3 Mistakes Autistic People Make Daily!

Here are 3 mistakes you, as an autistic person, make on a daily basis! You need to see this!

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There are multiple things I see autistic people do, and i wish they realised these things so they could create a better life for themselves.

Here are 3 things I think are most important to remember when on the autistic spectrum and going about your day.

1. Not Carrying Headphones
A big mistake I see many autistic individuals make is not carrying headphones around with them. It doesn't have to be noise-canceling headphones, but any headphones can help you introduce some audio space between you and the world.

2. Apologies For Your Issues
I do it, I see people do it, and I am sure you do it. If we tic or stim in public, we may apologise incase it was awkward for the other person. This, in fact is more damaging to you; it tells the other person to judge your autism and that you can be walked over.

3. Force Through Uncomfortable Situations
A big no-no that I see autistic people do all the time is that they force themselves to be in situations that are triggering, uncomfortable and distressing for them just to 'fit in'. Don't do this; it is bad for your mental health.

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[sld]

The one about forcing ourselves through uncomfortable situations is MAJOR for me. I'm 47 and newly diagnosed ASD/ADHD. I have been masking and forcing myself to be social and attend events for YEARS because when I don't, people say things like I "have no life", I "never do anything", etc. This comes from my partner as well, and it makes me feel like I'm responsible for problems in our relationship. Now that I've been diagnosed, I feel like I can build a life that suits ME, that protects my health and wellbeing, and everyone else can do what they want. I DO have a life, and I plan on making the rest of it a beautiful one that makes ME happy and healthy.
PS - thank you so much for your videos. They have been helping me SO much since my diagnosis and I hope you know how much you are appreciated!

[leosthrivwithautism]

Awesome video Dan! I just recently started learning not to apologize but instead owning my autism. It's what makes me who I am. Please keep making these videos! It brings positivity to Autism. And breaks a stigma I experience far too much! Keep it up man! Great content.

[JLYG_Fin]

I just started watching your videos and you just made my day. I have adhd, Asperger
And i feel off burned out, i feel kinda depressed but i watched few of your videos they are great thanks for you i feel my self more special. 🙂

[rubycubez]

I've been doing #3 for over 2 decades. I've reached my breaking point now. As soon as I feel that itchy feeling coming on, I know its time for me to walk away. I plan on telling ppl my battery is low and I have to go charge myself lol

[ChefCharlie]

I am 41, was diagnosed about 5 years ago. And, from my experience, it’s not good to make others uncomfortable, even if you’re just being “yourself”. I do agree mostly with the last point of removing yourself if you know you won’t thrive in situations.

[Foxiz]

Beautiful video!

I always considered myself a pretty "proud autist", but when you put it like that, I see that I actually apologize for being "weird" pretty often.

My beloved kid doesn't know anything else but that I am the way I am, and they are my biggest hype guy.
Ever since my kid was little, I have had to stop and cover my ears when out walking and a loud car passes by, for example. Now that they're soon a teen, I tend to apologize to my kid a little, but they couldn't care less; they just say "I don't mind at all", and wait for the sounds to stop, and maybe even hug me a little.

My kid is just the most understanding, loving person I know. 🥰

[jacobpeople]

I spot a dog!! - i have 3 pairs of headphones. One in my bag, one at home and one in my coat. Music helps massively when I'm out and about. Cant manage without music. - i also keep a notebook in my bag too with a few pens in case i need to plan something, like a train journey or bus when out and about.

At the moment i am trying to find some fidget toys that arent noisy that i can use in both the dentist and doctors. Waiting in the waiting room is the worst. I find the dentist sensory overload. I need to go on Tuesday for a check up and I'm dreading it

[melissaburns]

Hyped! Been learning stimming isn’t bad to do( the healthy non harmful ones), it’s really healthy to get out. My stimming is how I cope. Your not crazy or anything like that when you shake your hands or flap them, jump up and down, and Echolalia( repeat words/ phrases). For example, at Thanksgiving I always hid them(my shaking of the hands). Now I see that, there’s nothing wrong with me, I don’t have to be fixed for healthy stimming. Because, I believe God made me for a purpose. Life has been hard and people have been judgmental and invalidating to me. Not everyone. But, with my understanding that this apart not the entire me, is free so to speak, because I deserve and have the right to express my freedom. That is in a way that is non physical contact. Just keep stimming, stimming, stimming. Hope this has helped someone out there.❤️🐱🐶❄️🎄🎅🏻

[caitlinmorrisey]

I feel like another thing we do is when we're starting to feel overwhelmed we don't really tell anyone because we're embarrassed by it. I know I've done this many times and each time it's led to a meltdown and or me trying to suppress a meltdown which has just made the meltdown come faster and harder.

