How to MOVE ON when your ex was a GOOD person | Moving on from an ex you think HIGHLY of!

How to MOVE ON when your ex was a GOOD person | Moving on from an ex you think HIGHLY of!

Moving on from an ex who was toxic is one thing, but moving on from an ex you think highly of is an entirely difference experience. Knowing how to move on when your ex is a good person is tricky, because it’s incredibly difficult to grieve the loss of someone who we think is an incredible human. Therefore, if you’re wondering how to move on from an ex you think highly of and aren’t sure what how to let go when your ex was actually a good person (as opposed to total jerk), then watch this video! I discuss moving on from an ex you admire and how to deal when your ex was a good person. A key element of moving on from an you still love and admire involves simply ALLOWING yourself to love them instead of trying to inhibit your emotions towards them. Moving on from an ex you are still attracted to is entirely possible, as it’s absolutely okay to allow them to occupy a special place in our hearts, even after the relationship with them is over.

I'm Ash Nord, your truth-bombing fairy godmother for everything love, dating and relationships. With so many idealistic, romanticised Hollywood messages about love out there, my mission is to be an honest, unfiltered source of information for individuals and couples seeking honest relationship advice and love lessons. No games, no manipulation tactics, no teachings about how to trick someone into liking you… so, if that’s what you’re looking for, I’m probably not your girl. My content is geared towards those wanting to learn more about REAL intimacy and togetherness with their partners or future partners. I have a psychological focus (I'm a psychology student) and a genuine passion for understanding how humans relate to and connect with one another. If you're into that type of thing, or would simply like to hear personal stories about my own life experiences and romantic relationships, then stick around! I got you.

DISCLAIMER: Please note everything stated in this video and all videos on my channel are purely my personal opinions and are for entertainment purposes only. I am not a qualified professional and as such my opinions should not be taken as psychological advice.

[PearlEphraim]

I I needed this. I can't hate him... he was my bestfriend... I struggle becuase I don't hate him. He was amazing

[dianalira]

Whewww, you did the work of 3+ therapists never could for me with this topic. People are always like “don’t put them on a pedestal” - like I’m not they were genuinely good people.

[outroseok]

it's hard not to completely blame myself for the breakup bc he was honestly great, my anxious attachment and trust issues is what inevitably pushed him away. It was a short term relationship so we never really got to completely get to know everything about each other, sadly it ended before we got to that stage so all I'm left with are good memories.

[PaulMcMinotaur]

The love that you’re talking about is called “unconditional love”, and it’s a beautiful thing to feel. But you can never give that in a romantic relationship, because romantic relationships are built around conditions. But once those conditions have been broken, and there’s no more possessiveness or expectations... that’s when the opportunity for unconditional love truly begins.

[sepehr_moghani]

I’m not a garbage person but I didn’t know how to behave in a relationship correctly. Didn’t know how to pay attention to little things and over time she just got fed up and created a monster of me in her mind and eventually broke up. She moved on quicker because she believed I was a bad person and she deserves more but I didn’t because she was genuinely a nice person. Now I’m aware of the mistakes and I’m trying to change, but it’s too late.

[Speedy-lcnz]

" If they are not choosing you in return then they are the wrong good person for you" Great piece of info. Thank you. I miss my Ex girlfriend so so much.
I just can't stop thinking of her with someone else. Hurts so much. 🙁

[CapitanTavish]

I do this: I take all the emotions I feel for my “good ex”, remove them front the active part of my mind and metaphorically put them into a sphere and put it aside. That sphere will glow, it will illuminate your life, but those emotions won’t affect your active life, because you know there is no point to let them loose, you can’t nurture them, you can’t suppress them either, so you put them in a state of archive. Doing this you allow yourself to meet new people and build more emotions and feelings free from your past. When the time is past, a layer of dust will have settle on the sphere, and that emotions will have less and less grip on you, without you ever suppressed them, but just accepted them. You accepted the truth, those emotions cannot be suppressed neither changed neither nurtured, the only way is archiving.

[ravinadhaliwal]

Yes! This is never talked about. I’m so glad you made this video.

