WHEN IT'S THEM, NOT YOU: NAVIGATING TOXIC FAMILY & RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS

Toxic family dynamics can seep into many areas of your adult life.
Relationships are often the hardest.

But what if I told you that the problem isn't you, it's them?!

It's a really hard place to be in when you cannot make a toxic family relationship dynamic or another important relationship dynamic work because of the years of complex dynamics at play.

Deflection, deception, pathological lying, manipulation, triangulation, emotional distancing, splitting, mind-games, harsh judgments, overly high expectations of you, and dichotomous thinking can all impact you negatively over time.

The toxic family dynamic or the toxic relationship dynamic can lead to many ups and downs.

In this live chat, I discuss the psychology of deception and control.
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#trauma #tamarahilllpc #toxicfamily
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DISCUSSED IN THIS CHAT:
0:00 Intro
2:40 Dichotomous thinking (black/white thinking)
4:40 Splitting
8:15 "ghosting"
8:50 Double-bind communication (step-by-step example)
12:05 EXAMPLE of double-bind communication
29:18 COMMON SIGNS AND BEHAVIORS
29:39 PERSONALITY PATHOLOGY AND RESEARCH
54:51 SIGNS SOMETHING IS OFF

*discussion in-between content

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Mentioned In The Live Chat (research & further information):

7. Rosen C, Harrow M, Humpston C, Tong L, Jobe TH, Harrow H. 'An experience of meaning': A 20-year prospective analysis of delusional realities in schizophrenia and affective psychoses. Front Psychiatry. 2022 Aug 4;13:940124. doi: 10.3389/fpsyt.2022.940124. PMID: 35990079; PMCID: PMC9388349.

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[RhondaLange-wj]

So much dysfunction in some families. Learning things aren't always my fault.

[brendarudman]

My toxic family wanted me to continue looking after my mother when i became ill😮
They then had a cheek to call me selfish and "It's all about you!"
Shocking!

[marthadonnapurrrr]

I have proven multiple times that my father is undiagnosed narcissistic. My family treats me like i’m the true narcissist bc i criticize their awful parenting & family abuse. I am the family scapegoat. They think it’s my job to help them cover up the abuse, so i am very parentified. My parents are too immature to be honest about hardly anything. They cannot cope with their own emotions, so i’ve basically had to raise myself or have other people raise me or be raised by tech companies brainwashing devices & programming. This is happening to far more children than anyone would care to admit. This is an epidemic.

[CharlesEsther-fhcm]

Tamara, what a blessing to have discovered your channel! I can listen to you speak all day long! Amazing speaker and presence❤

[staypositive-beu]

thank you tamara for the content you provide. what i am learning rips me apart but, seeing the truth is allowing me to be more free and let go of certain situations/people that was never good for me. also would like to thank everyone in the live chat for opening my eyes. very grateful.

[laurareedy]

my whole family just abandoned me and they won’t answer my phone calls or texts and I don’t know why they are doing this. I haven’t done anything to any of them and I am confused and sad .

[writer]

I'm reminded of my ex-husband. He was always indecisive, could never pick and choose where the family should go nor what to eat. It was a lot of "Oh, I don't care. You choose" while he stared at his phone. But as soon as I made a choice, it wouldn't be what he wanted. I swear, he did this just to pick arguments over nothing, cause chaos, and just keep everyone home and angry like him. And yes, he was a controller (and narcissistic), just like his mother. Thank goodness I left!

[brendarudman]

My sister is someone you may not say no to- expect the tantrum from hell

[Smartbeautifulawesome]

My ex husband acts like he is dating my mom and them. He can’t even speak to me it’s weird

[halfthebattleknowingis]

Any grass roots mental health organizations to reference, Tam??

[vs]

Started early today hmm? Or maybe not. Perfect stuff for me to hear. About a suspected borderline I know. 😬 (edited)

[Smartbeautifulawesome]

Probably Alzheimer’s it’s gotta be health related too