12 questions to ask before marriage 💍

0:00 Introduction
0:55 The ruling of marriage
6:43 How to search for a spouse and what are the boundaries
16:17 Seeing the potential spouse
33:30 Question 1 - How do you envision marriage?
34:32 Question 2 - What qualities would you like to see in a spouse?
35:09 Question 3 - What are you family dynamics like?
39:45 Question 4 - How do you spend your free time?
40:20 Question 5 - What are your thoughts on financial arrangement?
44:35 Question 6 - What is your social life like?
44:46 Question 7 - Who are your friends?
44:58 Question 8 - How do you want to raise children?
46:51 Question 9 - What are your future ambitions?
47:03 Question 10 - Do you have any health issues?
48:02 Question 11 - What is your past like?
52:30 Question 12 - What type of a wedding do you want?
53:23 Q&A Session

In this video, we delve into the principles and practices that can help you nurture a strong and fulfilling marriage according to Islamic teachings.

Discover the wisdom behind the importance of compatibility, communication, and mutual respect in Islamic marriages. Explore the role of love, mercy and compassion as foundational elements that create a nurturing environment for both partners. We discuss the significance of shared values, goals, and the pursuit of spiritual growth as essential components of a healthy relationship.

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[BA-fbtz]

Everyone who reads this, please make Dua for me. There is a woman that I find very special and exceptional, to the point that my fear is that I won't be good enough for her. Make Dua that I will be everything she wants and needs in a husband and more InshaAllah

[adilhassan]

Lecture notes 🖊️
🖊️ Steps for getting to know someone for marriage.
🖊️ Marriage is compulsory, when you have the means... All sorts of means. And the fear that you're ganna fall for Haram. Get marry if you're in such condition.
Time transperecy, time, talking, tolerance the five important T's of a marriage
🖊️ Marriage is Recommended, when you do have means all sorts of but you have control your temptations.
🖊️ Marriage is Neutral, when you're finances and temptations are balancrd, not too much
🖊️ Marriage is Disliked, when one doesn't have enough finances, but temptations are so low that they won't be able to satisfy a female
🖊️ Marriage is Forbidden, unable to provide for a family and they are ganna victimize the female. So forbidden.
How to search for a spouse, the limits of searching for a spouse
🖊️ So the one who is serious for marriage, and he know he would talk in Islamic boundaries and within limits with respect, he can talk to the other person that he wants to marry. But the necessary things only.
🖊️ Don't approach marriage if you're not ready, just because you're thinking thr other person ganna go away and you just cling on to it knowing that you're ganna marry like 7 years after ... Don't approach for such marriage.... If you know you can't marry this person, don't play with him or her.

Seeing the potential spouse, what to see in her or him
🖊️ Are you allowed to see her without hijab?
🖊️ You can see only hands and face says majority. But based on evidence prophet saaw said to jabir ... See of her what would entice you to marry her and the scholars say that you can see of her with her Wali permission ( father or brother ) what they'd allow, bit of hairs, a bit of arms, legs or neck or what a father or brother or uncle can see .
🖊️ Take your time in meeting and knowing them... Take your time when you're knowing her or him. But with respect Bi IznIAllah.
🖊️ Ask and research for things that you are looking for in a marriage before you marry, that you want in your spouse, manners! Or being a good friend or beauty or wealth etc. What makes a good husband or wife in your perspective.... Ask and research for it... make a list of things you're looking for inshallah.
🖊️ Look for what you really want, and look for a person who already have what you want in spouse. What is already there, what is already established. Because you might do things for other's and if something happens and they leave that thing because they say we did that only for you

Ways you can find
🖊️ In a respectable manner, within limits, within the line of islam that you know her or him quite well

Matters to keep in mind to find about each other
13 topics of discussion to talk about.
Visit the one you wanna marey in his/her home...
Talk to her in a supervised environment. Like do talk before so that you two become comfortable, the likes and dislikes maybe.
Talk about yourself first
Talk about things... Other things with her, weather etc
What you can ask or talk with your spouse before Marriage, think about them and then decide.
1 Whats marriage life to you...
2 What qualities would you like to see in a spouse.
3 Talk about each other family and culture. Talk about how things goes in each other families. Talk about culture how things goes on in one's family.
4 Living arrangements and family dynamics. Islam does not recommend that a husband would force her wife to live with her family. She would have a home of herself.
5 How you spend your free times... Hobbies... You workout or do you read or you do what.
6 financial arrangements. Managing finances. Agree on finances... No matter your money is mine or your and my money is ours.... Just be agree on these arrangements. Her money is her's, but his money, a part of his earnings or wealth is her's money not all money.
7 Talk about children, talk about numbers, and how to raise them how to educate them and naming them. Who would name the child... So talk about them
8 future Ambitions, your carrier, my carrier,
9 Health issues, that you might have. Islam have made this thing haram. Don't hide it from him or her. Tell someone else to tell them but do tell them
10 The past. If a sin in your past can show in future, talk about it. Like drugs. Or some addictions. Talk about it. With respect of course. Anything that can creeo from the past, talk about it.
11 How would you want a weeding, details of weeding. Talk about details so that it doesn't make a fuss in that critical time.
JazakAllah khair

[sumankhan]

Pray for me May I find righteous spouse who will be best for me.

