The Best Phrases and Comebacks To Disarm The Narcissist

In today's video Jill explains the very best comebacks that you can use to disarm, confuse and shut down the Narcissist.

Jill Wise, otherwise known as The Enlightened Target, is a life long survivor of narcissistic abuse. She was raised by a malignant narcissist and married to a malignant narcissist, she has endured years of parental alienation, has repeatedly been targeted by narcissists throughout her life. She has an intimate understanding of all aspects of narcissistic abuse and Cptsd. She uses her experience and what she has learned to help educate others and bring awareness to narcissistic abuse. She is also a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and works with clients all over the world heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and Complex Ptsd.

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[judyscheiber]

Get out of the relationship with the narc. Grey rock them. Works much better than anything you could say to them. They seek engagement and speaking to them is fueling them no matter what you say.

[NikkiGRocksEver]

When a narcissist tries to gaslight you say this, “I disagree. You are full of crap. There is nothing you can say to convince me that I’m wrong.” Then walk away.

The reaction I got. The jaw dropped.

Trust me, it’s a priceless moment.

[cherryboob]

Nothing better than ignoring a narcissist. Confused my ex all the time.

[GoogleIsAPieceOfShit]

It’s good to have ammunition but narcissist’ s tactics are very fluid. Have these under your belt, sure, but your most powerful weapon is not showing emotion. Be aloof and neutral. Neutrality kills them!

[yasiasorbo]

I luv the last one. “Opinions r like assholes everyone has one”! That’s priceless

[crabbycreates]

My favorite Jack Nicholson quote: "Go sell crazy somewhere else...we're full up here." 🤣

[MrGogether]

Ignoring a narcissist makes them feel like you are the narcissist ..

[sanjanabhatia]

Thank you! Love the asshole one. 😂
Here’s my list:

1. I don’t accept your definition of me.
2. I am sure you would see it that way.
3. I hear you.
4. I understand.
5. That’s interesting.
6. Wow.
7. I see.
8. That’s your choice.
9. You’re entitled to your opinion.
10. I’m sorry you feel that way.
11. Let’s talk about this when you are calmer.
12. This subject is off limits.
13. Guilt peddling and playing the pity card are not going to work anymore.
14. This is non negotiable.
15. I know you’re upset.
16. No thank you.
17. Yelling and threatening are not going to solve anything.
18. I don’t choose to have this conversation.
19. No (calmly) and walk away.
20. Ok. Have a nice day.

And DO not internalize their toxic, untrue comments. Know who you are, stand your ground and walk away. 💞💥🌸

[DEAN_]

One that I think is a good one, is quite simply: "Duly noted"

[csh]

I used to say "I think you're confusing opinions and facts..." Great video, Jill - thank you! 💕

[violetgypsie]

They will stew in their juices and save your punishment for another time. You cannot win with these creatures. The best engagement is no engagement. As soon as I see the signs of the spoiled brat coming out I just walk away. One day I will walk away for good.

[philmorrison]

Use this comeback and watch a narcissist explode! I no longer place a value on your opinion of me, all I hear is blah blah chirp chirp! Then get ready to run!

[joshuaanzalone]

Nothing is greater than ignoring them and all their drama and bs.

[Imnotyourdoormat]

"I have studied malignant narcissists in great detail, now every micron and nano speck of you and your types are in the textbooks for all to plainly see so you'll never gig me like a frog again, I know how you think how you feel and how you'll react so dont try it. And this is the end of us forget you ever knew my name"....works pretty good for me.

[motorcityblacksheep]

I remember reading that phrase “opinions are like assholes..” in Jonathon Livingston Seagull. It was perfect then and now! Thanks for the reminder 🙂

[jenniferdowell]

Ugh learning this 14 years too late. I am still appreciative!

[bethlanglois]

Just watch out for retaliation they won’t stand to lose and they will probably seek revenge so just watch out be steps ahead of them

[kristinb]

One I've used before is "you don't get to rewrite history". Another after a rant is "wow, you've got a temper".

[aprilwashington]

Not a f'n word. No phrases. No grey rock. Total silence. Zero eye contact. #Ignore #Block #RunForestRun 😂

[koolbeans]

I’m grateful to be in a position to just say “GOODBYE!”
I earned it though. And it didn’t feel good for quite some time.