get your way and don’t see anything wrong with it then it’s only a matter of time before you do the same to me bc that is just a part of who you are. Going forward I think I need to change how I respond. Not making it about what they did but more so I don’t want to continue that friendship bc it makes me uncomfortable.

[weirdnomad]

How do people not see that someone who doesn't feel bad about cheating on their spouse also won't feel bad betraying you either.?

[meomy]

Cheating is NOT a mistake; it is a choice to lie and to hurt others.

[STAMPEDECU]

Several years ago I was on a mission to grow and repair my relationship with my brother. Growing up he wasn't around much because he had other interest but as he got older he expressed an interest in being closer. I obviously obliged because I wanted that as well. Everything was great. We hung out, grabbed food together, had long discussions but it all came to a head when I witnessed him cheating on his wife. I went to his home one afternoon to spend some time, he said he wanted to go out he hugged and kissed his wife and son then we left. Not 30-40 minutes later we arrive at some woman's home where he proceeds to kiss her neck and rub her butt then let her know that he'd be back later. All this while his younger brother is in the car with his son calling his phone. I said all that to say that you do not have to enable someone's actions no matter who they might be to you. I went on to not invite him to my wedding because if he is that carless with his own wife and family how can I possibly trust him around mine?

[robertm.]

She needs to confront her and hold her accountable. Her friend needs to hear it, even if it is a fight. Saying nothing enables terrible behavior to continue

[veracityhunter]

I have a close friend who cheated on her husband. Not excusing her behavior by any means, but she did it in retaliation to his abuse. She took all the right steps before and just got desperate and lonely. I held her accountable. I told her what she already knew; that she needed help, and get out of her marriage. She proceeded to get the divorce, and go to see a therapist and read some self-help books. She does show remorse for what she did, and now has a better understanding of herself and her relationship patterns. Reason why she and I are still friends, is because of how she handled the consequences of her actions.

[kareenodum]

I told my friend about talking to someone that I had no business talking with. She loved me enough to tell me I was being selfish. In her love I heard that and stopped talk to them and told my husband. It took awhile to gain his trusted back but I sure am thankful for her loving friendship and her honesty and not going along with what I was doing. ❤

[michaelallen]

If this caller' friend's husband was the one cheating, would she inform the friend?

Make the application, child.

[lifeaccordingtotheo]

Stay away from her, she will go after your husband next 🎉
You are the company you keep

[vjs]

Sad. The woman has no integrity. No morals. Drop that friend. You could become like her if you don't.