narcissist and toxic people will compare you to their exes to manipulate you into doing things

[syahusha]

My separated husband said his ex wife did not cook. Damn! He knew I cooked so he married me. He cheated on her! He cheated on me while I was cooking! No matter what, narcissist will never be happy! It's been 4 months peaceful since I left. Stay strong.

[Wouldyoujust_]

My brother. He had two exes, back to back, and fully convinced me that they were both nuts. I cut them both off and now I feel terrible. He was a the issue, not them

[deeplyk]

Yes..One of the times that he decided to put on a show in a store (cursing and threatening the owner. He got upset that I didn’t join in with him when he was the one in the wrong, in the first place (as always) He says to me..” my ex wife wouldn’t have let that slide.. she would’ve been in that store raising hell right along with me”. I told him they should’ve never broken up then lol

[pigeonshit]

Newly realized narcissist to narcissist getting help: You've been in therapy for a few years: what i want to know is have you or others around you seen any improvement in yourself? I want to be better but keep hearing that it's impossible and that's really discouraging and demotivating

[VelvetJazz]

I am so thankful for you and what you do on this channel… Unfortunately I was raised by a narcissistic mother in the absence of a father, and when they warp your mind at an early age, there’s a ripple effect throughout your life. You don’t see their games as a red flag, it seems natural.

[jpbaje]

Im happy to see some narcs coming out and admitting and trying to or successfully working on themselves...it takes alot to make the first step

[southernlilacs]

My ex bf ALWAYS talked ahit about his ex. But when I would ask him to pick up after himself more because I was overwhelmed with housework he would say "ciera never complained about cleaning and our house was always clean". I was only in that relationship for a year and it was the most miserable year of my life. He would plan trips and ask me to come and then use it against me later that he took me on a trip. After we broke up he said on social media that our relationship was motivation to get into shape because I called him fat and tore him down all the time...I NEVER did that!! When he would say he was fat I would always say that I liked him the way he is. He would say "you only like me fat so you can look better than me" 🙄

[MamandDamian]

My ex would get mad bc I didn’t talk too bad about my exes. He said that I didn’t seem mad at them and that I should be mad at them. Then I’d explained that everything that happened was so long ago it didn’t matter anymore. Any anger I felt was forgotten. We all grew up I can’t be mad forever. And that seemed to make him more mad. But i just wanted him to understand that it hurt me more to hold on grudges for stuff that happened so long ago.

[sarahjames]

I know this one .I went on a date and he said his ex was crazy and she was going though menopause depression crap it was just an I was gone before he finished his sentence . Thanks to you and my therapist I'm learning 😌

[SpiritualMeka]

This is so true! Thank you for sharing this knowledge.

[kiwik]

My husband never EVER talks about his exs. At first it made me super suspicious but I realized that was just a boundary of his and I needed to respect that.

[paulagoeringer]

When they compare you to their ex, ask them why the ex dumped them. I guarantee they won't like that. Watch out for all the negging. That is always picking on you, your insecurities, your looks, anything they can to put you down to break you down.

[jennifersturgeon]

One min, I was nothing like her, i was a good mom and wasn't as crazy... Then he would call me by her name "on accident" ... I should've seen it... I know now, but I'm still healing...

[The-Finisher]

Trah Lah Lah TRIANGLES! My life’s in such a tangle. Patsy got it right! And you too Lee! 🤣✨❤️

[annettegomez]

Yes! Just a way to push your buttons & try to manipulate you into doing something they want you to do! I lived through this with an ex and he *ALWAYS* used these tactics on me. I finally figured him out & kicked him out.

[tfi]

A friend did this to me, i asked him to stop talking about his ex and he discarded me. Of course he baited me with “we will talk again when I’m ready”…that came with an excuse for cutting me off because he felt pressured to show him a pic of a hair cut he got. (Which was also part of the conversation). A person in his life told him that i had the right to set the boundary about his ex, so he had to find another reason to justify the discard. And to continue to get his supply from my pain he told me he had mislead me and he had no romantic feelings for me.

[shaleykala]

Funny enough….one of the things he said at the beginning was an agreement that we never compare to our previous relationships…

[harvey]

they compare you to other people bc they constantly compare themselves to others, so they think it means somehing to us. pfft.

[she_sings_delightful_things]

Ha! He began telling me I was like his ex wife....instead of looking at the common denominator 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[cayotelives]

Tell them. Ok go back to them . What are you doing here? Hahaha