How I Started Over After He Walked Out - Divorce After 60

You wanted to know how to feel good again...so I wanted to share details of the end of my marriage and how I started over...and how I continue to reinvent my life at 67. ...Getting a job, setting goals, and understanding how my life could have mirrored my Mothers. How sad she was. I know a lot of you are in this situation right now, so I hope this will be of some help. You ask so much about positive thinking and how to achieve this after a terrible heartbreak. You ask, will I ever be the same after a breakup up a loss of a spouse...

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“I know that's what people say-- you'll get over it. I'd say it, too. But I know it's not true. Oh, you'll be happy again, never fear. But you won't forget. Every time you fall in love it will be because something in the man reminds you of him.”
― Betty Smith, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn

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The highway's jammed with broken heroes
On a last chance power drive
Everybody's out on the run tonight
But there's no place left to hide
Together, Wendy, we can live with the sadness
I'll love you with all the madness in my soul
Oh, someday, girl, I don't know when
We're gonna get to that place
Where we really wanna go and we'll walk in the sun
But 'til then, tramps like us
Baby, we were born to run
tramps like us
...Baby, we were born to run

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[shoppingnana]

I used to say it could have been worse. It got me through a lot of bad times. Then, 4 years ago, the worse actually happened; I lost my daughter, my only child, to cancer. Now I say. I got through (if that's possible) the worst thing that could happen.
Now, at age 65, I help to raise her daughters (16 and 18) because their dad could not get through the worst thing that happened to him. I help my granddaughters learn to grow up to be strong, independent women. That is my gift to my daughter.
I try to keep my old sense of humor that my daughter loved so much. I continued to work every day until I retired, 5 months ago (that was hard).
So, my "starting over" was learning how to live without my daughter. I had to struggle with questions like "am I still a mom if I no longer have a child" and what it will it be like to never hear someone say, "hey mom" ever again. I had to learn to listen attentively to my friends talk about their adult children and not be angry or jealous that they are still moms.
Now, my "things could be worse" affirmations are: thank God for my beautiful granddaughters; they give me a reason to live and be happy again.
I guess we all start over in our own way after various events and phases of our lives.
Love your videos; they always make me think and smile.
Thank you!

[Ordered_Steps]

At 65 starting over yet again. God help me. I am thankful for my health, my job, my income, my car and my new 2 bedroom apartment overlooking the city. Thank you God, my help comes from the Lord.

[mairikarlovits]

Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path

[lucydaisyandme]

Divorced at 61 and started completely over.
Scared as hell but new I did the best thing for me.
I’m free from the hell the narcissist put me through.
Happy, healthy and doing very well.

[alinacash]

Just finished my divorce and it is such a peaceful time. No one yelling at me, no one hurting me, and yet life is scary. I am trying to be better.

[helengaliano]

Hello! My husband left me after 43 years of marriage. It was very hard for me I cried all the time! My two daughters helped me through it! I prayed a lot too! It’s been 3 years now and I thank God every day. I have so much peace in my life now and I am truly blessed! God bless you !

[MaryPalen-os]

Trying to start over myself. He & I were together 34 years, that was 10 years ago. He is remarried to his lover and I am still lost and alone. This year I am going to live a wonderful life and find my joy and happiness again.

[annabeltemple]

I'm just about to turn 50. Last year, after a violent incident, and losing our family home, I left my marriage of 16 years, with my 16 y/o daughter. We left with only the clothes we stood up in, and my estranged husband being in and out of County jail, facing many pending criminal charges. Thanks to the grace of my many friends (and strangers), I resolved to take my new life day-by-day (moment by moment, if I had to). Things are getting better. We now have our own apartment, that is safe, secure, and fills regularly with sunshine. We both feel beyond blessed. Thank-you for sharing your wisdom and insight. We are all on a journey.

