I am SO Disappointed | Kati Morton

Disappointment is something I have been feeling all throughout 2020, but I think it's more intense right now as we wrap up the holiday season. As I thought about my feelings of disappointment I realized that it was caused by expectations that I had that I didn't even acknowledge. I had expected to see family over Christmas, and to get to see a few friends over New Years, but I didn't check in, notice that that was what I thought could happen, and manage those expectations before they were shattered. So I am going to try and manage my expectations for 2021 so that I don't feel as upset and disappointed because we all know that on January 1st things aren't going to magically change, they will get better, but I don't want to set myself up to feel disappointed any more. How are you coping with all of this? Are there ways that you have managed your expectations? Please share, so that we can all feel better. xoxo

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[kayleighdittemore]

“Don’t let disappointment make decisions for you”

Yes yes yes yes.

[shellywilkiechachach]

Thank you for your honesty. It’s so refreshing to not feel alone with how I feel. So right about expectations. I say this all the time “ expect nothing and be surprised “ thank you so much again for all you do from Wilmington NC🙏🏻

[throughrose-colouredeyes]

"expect nothing. appreciate everything." 💛 a motto i live by.

[rosemaryngugi]

I love you Kati, and so do lots of people.

[kayleighdittemore]

Setting realistic goals is BIG for me. It’s a lot easier to be disappointed when you set unrealistic goals.

I also like to recognize small victories to offset disappointment. Even the smallest things :)

[kenrickbautista]

This whole year, for me, was filled with disappointments. Here's to hoping for 2021.

[CassieWinter]

"2020 is the year of grief." Yes! I also see so many seeds of hope have been planted. However long they take to grow, I'm excited for the future.

[barryholden]

I'm just grateful to be still employed, so many people are not so lucky. Happy new year Kati :)

[peaceoutshadia]

In Islam, we say “Inshallah” (in God’s will). Which means, plan and set expectations, but always put in your mind that the plan might not happen because it’s not meant to be. That could be for many reasons, self-growth or a protection from something worse.

[dailydoseofmedicinee]

How to Cope with Disappointment👍

Manage emotion.

Don't take it personally.

Review expectations.

Take a big picture perspective.

Try again or try another tack.

[vickiplatford]

Thanks for the video Kati. I've really been struggling with people referencing how much better they think 2021 is going to be. I'm finding the idea of the new year difficult, generally feeling deflated.

[melanies]

2020 is the year of grieving. Me in 2020: dad died, bunny of 10yrs died, had to put dog to sleep. You’re tellin me 🥺 😭

[gogogetter]

I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder 4 years ago and right now I’m going through a bit of a low period and your videos are helping me get through. Thank you so much for your content.

[ezratijssen]

I really dreaded the holidays.. our mental illnesses don't just take a break on christmas, which I had to learn the hard way. we gotto go easy on ourselves in these weird times. I hope everyone's taking care of themselves ❤

[calebcreationofsound]

I always say hope for the best, expect the worst. That helps me alot. It's important to not have too high expectations cause if things go wrong you'll feel very disappointed.

[treatmenice]

Kati. Thank you for all the help, love and support this year. We appreciate you!

[hilindabohler]

Katy, I am thankful for this time. It is hard, but it also present us with moments we would never had if life was what it was. Don't think too far ahead... Take day by day.I believe this is how we are forced to reflect on our lives, the little things we take for granted and the people we love. NOW still has opportunities. YESTERDAY has gone. Change your expectations into hopes, and be grateful when things do happen as planned. We need to focus on the new ways we have to live to be safe. Be positive and except things as it is. It is hard, but if others can do it you can too. Be grateful for being healthy and alive. We don't know what the future holds, but we know that things won't last forever. Determination and preserverance is something we need to focus on and not expectations. Thankyou for your videos...you make a difference in so many ways. To feel and say and be honest... That makes people to listen and appreciate your videos. Thankyou for making such a huge difference in this difficult times for so many people.

[TarikEF]

Hey Kati, I love the content! I was wondering if you could talk (maybe in a whole video) about what it takes to go above and beyond for your patients. Given that I'm in my last semester of school before becoming a therapist, I was wondering what tips you could give that would help not only in making a great impression on the patients but also members of the therapeutic circle. Thanks! :)

[D.M.S.]

I met my current girlfriend, but I lost my job and I am unemployed for months now because of Covid. :/

I feel useless and it hits hard with my depression and motivation. I feel like a failure. :(

[mariae]

Love you Kati, you have saved my life multiple times