How To Know: is your personality type backwards?

Could your personality type be backwards from what you assume it to be? What are some reasons someone might type themselves backwards? In this video I will give you an example of how two different personality types might answer the same question, and what that tells us about their cognitive process.

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[robertvory]

Self-awareness is the hardest thing. Because what you represent is not what you actually are.

[ptyleranodon]

INTP wasn't even on my radar until I came across this idea with Dave and Shan's video. It took me a long time to realize that what I saw as me being really good at reading people actually turns out to be inferior Fe. I thought I was hyper aware of other people's emotions for some pure motive. But the fact is that intense emotions just make me uncomfortable. And I get really frustrated when I experience them myself. Which explains my desire to be Buddha-like all the time.

[lilyluna]

intp here using habit tracker app and reminders and calendar and a time schedule for my whole week, yet never sticks to it. My mum told me, as a child I spent more time writing to do lists, than actually doing something 😅

[bradwilliams]

I'm glad you make the point about "peacocking" having positive qualities of trying to develop your lower functions. Dave and Shan tend to portray it very negatively--and I agree it just confuses the issue in trying to determine one's own/somebody else's personality type. But developing your lower functions is always going to look kind of like peacocking. I guess it's a matter of distinguishing between where you are now and where you are trying to get to.

I think a good way to assess personality is to look at what your most cringeworthy moments were as a young adult, and what they revolved around.

[ireleee]

What we'd like to be is not always what we actually are

[jasonward]

YES, this is the right format for assisting people in typing others and themselves.
Thank you for this, it's great

[esyraqekram]

I would add that as an INTJ, planning to me like breathing. It’s not something that you actively trying to do, your brain sort of just do it on its own. Nobody would ever say “hey iam good at breathing”, that is just silly.

[CelloTuning]

I've noticed people tend to amplify what is contrary to them. e.g. an esfp tend to amplify being serious and logical while actually she's not like that. Or an empath trying to be self centered. I don't know why. Other examples include: intellectuals being mundane and easy going.

[TransparentLabyrinth]

Makes sense, well said, but I'm a bit skeptical about how useful it is for discerning someone's type. I'm guessing you don't intend it as the only factor, but I've seen OPS talk about it in a way like it can be sometimes. If you do the "read between the lines" mode of typing, you can see the 2nd is probably a more routined person, but you still don't know *why* they are a more routined person. You can see the 1st wants to be seen as an organized person, but again, it's not clear why; it could be an unconscious "these are my aspirational traits" thing or it could be something else, like they grew up around parents who praise them for being organized and scold them for being messy. Or maybe it really is what they are good at and for one reason or another, they are not great at showing that instead of telling it. Or going back to the 1st person, maybe they are exaggerating how routined they are by focusing on the parts of their life that are routined because they are ashamed of the parts that aren't.

I think you would need to actively go back and forth with them and challenge how they are describing themselves to tease out what's going on. So no typing off of video clips alone, for example. And by challenge, I mean pose questions that mess with how they are viewing it. Like off the top of my head, for the 1st person: "you described yourself as organized, so do you prefer hanging out with people who plan everything in advance?" Or like for the 2nd: "anything ever happen at the gym that threw your routine off?" Like try to see how consistently they can back up the image across different contexts and how they respond if they aren't quite sure whether you value the characteristics they are describing themself as. Idk if that makes sense, not trying to tell you how to type people, just musing about accuracy and approaches to it.

[Sophia-ixri]

I love it when you include examples like this! It really helps me understand.

[StarkMagnus]

Yep, know of someone who constantly mentions whats popular or fashionable, or that they would enjoy something but its not "in" right now, so they can't. Then they (online) tested as an ISTJ... um no.

