HOW TO SURVIVE AN ABUSIVE HOUSEHOLD WHEN YOU CAN'T MOVE OUT

7 tips on how to handle living in a household with a narcissistic/abusive parent when you're not able to move away. I really hope its helpful

[NuMindframe]

Thank you for supporting and uplifting each other in the comments❤

[gax]

It sucks when you finally feel like being productive but cannot even act on it because leaving your room is too exhausting when a narc is on the other side of the door. I just go to sleep and end up doing nothing again and again.

[sophiadavenport]

My method of surviving my mother's abusive behavior is writing letters of self love/appreciation but I only open these letters and read them out loud when I feel sad/depressed. Self care/love is a strong weapon against a toxic parent. Reading books is my way of escaping my mother's abuse.

[liachilz]

1)Get educated, join forums
2) Choose your battles wisely
3) Set emotional boundaries- Don’t tell your plans and good news or bad news. Keep your life private, cry in private
4) Spend as little time at home as possible- energy is drained
5)

[kay.w]

The hardest part is letting yourself know you've been abused. They make you feel like you're being dramatic or other people have it better. My mom cut me off from seeing a thearpist. Im looking for a job, trying my hardest to get one. i am stuck here all the time, and now im boiling in my own self hate and tears because im always so upset. i have compelety lost all sense of myself.

[mikaylha]

Choosing battles wisely is the hardest part it’s like your walking on eggshells like even if you do everything you can they will still find somethinggg I don’t live in my abusive household but I do wish I had these tips while being there thank you for these videos

[mikaylha]

I used to take 30 min long showers when I was in my narc household I never knew why either

[rofeitl]

Being the youngest child in a household with a narcissistic parent is especially hard. If they feel that they've lost control of your other siblings, they will target you so much harder than they did your siblings, especially when you're the last one in the house

[Tay-ebdg]

thank you. I feel so trapped right now. I am trying to get means to move out right now but simply living here makes me so depressed and lose motivation and see a way out

[shavannac]

This video called me out. I was just about to cry and vent to my narcissistic mother about how I got rejected from one of my top colleges. Then I watched this video and realized she just wants to see my downfall and she WILL use that against me in the future. It isn't fair though. Kids should have support from their parents.

[maepeterson]

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I always forget that the reason I’m always tired isn’t because I’m lazy I literally just can’t find my lust for life. I needed this talk today.

[GlitteryPegasus]

I am in my 40's. I really wish social media had been a resource when I was a kid. Narcissistic parents are so hard to survive. I'm so glad this channel is here! ❤

[samanthasalmon]

I'm no longer a teenage living with my parent(s) but my heart goes out to those who are. I'd say this video is full of good advice. but the one thing I can't help but think about is all the mistakes I made while trying to avoid being at home as much as possible. So I would just like to reinforce the idea of trying to stay out doing positive activities (work, school, volunteering, etc) and keep good company. And it is also my personal opinion and hope that anyone living in this type of environment abstains from getting involved romantically until they are removed from the toxic environment and have began healing work. Just because we empaths tend to attract more toxic people, more narcissists etc unless we have started to heal. Relationships also tend me distractions from our own goals and can prevent us from getting out sooner.

[Alcoholpad]

My parent has schizophrenic like symptoms along with narcissism, she stalks me in the house. Like if I go downstairs she stands at the top of the stairs to watch what I’m doing. If I go outside she secretly follows me in the car or makes sure I’m at the place I said I would be. Mind you guys I’m 29 and have a child. It’s hard but I don’t have the money to be on my own right now. Sending lots of love to everyone enduring this

[lisag.]

Omg, like I’m literally in tears. I feel like the universe spoke to you so you could speak to me. Amazing!

[jaydig]

It’s hard to do do self care because the more self care I do the more shame my mom gives me. If she sees me doing good she gets mad and wants to keep me down. She doesn’t want to see me happy

[shinigami]

i'v survived 15 years, i can survive 3 more years i think.

i hope i get to live some day

[mahlina]

Your description is my life. They put you down so badly to the point where you don’t have the energy to stand up and walk away. But they _constantly_ tear you down with every look, every words, every criticism. It sucks the life and soul out of you. But what to do when you leave no money, no place to run to, nowhere to go in a climate catastrophe/pandemic. Thank you for your advice!!

[unicornbbq]

Highly accurate. I was going to write: "Narcissists are like vampires. They need a victim. If they see you developing independence, they will start getting dangerously aggressive to keep you around. They will try to ramp it up, in order to set off a break-down in you, to undo any progress"

...and as I'm listening, you said they're pretty much "psychic vampires", and then I realized you had it covered. Yeah, great stuff. I wish everyone good luck. It's amazing how often I find myself in these situations. I'm 45 and even to this day I find myself in a toxic situation, and I never saw it coming. I never thought this seemingly kind woman, was actually a toxic narcissistic person. I moved in with her and her husband after my divorce, and everything was fine as long as I talked with her, and within the first few months, I started noticing our conversations would end with her getting angry about strange things, like me simply disagreeing on an opinion based topic. When she tried to discuss politics, I said I didn't think that was a good idea, and she laughed and said "That's silly, what do you think is going to happen?", and within five minutes she was yelling and stomping around. That's when I knew I couldn't talk with her. Unfortunately, avoiding more than 'how are you.' 'Have a good day' 'Hello' 'Goodbye', made her seem to become bitter and passive aggressive, and at this point, she's screaming at me when I try to solve disputes, made via the messages passed through her husband, who is a good man and likely, I suspect at this point, beaten down by her.

I'm 45 and still capable of getting hurt by these people. I'm not a weak person. I'm not a fool. I simply never saw it coming and so it's not your fault. These people have very very thick disguises and they are sick, and likely will never heal, but all the advice here, is excellent. Thank you for sharing it.

[gypsywolf]

I’m so happy I found this. I’m in my 30’s and, due to the craziness with covid, lost my job and couldn’t afford to live on my own anymore. Moving back with my parents has been like a death sentence to my soul so this is going to help.