[hannabusse]

#3: My psychiatrist has been giving me crap lately. I know she means well, but I think she forgets I'm autistic. She keeps telling me that it's good to push myself, and I can put more on my plate, etc. And I just want to scream I'VE SPENT MY WHOLE LIFE PUSHING MYSELF SO MUCH I MELT DOWN REGULARLY. I DON'T NEED TO PUSH MORE! It is laughable to me that I might not push myself when I want to or need to. Pushing myself has been my unhealthy coping mechanism for 25 years. I'm finally making the choice not to push myself when I don't need to, though. ...and apparently that looks like concerning depression? I'm actually experiencing hypomania at the moment, I just also set boundaries and have priorities. My therapist is much more helpful and understanding, and we're working on it.

[nellapatella]

you just made me realise that i've been holding a 'sneeze' for a very long time. suppressing my stimming has made me feel exactly like that. tense! but since i've learnt that i'm autistic i've let myself stim and it is freeing. But i'm still unlearning a lot of my suppressive tendencies. I make all three of these mistakes, but you pointing them out like this really helps. Identifying the mistakes is one of the first steps i'm having to take.

[thedawnpatrol]

All your videos are awesome Dan, but this one made me laugh and made me cry. I think it's your best yet and I love having permission to be myself with no apologies. Thank you! And we love you too 😘

[salhooper]

I went out with headphones before I even knew I was autistic! It makes me feel so much more confident. I’ve had to work hard not to apologise for things like adjustments I need, and I try to stand up for myself in situations where I feel uncomfortable. Even at work I’ve had to say I can’t do certain things and that’s ok.

[Posmlady]

I always get so worked up to go to a function that I get sick. My intestines are freaking out right now because I'm supposed to go to one tonight!

[bookerchildress]

I tend to get ear infections if I use earbuds too often as opposed to headphones...it can make work more difficult since ppl/bosses seem to accept ear buds more than phones(less obvious I suppose 🤷‍♂).

[FueledbyJohn]

I won't lie I really appreciate using discrete wireless earphones when out and about so much, at home I have a couple of larger pairs of headphones.

I dont like people feeling like I'm being rude so I do my best to put them away at lunch to get through holding sociable conversations.

Awesome video Dan. 🙂

[onetuffchick]

Hi Dan, thank you for your thought provoking content. I'm working on being aware of my sensory triggers/needs and accommodating them, accepting who I am (quirks and all), and allowing myself to limit my time with people or doing activities that drain me. I've made progress in the six months since being diagnosed, but still have a long way to go. 🤓

[insightbytes]

Ok in my 40's I had to learn when people ask how are u .. They really don't want to hear actually how u are

[mr_smky]

As a person with ADD, HIgh-Functioning Autism, OCD, SPD, TS, and SAS I have been enjoying your videos. I prefer not to have headphones because I like to know what is going on around me. The only situations I would want to wear them is if I was in a busy place like Las Vegas Strip or Times Square. For the most part I haven't had a real issue with anyone looking at me weird when I stim or any Tourette's. There still are people out there that don't know about austics. A mistake I think we make in the job markets is when people tell us something negative or something we are doing wrong we try to defend ourselves by over-explaining the reason. For example, at wok I have to do something and and told that it is wrong. I try to explain why, and a good friend has tried to get me to just answer them "okay" then fix it. By trying to defend myself I am hurting myself by looking bad for the management. Take care and keep up the awesome videos.

[francesjones]

Yes, my 6 year old grandson is autistic and goes to a school that can help him, unlike regular school, and I adore him and his difficulties more than you can imagine.