[tuskinekinase]

At a certain point in my life I deadass thought I was an INTP because I study STEM and I HAD to be logical and accurate, because I HAD to be perfect or otherwise what am I doing. Ti isn't even my inferior function, Te is, and I knew my Te is bad

[Markbenwisch]

So I'm not an ENTP, but an PTNE?! Now everything I've been through in life makes so much sense!😢

[talyahfeigenbaum]

Yeah... I thought I was an ISFP/ ISFJ...
I'm an INTJ.
Such an interesting video. Thank you, Lindsay :)

[erical]

I got an e-friend who wonders if if I'm an ISFP, because of my NASCAR poems and my stories online she read, but someone on Quora, whose name's Julia, typed me INFP based on one of the poems and other things from Quora. She's an INFP and so is Jabberwocky, another Quoran, who says I'm Si-dom. My e-friend's an INFJ who relaxed to INFP because everyone said she was too serious. She was a very imaginative child, always looking for hidden patterns and pretending to be a singer, she told me. When people cried for joy at her church (Utah girl and it's just what you'd think based on that), when she was younger, she cried too. She associated crying with being scared, so she thought something was wrong. FFF (the Utah girl e-friend's online name initials) thinks I'm an Intuitive Sensor, because of my writing style. She's on YouTube and there's no bad words in her name, but I'm respecting her privacy some. I can say her favorite animal, fox, is part of her e-name. She sees Sensor wording and, in my fanfics, other Sensing tendencies, like I use the canon framework, though with my own ideas. Some of what I do in my fanfiction's re-writing from a character's perspective, Feeling traits because I write emotional stuff and mild P because of my tone and relaxed, don't rush the fact style. Julia thinks I'm INFP because of my poetry and being too detailed to be ISFP, to her. Jabberwocky sees Si-Ne in my Quora writing, but agrees I have Fi and Te. I cried over Jabberwocky's typing, when I went to Fi-dom places online right after. Like ISFP Reddit. I had an easel as a kid and have done crafts, drawing and painting since then. My e-friend sees tertiary Ni in me, as I show that in my OCs.

[oakhoax]

Great video even if it foiled my plans, now I'm less convinced that I might be typing backwards
But have no fear there is a saving grace! On the inside I think I'm pretty cold, aloof, logical, etc, but the people around me tell me that they think I'm super nice and caring and that I don't seem like I can hurt a fly, and animals and babies tend to bond to me pretty quickly even if I don't want them to
And another one is that with the what do you do in a day question, my answer falls more in line with the second one, however I don't really schedule or plan anything unless I have to, but I also pretty much do the same thing day after day, and if something pops up I'll do that, I'm pretty fluid in that regard, however, something I'm not fluid is, is when someone makes plans and then they suddenly change them, like this isn't what we had planned, don't veer off of the plan without a good reason.
In the other comment, I said that I wouldn't sacrifice what I believe is right for the sake of group harmony, but now that I'm thinking about it, I'm not sure if that's the case an example would be, no one has taken the dog out yet, and I shouldn't have to take the dog out because I said while my sister was discussing getting a dog, that it'd be a bad idea, she'd get tired of it and leave it for someone else to take care of like always, and it'd be terrible for a big young hyperactive golden retriever to be raised in an apartment.
Well, she ended up getting the dog and like I predicted, she took him out like once and then declared him to be too hyperactive after that it fell onto me to take care of the dog despite the fact that it wasn't my idea to get a dog, and I was firmly against the idea, I was the only one with a heart big enough to actually take care of him, but this also sounds a lot like Fi values, like these are living creatures they deserve to have all the love and care they need
Eventually I did manage to convince her to find the dog a home that would be better suited for him and he's much happier now

[elizabethkenobi]

I think I've always typed myself backwards, because as an INTJ I've always been focused on what I want to be and the ways I'm improving myself according to the feedback I get. So I've never actually wanted to admit that I'm basically an INTJ, because those traits define the things that make it difficult to get along with others, which is not who I want to be. Only recently have I come to be honest with myself and so I finally got a test result (INTJ) that I can say, "Oh my gosh, that's me. It's not who I've tried to be, but it's who I am at the end of the day."

[gabrielavillegas]

I absolutely LOVE the aesthetic of your videos, it's so satisfying to see, thank you for putting your mind into it!

[alixmaurel]

This was very interesting, and food for thoughts as well. It might be an explaination of why i'm questioning my type since 10 years.

[politicalfactsandopinions.]

Thank you Lijo looking into the MBTI over and over for years has me really understanding what your saying and the video it self. When I was younger I used to think I was an intuitive thinking type but as I started understanding the MBTI better going into adult hood I realized I fall more under intuitive feeling and I think that it’s interesting how the MBTI reflects just the literal behavior of people.