Killer Comebacks to Narcissists’ Insults

Are you tired of dealing with narcissists? Ready to stand up for yourself and give them the comebacks they deserve? In this video, we will show you the best killer comebacks to narcissists’ insults so you can confidently put them in their place. Stop getting pushed around by a narcissist and watch now to learn how to effectively shut down any condescending comment they make!

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[ks]

Been slammed with derogatory name calling, lately. Really foul names. My response.. " considering the source and the truth and reasoning behind it... Sounds like a confession".. walk away

[MrsNsf]

Why would someone advice anyone to stay . It is hell living with one. Get out and never look back when you do.

[michaeleckert]

I can't control their behavior.I can change the way I respond.I will not tolerate disrespect. A very well done analysis 👏 👍

[cwill]

A few years ago I started saying “sure!” in a dismissive “whatever you say” kind of way. This was before I realized the narcissistic traits I was dealing with but I was just at my wits end so I randomly started to falsely ‘agree’ with what my spouse was ridiculously and abusively saying. It made me feel better and when I just would constantly keep agreeing with whatever came out of his mouth he eventually shut down. My narcissistic child recently said “you’re a funny woman! “In a condescending and malicious way. My reply… “I am funny and I’m also fun.” I was just feeling total self love in the moment and you could literally watch her deflate. It was like the wind just got sucked out of her. The weirdest thing, was that it was almost like I had told her SHE wasn’t funny, just by turning her insult on its head and giving myself credit and acknowledging part of my personality. To anyone dealing with this stuff, don’t be afraid to literally flip whatever insult they’re saying on its head and watch the narc fall. Hope this helps some of you, it’s a freaking minefield to navigate!

[Richard-vqud]

I like to say "Im just thankful you found your happiness."

[lindseyw]

I say something like…that’s your opinion to which you are entitled, however that does not make it the truth….then walk away.

[sherrilee]

I wish I had these tools in 1992 or earlier! I may not have wasted so much of my life thinking that I wasn’t good enough! My husband looked at me when our child was 4 months old and he said, “ Look at you, who would want you!” 24 years later it still haunts me. Every time I look at him I think about him saying that to me. He has apologized cried and begged for forgiveness. He cheated on me for 4 years that I know about. I was a teacher and was afraid I couldn’t make it on my own. I was so beat down. I’m sure I made a huge mistake!

[chetpomeroy]

I agree that I can't control how someone *decides* to feel about me.

[Irishajw]

“I can’t control how you feel about yourself” is, perhaps, more to the point.

[lss]

Do narcissists stop talking long enough to let you have a come back? My Narc interrupts and I do not get a statement out.

[coach_amy]

Other things that work:
"Here, let me write that down. Can you say that again?" (And then proceed to write down what they say, which makes them say a lot less, or even back track.)
"I will consider that."
"I can see how you think that, based on your perspective and value system."
"We seem to have different values."
"I'm not skilled enough to know how to talk to you in a productive way."
<Silence> and walk away.

[ruffraff]

The worst thing you can do with a narcissistic person is acknowledge what they say has value. This advice panders to the piece of filth.

[jeffreylucas]

Well done, I agree. I have sought out therapy on three occasions and no one is willing to help me. Luckily enough I have been strong enough to weather my storm now I have just estranged my relationship with my narcissistic sister. Her comments were brutal, demeaning, and unprovoked. I will not tolerate this level of disrespect. Nor this level of unprovoked craziness.

[coach_amy]

I agree. These are also good tips for still living with narcissists. And it works not just for insults, but also for narc's guilt-tripping and the narc acting pitiful, sad, or otherwise like a "victim" of the target.

[jettadarrow]

My adult child is a narcissist. They love to insult me at the lowest level and devalue me. Any words of wisdom for this situation?

Very hard to remember all of these, specially in the heat of the moment. After all, seldom we leave a relationship with a narc without some sort of PTSD! But great comebacks, for sure!

[Mon_cur]

I agree with all of those except for the last one, “let’s aim to be respectful, if if you can’t be respectful then we’re not going to have conversations, and you can always get up and leave!”

I have never had success with this. The threat of leaving, mentioning leaving, showing any sign of trying to leave, amplifies the rage and defensiveness with the narcissist in my life.
Any time I realize the things need to calm down for both our sakes, or treatise the conversation isn’t going anywhere, and I try to create some distance, or create some space between us, she panics and becomes elicited in her rage. She will physically try to stop me, rip my shirt trying to stop me from leaving, slam the door on me as I’m walking out with my arms full, follow me to me car and threaten to call the police, stand behind my car, park behind my car before hand when she is showing up at a time where she knows I don’t want to see her or talk to her, she will follow me, threaten me, hit me, if leave unscathed she will blow up my phone, show up to my house, threaten to kill herself, cut herself, etc the list goes on.

Leaving it talking about leaving doesn’t end well with mine a lot of the time.
I’m finally to a place where I’ve created enough distance, where we don’t live together, I’ve given up on her changing, so I don’t put myself in situations where these things happened, but it’s been a long 3 years.
And our poor child, I’ve had to give up on being his dad in many senses as she uses him as ammunition to get back at me and try to hurt me.

[amyhorbyk]

OMG the Wizard of Oz comparison is so awesome and perfect! I AM OZ!!! Ligtning crashes 🤣 😂

[istj]

Agree. "Lets aim to be respectful in our conversation" is definitely a good one. They put us on a punishment and reward system and what do they want? What they get every time we acknowledge them. When they start becoming disrespectful, that's when it's on us to terminate the conversation until the agree to be more respectful. So definitely agreed.

[cametientaucoeur]

I say I am sorry & withdraw my emotions, my attachment & my money. I watch from the periphery. I am a recent widow a retired RN. Alcoholics, narcissists…always seek us out. Jeanne