Get Out Of The Friend Zone!

[DG]

Girls that say they don't like games, are the ones playing them.

[HPTFan]

Good points. However, some men are going to cut ties and do their best to move on. No turning back.

[arturosalinas]

"I have no interest in being your friend"
That simple quote can/will eliminate the friend zone completely if every man used it. And sorry billie you were in the bag already if you FLEW to see him

[kc]

unless you Genuinely want to be a womans friend, you're wasting your time

[RomeReactions]

Facts. The best way out of the friend zone is to never be in it in the first place.

[eoncatalyst]

Remember one thing, fellow Chads.

When a woman keeps you in the friend zone, she often doesn’t tell you about that. She keeps you in that state of uncertainty where she doesn’t tell you straight whether she likes you or not. Why?! To control you, to boost her ego (a’la “boys are chasing me, I’m so awesome!”), and to suck all positive energy from you.
She doesn’t care how you feel about it while she is entertained by it (after that you’ll be ghosted).
Women who put men in the friend zone are literal dementors.
Instead of wasting your time on fementors, find a good woman who will not take you for granted.

[kmss]

Also a tip coming from a woman myself, If she puts you in the friend zone, either two things happened. Either A) she genuinely doesn’t like you that way and you put yourself in the friend zone. Or B, she put you in the friend zone to treat you like her second best option. Likely she has her eyes on someone and if it doesn’t work out she’ll bounce to you. Don’t let that happen. You don’t deserve to be someone’s second choice. Because if she is regarding you as second best, there is an imaginary first place she’s waiting for someone interesting to take. Don’t play a woman’s games.

[xanderx]

She's 1 million percent right. Back at uni, I was in love with this girl. She was fresh out of a breakup (5 years long relationship). So, when she told me that, I tried my best to give her space, to understand that she didn't feel like immediately jump in a new one, even tho we clearly liked each other a lot.

Months passed, and it was a constant mess of her wanting me, then trying to push me away, then calling me back crying that she missed me, ghosting, inviting me to meet her friends, an absolute wreck of a Rollercoaster. Sometimes it was like a was 1 mile deep in the friend zone. The day after, she treated me like I was her soul mate. Rinse and repeat.

After one too many "wait for me a little longer" I decided nobody deserves this. So, very politely, I told her look, I don't just like you. I straight up love you. Since the very first day. I was very patient, I gave you space, time, the befit of the doubt. But this thing is just pain for me. And it's not right.
I wanna walk in the streets and think "oh look, a beautiful girl. Maybe I can get to know her" instead of "she isn't her. I wish she was her" and missing you like hell.
And I won't be able to do that until I detach myself from you. The last thing I would want to do but I have to. So, nothing personal, but from now on I will start talking with you less. I will not wait for your calls anymore. Nor think of you like before.
If I reply less, it's not to punish you. Or to force you to do anything. But because it's right for me. I deserve happiness too and I can't have it while loving someone who will probably never know or admit if she loves me back or not. No hard feelings. If I manage to stop loving you as I plan to do, maybe we can be friends in the future, since one way or another I'll always care about you. But only if I will be 1000% over you. If I'll have when a pale shadow of a shred of love for you, I'll be out. I'll miss you but that's will be the right thing to do for the both of us.

Following this, I started to receive constant calls, she wanted to meet me more often, she even called me once at work crying that she had a nightmare (her choice of words) were I met another girl and fell in love with her. That she didn't want to lose me. But then again, no relationship. So I straight up told her listen, you have to respect my choice. If I want to talk with you less and not meet you, there my choice to make. Her reply? "You're the most important person to me and I won't let you out of my life. I won't allow it". Then she started blasting my phone almost 24/7 for weeks. Until I finally got that she had some issue and decided to end all contacts with her.
After that I found out she was engaged since day one.

If a girl doesn't want to be with you she either doesn't love you, don't love you enough, she is way too comfortable in you just being around no matter what, she has skeletons in her closet or a mix of all of this things.
Don't let your love and dignity go to waste.