[bakhtawarnawaz]

I love it when my Muslim brothers sisters tell stories and happenings in the comment section. It just feels like a global community sharing and chit chatting together. Makes me so happy😁😁

[ikemefunaesther]

Questions to ask?

1. How you view marriage life?
2. Qualities you will like to see in a spouse?
3. Each others family dynamics; how you get along with your family, culture, living arrangements
4. How you spend your free time; what are your hubbies, what's cheating when it comes to social media
5. Financial arrangements; combined or separated resources, lending money
6. Social life; introverts, extroverts
7. Children: decisions on educating them, naming them, raising them
8. Future ambition and goals
9. Health issues
10. The past
11. Criminal records
12. How would you want a wedding?

[hannahmhmmd]

الحمد لله الذي بنعمته تتم الصا لحات
I have always refrained from falling into haram relationships because I truly believe that each one of us has already someone Allah has chosen for us. We just have to be patient and hold onto our faith that the person Allah has chosen for us will find us in His destined time.
In my prayers, I always ask Allah to preserve my future husband like how He is preserving me for him. May Allah guide us and grant us sabaar while waiting.
May we all be married to someone who would help us build our eeman stronger. Ameen.

[SabrShukr-rzwm]

This lecture was great, MashaAllah! Please make a full course for youngsters going to get married. May Allah bless you, Ameen.

[NatJreform]

I think such advice should be given in every school, irrespective of race or religion, I wish I had the benefit of such advice when I was young (many years ago) unfortunately I am a product of the 60’s, but Allah makes us strong with every life experience 🙏

[minhahusaini-hawaii]

Marriage is act of worship- Subhan’Allah!

[farah]

ربنا هب لنا من أزواجنا و ذريتنا قرة أعيننا و إجعلنا للمتقين إماما ❤

[yasmin]

Assalamu alaikum just to give some hope insha'Allah. I searched for 10 years, couldnt find a husband. In the lockdown my mum gave me a profile of someone and after meeting 3 times we decided to get married alhamdulillah. We spoke on the phone in between. We are UK born, professionals but we kept family in the loop which is how I knew he was serious. Of course alhamdulillah he was God fearing and respectful towards me. Theres nothing shameful about involving family early on.

[ananasbanaana]

This lecture was so rich and insightful ma sha Allah. Jazakallahu khayran 🤲🏾

[larissarose]

One of the best lectures I’ve heard, masha Allah, I love the way he talks, such a soft spoken May Allah swt grant him the highest rank of jannah ameen, truly a very clear message.
May Allah swt be pleased with him on the day of judgment ameen

[mss]

Mashallah he has such a wide knowledge in so many aspects and his ability to apply Islam in a pure practical way on our day to day life is impressive. Inshallah we will have more such blessed professors.thank you so much, you answered so many of my questions and im sure many of us find many answers in this lecture mashallah without even have to ask our questions.

[aminah]

It’s sad that a lot of brothers don’t fully provide for thier wives

[amirejaha]

I just started praying and I love listening to your lectures.

[AtTaulibah]

Jazakumullah khairun Sheikh. There are also those that convert to Islam for the sake of marriage and not for the pleasure of ALLAH.
I know of a family that married their daughter to a "revert from hindu" soon after they married the husband stopped practicing and became influenced by his family again. They raised their children upon a philosophy and some mix of Islam from wife's extended family.
However this man would refuse for the children to do anything like madressa or fast etc.
Many years later they divorced, Alhamdulillah. The daughter chose to practice Islam fully, Alhamdulillah however she is a single Mother trying to protect her child from the clutches of her father who dots over the grandson who is the only grandchild.
Please keep them in your duas, may Allah facilitate their hijrah and make her son amongst the righteous
Aameen

[RileyRoe]

Amazing ma sha Allah. That final answer is brilliant.

[almak-ALL]

I like very much to listen to the sheikh! MashaAllah, is very good speaker! Many people can benefit from his lectures! 🤲💚🌹

[nurulnadiahazmi]

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