r/Entitledparents My Family Hates My Parents for Ruining My Life

0:00 Intro
0:09 My parents made my birthdays about my little sister

[normtrooper]

The irony of obsessing over the child who almost didn't survive, is those parents killed the relationship they did have with their other child

[DaBlueKitty]

To be fair on the other relatives part, the parents probably LIED to them about how "Kind and considerate OP was to share/give his birthday to his sister" HOWEVER, to ANY other families out there, PLEASE keep an eye out if someone in your family is being treated unfairly. Because otherwise, they'll end up like poor OP in this story.

These people DO NOT deserve children. And please to ANYONE whom went through what OPs mom did. Don't just suddenly act like this! Yes, almost losing your child was terrifying but it is NO EXCUSE to suddenly neglect your other child and spoil the other!

[MrsShocoTaco]

I can't help but notice that the moment the parents had to start making the daughter behave, they sent her away to someone who would discipline her for them.

[caroljo]

Those parents deserved everything they got! Let's hope little Miss Prince-ass learns that other people matter. My heart goes out to the OP!

[kattamos]

The worst part is that these parents have now ruined their relationship with BOTH children. Their son has been neglected throughout the most formative years of his life, where he probably needed them the most. I speak from experience when I say that you CANNOT walk that back. No amount of being around for adulthood makes up for raising yourself as a child. And the daughter clearly lacks empathy and only understands love through getting her way. Her parents went from giving her the world on a silver platter to sending her away from home and now if she ever comes around, she'll have to sit alone in some school far away from home and wonder, "If my parents love me, why would they have done this to me?" The little girl is young enough that I still believe she's a product of her parents, though that's not to excuse her behaviour. These two parents have fundamentally ruined the lives of both their children and now they have nothing because of it. Unbelievable.

[TheEDFLegacy]

That flowery cake he got for his 18th birthday was the best gift he had ever got from his parents; it demonstrated physical proof of what sort of hellscape OP was living through. Parents got what they deserved. And OP is right that this is very much a case of "Too little, too late."

[KratosCar]

I want to give OP a hug, I just feel awful and I understand him. I'm thankful that my parents and siblings aren't like this. I'm a dude, a year younger than him in the story.
Edit: OP's grandfather is the goat in this story. He's awesome

[hkyell]

This is so infuriating. I am SO GLAD the rest of the family came to their senses.

[deadeye]

OP was 18 and ugly crying, I'm 27 and this story made me shed a tear, myself! I don't think I would've lasted 8 years of being the Scapegoat, though. That man has the patience of a damn saint.

[HexerGraf]

Good lord, OP's sister is guaranteed to be a psychopath when she grows up. His parents made their bed... they don't deserve OP's forgiveness.

[TheFallenSkyes]

I love how invested r/slash gets in the stories and expresses the feelings that the stories portrayed. Well done!

[herre_viri]

This hits so hard to home. Hurt to listen to because I was also the kid who had to give up everything. Even the money my father gave to my mother to support me. Just so my nephew (who’s deaf) could get what he wanted.

[JBonkerz]

I have a daughter that almost died when I gave birth to her. Its a long story but I'm so grateful for the doctor that saved her life... I could never imagine treating her any differently than I treat my son. The parents in that first story are so messed up.

[kovacsviola]

Holy shit. As "the other kid in the house" myself this level of pychological abuse is shocking. My god, i hope OP gets a great job because that therapy bill is going to be massive.

[That_Random_British_Dude]

Those parents really infuriated me. Favouritism always sets the child up for failure.
At least in the end they're on the right path to redemption, but they still clearly have a long way to go

[Oblivitana]

The black sheep story kinda put a smile on my face with how the entire family, though in the wrong, realized their damage and stood up like an army against his parents.

[SherlocksLeftNipple]

As much as the first story breaks my heart every time I hear it, I am so glad and proud of OP for telling his entire family his true feelings and not giving any of them any room to make excuses. I hope he treats himself to the best birthdays he can afford for the rest of his life, if only because he's owed the privilege after the emotional hell he was put through. I hope he doesn't let his parents ruin the concept with their selfishness, because he deserves to associate his day with celebrating himself, not his bratty sister.

And Godspeed to whatever therapist may have to deal with the sister, because you know she's gonna need one, once reality hits her in the face.

Fuck the parents. Just... Fuck them.

[silverflight]

You can tell how much they were willing to shove OP aside in favor of OP's sister to the point that you'd think that he wasn't even real. That's how bad it is. Even worse, the sister became worse than a spoiled princess, pouting over having a single day not about her, committing destruction multiple times, and assaulting someone *all while she's 8 years old.*

Never play favorites, because once you start, you've already set someone up for failure, and you'd have the luck of the gods to have any chance of reconnecting.

Why the peck do people still do this "Golden Child and Scapegoat" stuff? You'd think after so many articles and research, people would be wise enough to not go this route, yet it STILL happens!

I mean, narcissism could be why, but still, it's just not a good route

[C-Herzog]

Sending the 8 year old away to boarding school is punishing her for their mistakes rather than owning up to it and trying to fix it. She'll hate the parents for abandoning her just like they abandoned OP. The parents need to work long and hard to regain any relationship with both of their children.

[cupcakeprime]

I found another video with extended updates. The little girl actually ended up in a psychward after boarding school didn't work out...