Re-Parenting - Part 40 - Relationships - Part 6 - The Process of Conflict

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The goal of conflict should not be to win but to understand; and hopefully then, to resolve. This talk gives practical tools for processing conflict; and give a practical approach for processing 5 of the 7 most common, and hottest, conflict topics.

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[Cassie-ptmt]

In my family, conflict was always about finding fault and winning. It had zero to do with coming to any kind of mutual agreement or solving problems.

It was always a competition. And those you started the fights (Dad and his Golden Child) played to win.

[edinacsaki]

Thank you! 😊 you shine some truth on lies I believed

[msgirl]

Treating me like I matter...

I'm not asking for that

Having to be asked to be treated like I matter all week is definitely a deal breaker

[annasmolla]

So powerful!!!! Thanks Tim Fletcher . I am a witness of this reality.

[munimuni]

Wonderful and wise words, you are an Angel talking to us. I really feel God talks to me, when I hear you.❤

[DonTwanX]

Thank you for adding the part about not being able to heal a relationship with someone who will not recognize their part. I have had to abandon many relationships since I became trauma aware. The old me let everyone walk all over me because I was afraid of being “bad”. I was the bad kid growing up, the black sheep scapegoat, the only boy in a house of females. No grandparents. No dad. No safe people to talk about guys stuff. No males to model masculine behavior or decode the mysterious behaviors of females. It’s been super hard. On top of that I was a gifted child, didn’t have to study until college and graduated top 10 in my class. No one taught me how to study. Mom just bragged about her smart kid. But then I hit puberty and rebelled. I still valued academic performance, but I started to prioritize using substances and chasing women. I got sober in my senior year of high school. I was starting to go down hill and went to rehab.

I have been trying to get healthy but it’s a slow walk down a long path. My fellow survivors, be good to yourselves today!

[tarothijadevenus]

Thank you Gentleman. Really appreciate it from South America, Chile 🇨🇱 ❤

[emusic]

Under the 25 conflicts list, you accidentally skipped Finances. I'd like to hear you talk on finances, please.

[katebueno]

According to you this is mot my business when i was tgere !! But its the business of some woman i never met in my life tgat everyone here knows talked about what had happened as if i did !! When this woman stile my information and rob me !! Be ause she was mad her stakker bany dady eas not stalking her !!!

[Thatsbannanas-dc]

If I can figure this trigger out, I’ll be a much healthier gal.

[katebueno]

Every one get out of my phone !!! And you eant me to mind my business on my own life why dont you come and try to make me ;!!!! The rrst of you been telling you he needs to cone on a court date and time !!!! In court the judge is not going to tell me to mind my own business and have people who werent there and i never met tell what happened !!!