Should My Abusive Ex and I Get Back Together?

Should My Abusive Ex and I Get Back Together?

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[troyspears]

“I just beat lung cancer, should i start smoking again”

[Radspad]

He has already told her he has no intention of meeting her needs. Her feelings are keeping her in an emotionally abusive relationship.

[ChristianMotivationMedia]

“Make no friendship with an angry man, And with a furious man do not go, Lest you learn his ways And set a snare for your soul.”Proverbs 22:24, 25

[msakeeba]

He’s an emotional abuser and she knows that deep down. She needs to leave him. He’s not willing to give her what she needs. And we only need to be in relationship with people who accept and love and support us fully. We aren’t too much for the right people.

[MichaelJones-rnpq]

If he wasn't committed enough to marry you, he wasn't committed enough to become your child's father. "Well, it's only a piece of paper!" Yeah...well, what's so scary about a piece of paper compared to the challenges of being a parent?

[jungersrules]

Her desperation is palpable. I really feel for people who can't see clearly even after being abused. Loneliness is dangerous. At the core of all the romance scams is lonely people.

[amandawithlov]

Was disappointed John said the relationship was salvageable. Gives the girl validation for her false hope which she doesn’t need. They don’t sound compatible at all. She deserves better for herself.

[kimmiekats]

“Playing family” 🤯 I needed to hear this. Thanks. 👏🏻

[Lianne]

If she stays with him she’s going to be a doormat for him. Encouraging her to go back is wrong. It puts her at a huge disadvantage.

[SarahLarsonwgm]

The trip to California has nothing to do with the baby. A 10 month old will be more inconvenienced than pleased by a trip. It's a pretty shallow excuse to spend time with her. And she totally has her answer if he says he wants to be with her but wont' do anything and everything to be with her.

[emmawilkey]

My ex had to cheat on me 2 times and go over my boundaries so many times before I finally was done with him. Now happily married 3 years to the most amazing man! Who never goes over my boundaries and I trust 100%!

[BaconMountainMan]

She need to just run. There isn't anything good in this relationship.

[wendy]

Love Dr D’s response…as for this gal, you know the Maya Angelou quote…”When someone shows you who they are, believe them” He isn’t interested in giving you what you want. Unless you want a lifetime of resentment from unmet needs, firm up your boundaries and find someone who will, happily. Good luck.

[Sandra-nude]

We tried everything to be together... YOU tried, he just took advantage of that.

[Susq]

"Not a burden the child should have to carry." Exactly why using discernment in relationships and being in a committed marriage before having children is the right thing to do.

[averynmitchell]

1:42 Mama, you are worthy of someone who loves on you with their words like the sun heating up a desert, someone who is going to lift you up with encouragement. No respectful man or human would call you weak during a difficult time, period ❤

[truthseeker]

She wants to be a doormat to this narcissist dude and still sleeps with him when HE's available- and now wants to travel to California for a "Visit" with this guy? Who would be paying for this trip for a relationship "that won't work out". Don't Even Go. Your heart will be broken because he is still the same...but you will be lost- States away from your home. He's not willing to change so don't consider going to see him. If he wants to see his son and be active in his life- he would not be living several states away from him and requesting Her to bring their son to him.

[wread]

Leave him girl!! Find someone who is supportive and loving 🥰

[momohead]

She does not sound like she’s A LOT though. I think the guy is a narcissist. Especially if he watched her cry and did not react or care to comfort her. Him walking out of therapy and cheating on her. It’s too much, I hope she leaves him.

I love Dr. John, but I wonder sometimes how he’s able to give such advice so confidently without having talking to the other side.

[IHateNicolasCage]

Together for 6 years, living together for 4 years. They have a child together. No plans on getting married OR ending the relationship. This is why playing house is not a good strategy, folks.