why narcissists think your tears are fake and manipulative

why narcissists think your tears are fake and manipulative

[Elysion]

Because theirs are. They always think your genuine reactions are fake because they can't comprehend that not everyone is lying and manipulating their partners.

[MourningGullTheLostTribesWoman]

Yet at the same time they purposely push people to the point of tears to feed their disgusting tiny egos.

[Toshineko]

That's because narcissists truly don’t get or care about what it feels like to be in the victim’s shoes. The lack of empathy shows their lack of insight and understanding.

[Risa-iinl]

Gotta love Lee, his explanation is dead on, much respect

[ShalomISmyname]

Yepppper! My ex husband was the most paranoid person I had ever met! He was skeptical of EVERYONE! He swore everyone was fake, lying, manipulative, and just out to get over on other people. And that’s because of who HE is! 💯 Narcissistic projection at its finest!

[GloriaGonzalez-zzwp]

Yep I know that doesn't this is how they so fake they do a lot of things so fake and phony

[chiharden]

The crying and the tears of a narcissist is not the sad part. The sad part is that somewhere in a narcissist’s childhood, they were manipulated and traumatized to the point where they became a narcissist. Thank you for taking the time out to make these videos and just maybe 1 less person will become a narcissist and 1 less person will have to experience a narcissist.

[-elijahriggs-]

A lot of times especially if they're drinking they're just confessing

[hankmclain]

My narcissistic partner could cry on command with big tears😢...

[hc]

He says my crying makes him angry, and he will explode

[technosugarcreations]

Once again, hits the nail on the head with my mom. She'd sit me down on the couch and rapid-fire accuse me of things I either wasn't guilty of or she'd set me up for, would NOT give me a chance to prove my innocence. When it would become too much and I'd start crying, she would tell me 'Stop your crying or you're gonna get something you don't want!'. I came to a point I just let her, because the threat of getting slapped or backhanded just made me cry MORE. She accused me of being able to turn my crying 'on and off', and sometimes during her screaming fits when I would start sniffling she'd get right in my face, sometimes blowing cigarette smoke, and go, 'Don't you start! Don't you DARE start!'. I remember once I'd been asked to do some chores, but there had been some cleaning I couldn't do because we were out of a product I needed. I forget exactly what it was. When my dad got home, she started coming down on me for having not finished the cleaning and would NOT let me say why. Even my dad told her she was being WAY too hard and told her to stop, and tried to ask me why I hadn't finished. Again, I was disallowed an opportunity to answer as she was yelling over anything I'd say, and I came to a point I just started crying and buried my face in my hands. She pointed at me and yelled, 'See!? SEE?! She's smiling behind those hands! She knows what she did!'.

[CatzBell]

That explains a lot. He cried constantly whenever I politely said he overstayed his welcome and that I'd like to spend time with my friends, fam, and my actual bf at the time.

[ShaHunniPot]

OMG SHE SAID THAT WORD FOR WORD TO ME!!!! 😮😮😮

[nikiabutler]

They will even mock you and start imitating you

[reallue]

True Story, ~1-2yrs after my ex/narc/bm finally decided she wanted to start spending time w/ our son, after essentially abandoning him w/ me, for his 1st 6yrs, bc she decided tht being a 304 was just a higher priority than being a mother or a family, he was w/ her & broke his leg on an electric scooter she & her ew husband got him.

He's a really good kid. & rly tough too. He broke both bones in his forearm 3yrs later & he didn't shed a single tear. But, I also rushed him immediately to the hospital rt when it happened. But this 1st time he broke a bone (out of the 2x), in his leg when he was only ~7-8, he complained about the pain to his mom, to the point of tears. For 3.5, almost 4hrs, his mother yelled & screamed at him to STFU & stop crying. B4 she finally even looked at it, & the second she looked at it, she could tell rt away it was, in fact, obvious broken. & Only then, did she take him to the hospital. I was so furious w/ her, I still am, for not just making him suffer thru a broken leg, w/o any medication, or medical treatment. Idk if she even gave him an aspirin, but if tht wasn't enough, screaming & yelling at him to stop crying & calling him a liar. He kept telling her that his leg was broken & she even told me tht she just didn't believe him. But knowing her, I would bet money tht the real answer is she didn't care. Bc if she cared, how hard is it to walk over to yur child, crying in pain, adamant that his leg is broken, & just walk over & look at it. To me, tht seems like its worse than just not caring. It would havta come out of, like hatred or resentment 2wrds him.

& her refusing to look at it for almost 4hrs - thts according to her time frame. She's been a compulsive liar so, I had to learn the hard way, repeatedly, to never take what she says at face value. & I'm sure she reduced tht Time to downplay how long it actually took her.
My son was too young to know to keep track of the time & didn't hav a way to check th time either way. But, he's rly good about honesty w/ me. According to him, he said he was in REALLY bad pain for a LONG time, w/ his mom yelling at him about it. He said it was like the whole day, b4 she finally came over to check on it for the very 1st time. But tht could be exaggerated bc time seems fly while yur having fun but it slows way down when yur having a bad time).
Either way, her Neglect of our child infuriates me tht she did tht to him

[appsd]

This is something im still teaching myself about narcs - when they accuse you of being a certain way, its because theyre doing it that way. The constant assumptions about cheating was never because of trauma or insecurity...it was because they were cheating and trying to project their shame on you! 💔

[annetallegrand]

They have “pity plays” and so they believe others are utilizing this strategy as well. I was never with this type of narcissist because I couldn’t stomach it😂 meanwhile they cause so much real pain, and real tears.

[ST-tgrw]

“Save your fake tears for a dummy”😵‍💫. Fake tears had my eyes puffy as all get out😂

[sarcasticcat]

Him: " I wish you'd take it like a man"
Me:" Well then you should have married one."😅

[YakobLTW]

Wow. I told my narc ex, that I had cried myself to sleep not long ago (from the time I told her). And she literally replied "I don't believe you". From someone who claimed that they listened to me. They argued everything I said a lot. Defended others point of view. In fact, the only time she agreed with me, was when my family messed me over or something. Which was her snaking her way in and making me believe I had no one else but her.