How to know if she's the one? | Jordan Peterson

How to know if she's the one? | Jordan Peterson

[essoundsofsilence]

1. You have to fundamentally trust them
2. You have to be able to negotiate with them
3. You have to be able to fight with them
4. You have to be able to make up with them
5. You have to be attracted to each other
6. You have to be friends and share some activities together
7. You have to have similarity in personality
8. You have to have a shared vision of the future
9. You have to have enough shared beliefs to run a household together

[typhoonofideas]

There's a really small number of people whose relationship advice I would trust. Dr. Peterson is one of them.

[lizardperson]

“So that’s a lot of things..” lol true but this wise man knows how to put it in such a way it’s so understandable

[thefleet]

3:20 The personality aspect is *quite* important in my view. Jordan talks about differences in extroversion vs introversion; agreeableness vs disagreeableness; high openness vs low openness; conscientiousness, industriousness, and degree of chaos. But you don't want both to be high in neuroticism.

[minfuji]

Also a very valueble thing to keep in sight is how your partner is treating their friends and how is she expecting you to treat your friends during your time of dating. It not healthy to neglect friendships during this time. If he/she is doing that or expecting this from you then it shows they are not the best in investing in relationships or are easily to abandon something if they find a better resource of fulfillment.
Also ask her friends if they have memorable moment if your dating partner. These stories can show you alot of their caracter.

[candyrainrnt]

I love the list he gave. What's funny is the fact that my partner and I did the Big 5 Personality Test and BDSM test after our first or second date. It gave us a huge insight of each other. We realised that we were quite well balanced despite our differences and we were similar in many ways that matter. Opposites really do attract but fundamentally, both partners should have very similar core values and morals. The difference is what makes you stronger, and it's your similarities that bind you together.

[iprayforloveandpeace]

The best advice for knowing if your partner “is the one”

[lesleycai]

To be fair, he really hits most of points.

[micke]

Wow, that was... hopeless! i am doomed as i already feel like i dont fit into the society as it is today!

[brucel]

Jordan answers this very incredibly and incredibly complicated question quite 'analytically' correct, I would estimate. But the funny part is at the very end, when in conclusion he states, "that's a lot of things", quite matter of factly. What he is really saying in that quick moment is this,
'how to know if she is the one is a Rubic's cube of factors". Solve the cube and you win. But spin the cube round and arrive at a solution and just miss by one square, and, "well", you got a LOT of things right and just one small thing wrong and now the submarine is sinking to the depths and there is not a DAMN thing you can do to stop implosion. Been there, done that.

[dylanfurney]

So needed that advice from you Dr. Peterson 🙏💞✌🏼☺️

[rickynunez]

So if you do decide to marry someone you have to be on the same page and share the same philosophies Another words be each other's team make and best friends?

[CocoSpuzzillo]

I like your perspective you’re a very intelligent man!

[luisfabricioserranotorres]

Im confused with the last thing he mentioned: shared values? Anyone have any recommendations to learn abt that

[TheHHPodcast]

you could here some bias in openess haha

[robertmoffat]

I like Peterson but he knows f#ck all about relationships.
Rather... he hasn't thought very deeply about them obviously.