My Spouse Wants A Divorce. What Do I Do? Pt. 2

In this second video in the series “My Spouse Wants a Divorce,” Dr. Joe Beam will teach you about how to assess what the real problem is in your marriage and how to focus on the right things. He’ll also explain the importance of valuing yourself. Here at Marriage Helper, we want to help you become strong; growing and becoming the best version of yourself. And, Dr. Beam will clarify that it is not helpful to focus on your spouse’s flaws. We believe (and have seen) many people change, even in the most difficult of circumstances.

[TSS]

Thank you, Marriage Helper and Dr. Beam. My wife is divorcing me, right now, and your videos help me keep my sanity in this difficult time.

[jimdemichele]

I love this video. My wife remains steadfast in her desire to continue on with the divorce, and I’ve been following this advice and remain committed to winning her back

[aprilstaley]

My husband literally has supported me throughout everyday of our lives together 😢i literally took him for granted and now i don't know how to express that without sounding like i am insincere or begging

[whatif]

“Why he/she thinks being away from me is better than being with me?” Hmmm, that is very thought provoking 🤔 💭

[flanker]

wooah, what Dr. Beam said in this video, Many of the things I experienced in my life, and he is 100 % correct, now I am going on good track to bring my life on it, I can say avoid focusing too much on problem, and look at the solution

[Claymoreinurface]

Keeping information from a spouse based on fear of information being used against them and only revealing if they decide to work at it is manipulating. As a spouse who wants to leave after my spouse had two affairs giving me information helps me decide if I’m going to stay.

[sheresejames-grow]

I love this. I did do the family thing and it DID NOT work out well. I was so upset and didn't care when I did it. A small part of me still thinks I needed to do it so that my family would know that my pain was coming from a lying spouse. They thought I was exaggerating, but when I told the truth they could see. However, I did it in such a way that it threw him hard under the bus. So what Joe says is true. My husband felt that way and was ashamed. I regret it because I wanted to save my marriage. It took A LOT for him to accept my apology. So don't do that. Definitely don't react quickly in anger. Think strategically about the end goal you want to accomplish. And if your emotions are boiling, you MUST find another way to release and someone else to vent to.

[captaindrunksparrow]

I had become so bitter because I looked only at the bad and forgot to see the the good and I would bring that bitterness home. I had become short with our children and put my wife down constantly but I did not realize that was what I was doing I have adhd and tend to say things I don't think about or forget things all time. She withdrew and so did I and it only got worse

[arpaangarkhe]

Nice testimony... Alice is strong God fearing women.. as she did not thought of another marriage as bible says its a Sin. She is a intercessory indeed... She harvested in marriage and not she is reaping.. Lovely..

[katiebr]

What a amazing teaching!!!! Why I have seen this before?? Learning so much!!

[Mr_Boykin]

Man I’m guilty of talking to my in-laws. I thought I had an ally in my mother-in-law and that went all the way wrong. Now my wife thinks that I slandered her to family. That was not the direction that I intended.

[roylenekornovich]

Forgiving is so hard because to me it's indicating the problem that took place is now "ok".
But how do you trust someone again when they have repeatedly lied?

[Keepingitwitchy]

If your husband gets someone else pregnant while you are separated you need to leave him. For good. Period.

[Yahusha-Saves.]

My wife left a month ago and all in all after 23 years we have both made some pretty bad decisions. I know now I had did a lot of bad push behaviors. Eventually would happen if you push too much you will push them right over the edge. It doesn't matter if you're a good provider or if these other things like good person or good father if the relationship between you and your spouse is being provoked by negative emotions it makes sense that she or he would want to go to something else to get away from the bush behaviors that have been happening over an extended. Of time

[shannoncockrell]

I appreciate this Your advice is greatly appreciated

[greenesweldingfabricationl]

my wife is wanting a divorce. and I have made all these mistakes that dr. joe beam has mentioned. we are on the down hill I want to put this marriage back together and I'm willing to do what ever it takes. I am needing to make some changes in me and my marriage.

[FOG_Fitness]

Amazing video, you guys have incredibly helpful content that is free and applicable in real time! Subscribed and shared! Thank you guys so much for serving at such a capacity that you do. Dr.Beam your story was very awe-inspiring and brings much hope for my wife and I’s situation. 🙏🏿💙🏁 The Marathon Continues

[kennyplay]

My wife says that when she was single, on her own before we got married, after first divorce, she took care of the lawn. And when she asked to help to alliviate things that I need to do, that she says that she doesn't do it good enough. Although, I told her that she has enough to worry about and take care of, and that I'm the guy, and should take care of that .

[jessejames]

This is magnificent. Thank you, Dr. Beam. Such a scarcity of thoughtful, long-term, values-based advice online - yours is a noteworthy exception! Warm regards, Jesse.

[SimonKingsleyDutton]

I totally understand the not try and save your marriage point. And I'm making big changes but feel at the moment the divorce is happening around me and I can't show anything I'm doing as she's shut me out 😢 you mentioned fighting how does someone go about that?