Women Need to Try Harder!

[Tamailana]

The key is to never start pretending. Don't put in effort you can't keep longterm, problem solved.

[LeviHeatonIII]

Relationships are NEVER easy. Friendships aren’t easy. Professional relationships aren’t easy. Romantic relationships aren’t easy. Relationships require effort.

[Rabbsson]

They Both are right...If it ain't you, Show it Early. If it IS You, Maintain It.
And Men Need to do the same.

[ZaphiraX]

I would say just be yourself. I'm the kind of girl who never wears makeup or dresses up. I do wear "nice" casual clothes (jeans and T-shirts), but I never "put in the extra effort." If I had to start doing that, then I would probably become really unhappy because it doesn't align with who I am. I told my boyfriend this on date one, and he said he doesn't care. We are together now 2, 5 and he has never asked me to dress up. He knows not to expect that. And I show that I care for him in other ways

[silvermalwareai]

My thought is "where are we going to dinner?" Ihop? Sweatpants fly. Fancy steak house? Nice dress. Company matters yes, i want to be attracting for my partner. But i aint getting dolled up for red robin. Just like i wouldnt expect my partner to be dressed up for red robin.

[tomriley]

Honestly it's a balance, it's nice when people feel comfortable to be themselves effort doesn't have to be in getting dressed up.

[silentben]

Been married for almost 3 decades. There are WAY more important areas to put effort into than clothes and hair. I'd rather have valuable conversations with my wife than reap the 'reward' of her dressing up for a date. Good relationships are deeper than those things.

[RexCognitionis]

Personally, after getting comfortable in a relationship, I never cared about things like this. As long as we're both dressed appropriately for the venue, rock on. Be comfortable in all things, as long as you're taking care of your health. The only caveat was if the attitude wasn't reciprocal, that was a red flag. Not that it meant there was something wrong with my partner, just that we weren't compatible.

[YourWickedPixie]

Effort is key!! I still dress up for him, still bake him random cookies, still do the happy little jig when I see him. He still twirls me like a princess, switches sides so I’m away from the road, and opens doors for me. It’s the little effort that really shines through over the years. Also make sure you still hold hands, it’s amazing how much just that little act does.

[isaa]

Yeah...only that “that's not the same” is totally correct. Making sure your significant other gets home safe and dressing up for each other are on a completely different level

[LtKernel]

As a man, i personally will never judge you on what you wear, as long as it suits the occasion. I dont mind if you wear sweatpants and a beanie to dinner, unless its like a fancy resturaunt. Im just glad to have someone that i can love regardless of what they are wearing.

[spectators]

"At least i dont sound like a child" LMAO 😂😂😂💀💀💀

[zachfox]

If I tell her I like her in anything, I mean it. No makeup, fine. It's if she only dressed up to go out with friends or alone that would bother me.

[Fulbor]

Realtionships should feel comfortable. If you like dressing up and find a guy that appreciates it, cool keep doing it. If you prefer to feel comfy and find a guy that likes you that way also cool. Don't fake a thing to get him into you if thats not you.

This goes for men too btw.

[MeadowSongs]

Making sure someone is safe and being a financially stable adult are not the same thing as dressing up. 🤨 For any gender.

[hackcubit]

I feel as though both sides have merit. Yes, you should maintain your relationship. How that's done varies by the individuals.

[NoKidsNoProblem]

She clearly said that Ryan doesn't care if she dresses in clothes that are comfortable and allow for having a better time. This dressing up thing goes too far sometimes and becomes a bit ridiculous. I actually like a woman that has the look of the woman in the hat, and I'd want my date to be comfortable on a date so that she can actually enjoy it instead of worrying about always "looking good"

[jacobsamuelson]

Effort in getting ready is much less important for guys than effort put in being a good person.

[davidwillers]

This def goes both ways and speaks of a person having the mental fortitude to accomplish hard things.

[berilsevvalbekret]

Honey she said it HE DOESN'T CARE. My parents have been married for 28 years my dad cannot tell when my mother gets a hair cut. He cannot give less of a shit. There more important things than clothes and hair. Like being good to each other

No you sound exactly like a child. If you have been dating 'years' and still just a girl friend I think its time to pop a ring to the guy. You know equal effort!