[robdubent]

Yeah I don’t normally comment on these clips but when I met my wife (of 11 years) I was friends with her. She was dating a total loser but I was respectful and stayed out of it- not once did I make any advances and ‘did my best’ not to say or do anything that’d make her feel uncomfortable. Once she realized dude was a total jerk it didn’t take long for me to let my feelings show. The best part was we met half way. As soon as they were officially broken up she asked me what I was doing and I told her I’d love to go get coffee. The rest is history. Normally I’d be a bit weary about catching a rebound but they had been falling out for awhile… but I think I can offer this as a decent friend zone example. I was perfectly fine being just friends with her if we never hooked up. I mean- she’s the coolest lady I’ve ever met and a great friend! I felt fortunate enough to just call her my friend. Of course it became much much more than that in the end
Now she’s not just my best friend- but my lover and mother of my little boy. 😉🥰😎

[Stephanie_]

I have watched women keep guys in their back pocket for YEARS, I guess it could be considered friend zoned, TBH it pisses me off and the only time I noticed them "unbenching" a guy is if they needed something (which is sad and predatory) or if they feel like they're losing the guy because he's getting some unexpected attention from another female (so out of jealousy) personally I have only been in 2 longterm relationships and I'm 40 this year, I have never been single for longer than a few months so I imagine a lot has changed in the dating scene but from the outside looking in, it seems really shitty for guys as there is NO pleasing this feminist mentality of today. From my perspective it's about confidence, guys need to play hard to get, im not saying play mind games or anything like that just be more selective about who you give your attention and energy to, alpha energy does not linger to be noticed, women are naturally drawn to that confident energy. By all means if you just want friendship that's cool too, but if a guy wants to get out of that zone a guy needs to be clear with his intentions, assertive andconfident know your worth and be prepared to walk away if she doesn't reciprocate, or at the very least the guy needs to be prepared to make himself less available to her, no lingering, no giving her time to think about it, she needs to "shit or get off the pot" - you deserve an answer and SHE KNOWS if she is interested or not, she doesn't need to "think" about it, that's just insulting, guys deserve better than that fluff off. My advice to guys would be - don't be so quick to reply or go running at her every beck and call, THOSE are partner perks and if she ain't your partner NOPE, leave your options open and if she's actually interested she won't want to lose the guy. If you are fulfilling all of the boyfriend duties like fixing her car, helping her out, going out for dinners, putting A/C unit in etc.. basically all the benefits to her without reciprocation then WHY would she commit as the saying goes...."why buy the cow if you get the milk for free" she wont put out or be exclusive to you if she doesnt have to. Mr.Nice guy is amazing, I love Mr.Nice guy, I appreciate and respect him BUT I reciprocate and IF SHE'S NOT reciprocating the same energy start putting less time and energy into that friendship or whatevership it is, because its not fair to the guy and will end up resenting her. A man should never waste his time, if she shows no interest "audios" is what I'd tell my brother's to say, because I don't want them to be some users backpocket bitch, it makes me so upset how we demonize men and liable them womanizers yet females get away with doing the same or worse to men and we call that a confident boss bitch these women will hang onto a guy NOT because she likes him but because she doesn't want anyone else to have him INCASE of that 2% off chance she wants to give him a chance or needs an ego boost because Joe Blow dumped her. I have watched female friends just use and abuse guys like it's a game or joke, these guys were destroyed, very rarely do you see guys feelings considered, I have ended friendships over this, no empathy just straight up man haters. I grew up with all brothers, it made me furious to think of my brothers being treated like that, it seems guys can't even get upset without being further hated on, everything is the man's fault today and NO not all women are like this, and NO men arent perfect either, but there is a huge shift in western society where there is little respect for men today. I really hope guys play harder to get because you all deserve so much better and giving these women your time and attention gives them the impression that this crap is okay, we live in a society of chronically single women where no man will ever measure up to the hoops they want jumped for them without reciprocating and treating the man with the same love, loyalty and energy that SHE demands of him, it's straight up hypocrisy. Sadly we live in a society where even relationships are disposable. People like to talk about toxic masculinity, but in my opinion toxic feminity is a huge problem today. People like to discuss predatory men yet there are just as many predatory women, who target men for money, trips, things whatever it may be its manipulation and predatory. I consider myself a physical person with my partner BUT I'm not ruled by sex or looks, it seems a lot of men and women today are ruled by sex, looks or money and jump ship the moment something "better" comes along, it's just sad, there are fewer people motivated by bonds or loyalty today. Be careful out there guys, don't waste your time, if she has an attitude don't bother with her she will be impossible to please, disrespectful and just a bad partner. Never allow a women to talk down to you, walk away, that shits not cool, never allow a woman to lay her hands on you EVER if you do she will get worse and push boundaries, immediately check that shit, you say I don't put up with that shit and LEAVE, say what you mean and mean what you say that's how you get respect from anyone, and it's just as true in relationships too. If guys played harder to get fewer women would think their shit dont stink if they started getting turned down like men do, they hook up with what they perceive to be a 10 that in reality just wanted to get laid but then these ladies think they're boss bitches out there just because some guy wanted to get laid, a lot of women need a major reality check. I could talk about this for days, there's no end to the hypocrisy of today so I am sorry for the long rant, I'm just so over this man hating crap, it's too much. On behalf of the sane females I do apologize.

