What is YOUR Enneagram Coping Style?

If you’re still confused about your main Enneagram type, find out what your INTERPERSONAL COPING STYLE is! I highly recommend narrowing down your coping personality in order to pinpoint your Enneagram number. Figure out if you’re assertive, withdrawn, or dutiful when you react to stressful situations.

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TIMECODES:
0:00 Introduction
0:38 Overview of 3 Coping Styles
1:33 Assertive Style (Types 3,7,8)
2:55 Dutiful Style (Types 1,2,6)
3:43 Withdrawn Style (Types 4,5,9)
4:39 How To Apply This!

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[barbyoungberg]

So I would quietly put the plant down and walk away but as soon as I'm out the door I would be ranting and carrying on. A 9w8 point of view.

[adrianacusamano]

This was really helpful! I’ve always identified as a 4 and the withdrawn coping method sounds most like me, but when it comes to other people’s needs I’m definitely more assertive. For instance if someone told me I couldn’t buy a plant I would probably just back off to avoid confrontation, but if someone told my best friend she couldn’t buy a plant I wouldn’t back down until she got that plant 😂👌🏼

[despaahana]

A great follow-up to this video would be: How do I deal with my partner's coping style?

[alejandraromera]

It’s so interesting! Im a 4w5 and in will lean on my 3 wing in those circumstances to advocate for myself. But after a few minutes If that didn’t change their mind, I would run away and cry in my car, questioning for the next week if I will ever own a plant again. Ha! Good times...

[francesca.pellegrino]

My first thought was, "Oh, how are you qualified to make that assumption of people? I need YOUR credentials!"

[fckyafeelingz]

Watching this video while watering my monstera. I'm an 8 and I immediately thought, "Who the hell do you think you are!?!" when you described the plant scenario for the assertive type.

[ashleyh]

The tests I've taken have mostly said 2 and 6, but in that situation, I'm 100% the withdrawn style. I'd probably cry, too.

[kathystone]

I have to say, as a 9 and a plant mom and gardener, the plant store analogy was terrible. BUT the rest was completely spot on. Esp the walking in and instantly feeling like I don’t fit in. And I immediately want to find a corner to hide in or a friend to cling to. It really does take so much focus and energy and work. Thank you!

[Calebeqz]

So it's a tie between 4 and 9. Never thought I'd be this close to finding my type!!😃😃

[bridgetilardo]

I'm a 5, and my 8 bf had such a hard time with my withdrawn coping style at first! It's getting better though (more communication from me, more space from him). This is definitely an important thing to understand, especially in the context of a romantic relationship.

[AdrydYT]

Personally, I'm pretty sure if the store owner told me I don't look like someone who can take care of the plant I'd just answer "but I do look like the type of person who's bringing money to you during pandemic time, so get this over with before I decide to take my money somewhere else". I guess that's an alternative type of assertive? Weird, I was sure I was a 5.

[iordanemily]

Yup, we can confirm. We both are Assertive lol. It goes on the line that we will find all the ways possible to prove we are right.

[termitesc.aardwolf]

I'm a 5w6 9w8 4w5 tritype. I'm also very introverted so no shocker there.

[coregurlz]

I really love the way you compare the type with the same example. It much easy to understand. 😊

[Jestloo]

Oof.
I’m a 1w9, feels like a perfect storm of denying my needs to give my time and resources to others to try to “earn their love”, but at the same time not trusting that others will meet my needs.

Eventually I burn out cause no one is meeting my needs (myself included) and then I withdraw deep into my shell for a while to recoup. It’s jarring to some people because I go from totally applying myself to the needs of my friends, to suddenly cutting them off to rest. 😓

[xkurwamacx]

I think for me this kind of scenario depends on if I was able to anticipate the conflict or not.
If blindsided I'd totally shut down and have to remove myself, but if I were able to prepare for it I'd advocate for myself.
When confident, though, I am told that I do take up space in a room very well.. so is this some kind of assertive/withdrawn hybrid? Like 4w3 or 9w8..?

[tracyp]

This is blowing my mind! All the tests I've taken have said 1, 4, 6, or 9. But none of them seem to fit just right. In the plant situation, I would absolutely be assertive!! Going to check those 3 types out now!

[musical_kait]

So I'm not sure if this is just hilarious timing but I'm a type 2 who is also a plant mom to 100+ plants. I'm actually listening to this while I use a Q-tip to get pests off so if the store owner told me that they didn't think I could take care of it I would probably get mad, tell then about my extensive plant knowledge, but then say something snarky about how I'll leave it for someone else who can take better care of it and not give any of my money to your store and tell all my friends of my experience. I don't know that I'd have that reaction to anything else but this got me for some reason 😂

[JaxTracer]

Now im starting to think im Type 1 now lol, its just either between 9 and 2 now, maybe... ima try out those test's, its quite fun.

[sgeist]

This was so great! Could you do a video about how different enneagram types argue? Not necessarily the negative side of that but : who blows up, who shuts down, do we tend to fight more with our wings?
Just a thought. Love your videos!