[erinashlee]

This resonates with me so much. I dated my partner for over three years but ended things because my mental health took a turn and didn’t know how to feel about anything anymore. He was so amazing and sweet did everything to help me and was so understanding and never was mad at me for how I felt. He was understanding and my best friend we did everything together. We are been separated for awhile and I still don’t know how I feel but he’s seeing someone else who is very pretty and makes me feel insecure but he still cares for me so much it’s just so hard💜

[Lina_]

I broke up with my ex two days ago. He really was a wonderful person. Caring, supporting, respectful, loving, treating me like a princess. But eventually it just didnt work out. There were so many little things that bothered me in this relationship. No mistakes of his, nothing he did wrong, we just didn't really fit together. It's really hard moving on from this now and I sometimes am so close to texting him or thinking I want him back. Letting go of him was also letting go of a best friend and eventually that hurts a lot. Tbh he probably would've never broken up with me, I know he pictured a future together but I just wasn't ready for it. I feel so bad for dumping and hurting him but he's a great person, I'm sure he's gonna be fine and eventually find someone who fits better to him. He still means a lot to me

[egidijad.]

“The wrong, good person to you” 😢😢😢thank you for that!

[GwenMotoGirl]

Wow, this is exactly what I needed. I loved my good guy ex deeply, and I still do love him. He’s a quality man. We broke up 13 months ago. I’ve done therapy (was told to just get over it), I’ve read books, I’ve leaned on friends, I’ve prayed, I’ve searched online for support. There is little to no information in support of my situation because almost everything is about dodging a bullet, getting away from a narcissist or abuser, or escaping a controller, etc. I’ve pushed down and questioned my feelings of love for him, and this clearly doesn’t work for me. I found your channel yesterday, and I’m glad I subscribed. Thank you so much. I appreciate you.

[AnitaKinkaid]

This is a concept my therapist has been trying to tell me, but I refused to listen. I felt like still being in love with my ex boyfriend, who was genuinely a good person, meant that I would never move on. I was so hard on myself. I felt vulnerable and pathetic.

Both you and my therapist are making me consider the it’s actually the other way around: if I keep fighting it it will keep me from moving forward. The idea that your heart will expand to take in more love without sacrificing any other kind of love before was beautiful. I hope one day I can find that peace you describe and live the rest of my life with such equanimity.

[Rajdeep_Desai_]

6:09 - Because it isn't going to be reciprocated anymore. And when that happens, it constantly reminds you that you're no longer in the same relationship with them as before.

Which makes you just move back and forth in the loop of grief.

[melarie]

my ex is literally my dream boy. i swear no boy made me feel like he did. he was just like me, he didn’t smoke or party, he was loyal, always at the gym and he loved to communicate and was so patient with me, he didn’t mind when i acted a lil crazy cuz he was the same way. and he looked flawless, i genuinely didn’t find any guy as attractive as i found him when i met him. but i had to end it for personal reasons and that was the hardest thing i’ve ever done, walking away from something i wanted my whole life. the pain is indescribable i miss everything about him. no guy i talk to compares to him in looks or personality, and i’m scared cuz i know i’ll never find someone as perfect as him because he was my definition of perfect. and if i see him with another girl who treats him good like i did i’ll lose my mind, i want to be his forever girl, who motivates him and keeps him going. i just wanna love him with all i got but deep down i know its not possible. but i’m not ready for change yet, my heart is so attached to that boy:/ this is the worst feeling ever.

[abstract-thoughts]

This is exactly what I needed! She is a genuinely a good person and we were both happy, but I had to let go since we wouldn't be compatible long term. Any video on dumper's guilt? That's how I feel.

[meganxotchilt]

Wow. Literally started crying about this right now…so needed.

[fatal_laughter]

Thank you for walking us through this messy process of healing. My ex was a great person but wasnt invested in the relationship anymore and would rather be by themself. I on the other hand was very invested in the relationship and wanted to spend more time together.

[fnsjoxu]

This is exactly how I’m feeling. My ex is a husband material and I genuinely thought he was the one. When we had our breakup discussion, he confessed that he felt the same initially. The feeling of ‘I messed up’ sucks. It’s been 3 months and he’s moving back to his home country(I relocated to where we met to give us a go). It feels like another breakup moment. We used to be really good friends. Knowing that we will never be the same and all the plans we once had were no longer there is truly heart-breaking. I don’t know how I’m going to go forward…

[AlAsh]

I started watching you when I was struggling with a break up from a good person. I’m now in a lot better place but continue to watch your videos. This is so refreshing and your such a likeable person who makes so much sense! Keep up the good work!!!