[Stacy-ss]

Two things help me: a short list of good decisions I'd made, like buying my car, and, when I just feel lousy I think of another lousy time-- that I'd gotten past, of course then I can tell myself "you won't always feel this way. All I had to do was replace "divorce " with "life altering illness " for our stories to be so similar. What you've shared translates to every unplanned life change. I know God led me to your channel. At 61 I'm sitting in a physical rehabilitation recovering from multiple illness, including a stroke. Life may never be the same, but I do believe it can be even better. Thanks 🎉

[lindarose]

Thank you for a lovely video as usual. You are an inspiration. l was divorced after 55 years of marriage but not an angry situation. It was fair - l got the house he got the income. We never fought afterwards. Pushing 80 l sold the house, moved to another country l could afford, bought a new place and love the people here and the wonderful expats l have met. Every day is an adventure learning the language and never have been sorry for one minute. It has been 3 years and l am so happy. Needless to say many people were shocked at my action but now want to visit.

[Toni_Snark]

I was 55 at the time of my divorce and it took me about 3 years before I didn't cry at least once a day. One day I realized I hadn't cried at all for a couple of days and now I can't remember the last time I cried. I think that's ok.

[Escapetoasimplerplaceandtime]

My husband left me for a younger woman age 45 after a 25 year marriage. He had been a headteacher but he left me penniless and homeless. I am also blind. God helped me and I discovered that I had some amazing friends. I also discover that some friends weren’t friends at all. One thing that helped me was getting up early and going out - just to say hello. I got a job and rebuilt my life, my job was a huge help. I also learned to go out and eat alone in places where I didn’t feel uncomfortable - this was a big help. The biggest thing that helped me, however, was to accept that my husband wasn’t coming back. Now I am so glad he didn’t! Thank you for your channel. ❤️

[angitee]

I was a month short of my 60th birthday when my ex husband threw me out without a job or savings. I bounced from house to house for 4 months....but now 5 1/2 years later...I have NO REGRETS

[doris]

A line from Shakespeare, I think King Lear, is that when we say things are the worst, they are not. when things are truly the worst, we will not know it! I was left in our countryside home with 2 young children, no car!, by an alcoholic husband. Who also had a girlfriend. I had the support of both sides of the family and a 4 year degree + teaching certification. I was heart broken and my best friend sent me a card that said on the journey, I would emerge on the other side of a bridge- not sure if how I got there, but would never want to go back. It proved so true when I saw things as they really are. I found out how much resolve I had!! Daughters grew up great- they have good mates. One daughter is a chiropractor and other a lawyer. With FIRST QUALITY HEARTS!!

[Katt]

My husband went through some kind of mid life crisis and decided he did not want be married anymore after 26 years. I did not see it coming and was heart broken. I loved him very much. I was also 60. It has been 6 yrs now and I am a stronger, more independent person. Women are survivors and we are more powerful than we think we are.

[CarmellaNYC]

Your husband was a complete and utter schmuk to let go such a lovely lady such as you. I'm confident he will always regret it. I know I don't know you personally but I'm so proud of how you turned your life around. You are truly an inspiration x

[deborahking]

Thank you for the encouragement. I too am over 60. And after 30 years of marriage find myself starting over. It’s good to know that the sun will shine once more in the future.

[annalake]

I am 57, single, live alone and I have never been as content as I am now, being manless is the best thing ever. My whole life revolved around my significant other, I couldn't bear the thought of being alone. I wish I had realized how happy I would be without a man in my life. Ladies most men just drag us down, life is so wonderful without a man. Men don't want romance, women do. Men want variety, women want one good man. These are the facts. Ladies you are worth so much, a man should lift you up. If he doesn't drop him like a bad habit.

[Melissa]

My mom had to start over when my dad left her and it was so hard. I felt so bad for her. She had never worked a day in her life so she was terrified. Thank you for this. I wish my mom could have seen it. Love to you Susan. Melissa

[hellodenise]

I moved 9 times since my divorce 11 years ago. I am so tired of moving and starting over but I am blessed to get to start over and not have to answer to anyone.