ENNEAGRAM STANCES | Are you in the Aggressive Stance? Dependent Stance? Or the Withdrawn Stance?

What is an Enneagram Stance? The social styles of the nine enneagram types are divided into three stances: aggressive (also know as assertive), dependent (also know as compliant), and withdrawn. Stances refer to the basic stance of each type and how they move in the world.

The Aggressive Stance (Types 3, 7, 8) moves against others and takes action to get their needs met. The dependent Stance (Types 1, 2, 6) moves toward others to meet their needs externally.
The Withdrawing Stance (Types 4, 5, 9) moves away from others by turning inward to find fulfillment.

If you're struggling to find your type, start by asking yourself, "Do I move toward others, with others, or away from others?" This is usually how I start my Discover You Session. Stances are a way of saying, "how do I get what I desire or how do I stand in the world" and can be a really quick way to eliminate 6 of the types. ❤ ❤ ❤

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[enneagramandcoaching]

Hey guys! If you've been struggling to know your type this video can help with that. :)

[jeremeyellis]

0:39 - Overview of Stances
3:20 - Dependent Stance
4:12 - Aggressive Stance
5:04 - Withdrawn Stance
5:54 - Final thoughts

[DC_-]

I have been digging deeper into the Enneagram for the past year and didn't even know about the Stances 👀 LOL. I'm a 3w2 (but I lean into the 4 wing very strongly) and immediately when you said 3's are the Aggressive Stance I resonated with it 😄. I find myself frequently saying something like, "I know this may feel like an aggressive goal but we can do it." I've been told that I'm aggressive but never felt that was true because I care deeply for people and want to see the best in them flourish. Now hearing that my "aggression" is more towards goals and not life/people itself brings a lot of clarity.

[SparklesNJazz]

oof this is accurate. i’m a 4 and i don’t think i’ve starting to develop my “doing” until recently. i’m so in tune with my feelings and so used to overthinking everything that i’m often paralyzed.

[Journey]

Loved your 8 wing energy as well as the brightness and aesthetics of the room. I felt better within 3 seconds into your video😃 . Stances are awesome!

[KatanaKamisama]

Stance seems like a really efficient tool to narrow down the options for a persons core. My top 3 were 5=98%, 8=92%, and 1=89% so I also have 1 of each. But since 5's go to 8 often, and the fact that I definitely default to withdraw, AND my primary wing is 4 which is also withdraw. As stated... I have a uh... high activation energy level. Meaning it takes a lot of motivation to get me to act. Often when I do act, it is to navigate an obstacle (8), or to re-establish my autonomy (1) or safety & security (6, my other wing). So I feel like everything lines up quite accurately, and everything I hear just helps reinforce the accuracy of my initial intuitive leap to land on type 5. I had to watch this vid most of the way through a 2nd time. Lots to unpack here. Enneagram is the multi-layer dip that just keeps giving new flavors and perspectives.

[RandolphTheWhite]

The withdrawn types can be difficult to pin down. On the surface they look very similar. I thought I was a self preservation nine but ended up being a five. I realized this after noticing the disregard I seem to have when pointing out flaws in other people's belief systems, collecting the emotions involved with the activity to process them later. How am I supposed to know the difference; my only reference point is myself. This is why the enneagram is such a great tool. I feel it's unlikely I'd be able to make that kind of observation without access to this tool.

[briellewalker]

As a 5, I can say this is very accurate. Definitely relate to feeling like I do not fit in well, but Im comfortable with that now. Thankfully Ive gotten to the point I can work on my shortcomings and actually move to action. I tend to avoid others while I am working unless I know them well.

[robinorene]

This is so interesting & fascinating- thank you!

[NeerajKumar-qkjt]

Woah, this was probably one of the most useful videos I've come across.

4 - 98%
5 - 96%
9 - 72%

I have always been frustrated that I don't "do". Discovering that it's not my natural tendency, really helps. Thank you

[karissahammond]

Thank you! This helped me. I didn't understand stances. I already knew I was a type four, but I /didn't/ realize that that explained why I tend to already feel like I'm lacking something important when I enter a room full of people. It's also good to realize that this is an internal thing I can work through by being more present, and that it's not actually some big obvious deficiency that everyone in a room can see when they look at me.

[kenyonb]

Haven’t come across the stances thing, thank you for sharing and explaining!

[coconutmilch]

i wish i had started watching your videos sooner -- YOU MAKE A LOT OF SENSE TO ME

[MatthewEaton]

Thank you! This came at a good moment and prodded me into a few actions I have been overthinking.

[mirandas_universe]

I have never heard of the stances before, everything makes so much more sense now!! thank you Hillary❤️

[marywilliams]

It's very interesting. In the beginning, I wasn't sure if I was a 5 or 9. Then I was sure I was a 5. Now I'm torn between self-preservation 4 with a huge 5 wing or a 5 with a strong 4 wing. The stance explains these connection. Thanks. Again very interesting. 😁

[milaalaniva]

Absolutely loved how informative this was. I have used the stances to decide between 2 and 3. I'm dutiful/compliant with a huge 3 wing.

[KxNOxUTA]

Oh yes, things make even more sense now!

[Redberryfarm]

This helps to clarify things and narrow down quite a bit to what my type really is. ( I can relate to most other types except for the 3's and 8's...- no offence to those persons! - which is a very 9 thing to do.) Under stress I withdraw inwards and think... having NO clue what to DO until I thought it through enough, which sounds more like a 5, to me. People and crowds just drain my batteries, which also sounds like a 5... yet the withdrawing isn't over my personal shortcomings... it is just overwhelming, seems very chaotic, and often is too much 'emotions'/feelings and talking things to death going on. (Eee-gads! Get me out of here!!!) Though some persons who are more easy going and not aggressive I can hang out with for days on end. peaceful.)

I DO have an inner critic like a 1 that seems to sit on my shoulder from my childhood teaching of the 'wrath of an angry God' who could never be pleased unless I was perfect... which - bless God -now I recognize from Scripture that was a VERY distorted view of the character of God. (His own 'Self-description' in Exodus 34: 6-7 is Truth... but fearing/respecting Him properly, obeying by faith His way/ rules of His household, and not testing Him is called for... not cowering in fear expecting to get zapped because you weren't one of the very few elect.... sorry to elaborate here on this, but there are a lot of 'other gospels' out there ... doing much damage.... sigh.)

Thanks for this great topic upload. 😍
Could you do a video that goes a bit deeper on each 'stance' instead of a general overview? ( Or would that get into the personal counseling session territory...?)

[KristyKapp]

I'm a 6w5 but I very much relate more to the withdrawn stance than the dependent.