[jackandrews]

I'm the one that tells women I'm interested in establish im only interesting in a base friendship relationship with them before moving into a commited relationship because if we can't enjoy each other's company on a base level then the future relationship won't have a real foundation. But that's saying I'm the one holding cards on the relationship status, once I've established compatibility I'll make my intentions known where I want things to go and it can either happen or the pursuit ends there. I've been with my girlfriend now for 6 years and we own a house together. We were friends for 6 months before officially dating and dated for 2 years before moving in together. Take your time, establish a real communicative relationship, but maintain control of where you want to be or move on. Everyone's timelines will be unique though, know yourself and communicate. That's what's respected.

[Shortay]

Yep she's right. I made the mistake of floating around girls that I liked, but never really pulled the trigger. I slowly started stating my intentions to girls quicker and things started getting better. It's pointless to keep a girl around in hopes that you will maybe date her. You either make your intentions clear and if she plays any games, get the f outta there. I am now happily married and have 2 kids, and keeping this clear helped me immensely in finding a good woman after having the run around with toxic girls.

[Bobster]

Known a girl. Had a flirty relationship that never went anywhere. We had better connection than with anyone we've known in our lifes. Took a lot of bad experiences to tell her that I wouldn't want to know her if it was to be friends only relationship. We are both hurt being apart, both understand the situation. Can't say I'm happy to have grown to make that conclusion, but it's definitely for the better.

[stipeb]

Women put guys in the friendzone because they like spending time with them. The only reason they don’t want a relationship is because they just aren’t physically attracted to them. It’s as simple as that.

[TheProfessorExplains]

The friend zone is easy to avoid. If you genuinely want to be her friend, boom…you’re already there. If you actually want to date her, and she puts you in the friend zone, LEAVE. Don’t sit there and be her friend when that’s not what you want. A man’s most important traits are pride and self-respect. If you’re not getting what you want from something or someone, walk away and find it somewhere else. This goes for women, friends, jobs, and everything else. If you’re waiting for someone to change who they are and what they want, you have no respect for yourself. A real man has too much self-respect to wait around for others to realize his worth.
Think about it this way - If you wanted a beer, would you go sit at Starbucks and hope one day they decide to start selling beer, or would you go to a bar and get a beer?
Being in the friend zone is like sitting at Starbucks and complaining that they won’t serve you a beer. They’ve made it clear they’re not going to do it, but you just keep sitting there, wasting your time and looking pathetic, hoping they change their mind.

[nickcortinas]

A truly happy partnership is equally like a best friend.

[brittanydw]

Great advice. The guys in the friend zone are not a threat. They are fun and sweet but the girl sees no future with him. If he has feelings for her be a f*cking man and say so. But once you do there is no turning back bc once those feelings are out you can't be friends and if u do that is torture. Iv lost a lot guy friends this way I never intended on being their girlfriends I just wanted friends then they confessed they wanted more. I also knew some girls that lead guys on, on purpose which is such an evil ego trip. Sick. Its best to just be honest have a pair and honestly for me, I love it when a guy tells me how he feels right away. It's hard for a girl to say that most of the time but I have done it. Girls respect guys that can be bold and honest it's refreshing.

[slax]

Actually there's a third option. Genuinely let her be a friend and after a few weeks ask her if she knows someone single that is right for you. If she tries to block that she ain't a real friend. If she helps, you've got an easy in

[cameronmccoy]

This is one of, and quite possibly, the best video you've done yet.

[andrewstratton]

100 percent. If I am genuinely interested in a girl I will tell her I have no interest in being her friend and if she doesn't want to date then I simply move on. I will not be just friends with a woman.