Be Careful With Charming People

Being cautious around charming individuals is essential due to several reasons:

Empathy Deficit: Charming individuals may lack genuine empathy for others' feelings and experiences. While they may excel at superficially connecting with people and appearing compassionate, their empathy may be shallow or insincere. This lack of genuine empathy can lead to insensitive or manipulative behavior, as they prioritize their own interests over the well-being of others.

Emotional Manipulation: Without empathy, charming individuals may have no qualms about manipulating others' emotions to achieve their goals. They may exploit people's vulnerabilities or insecurities for personal gain, without considering the emotional impact on those they manipulate. Beware of charming individuals who seem overly adept at playing on your emotions or eliciting sympathy to manipulate your actions or decisions.

Superficial Relationships: Charming individuals may struggle to form deep, meaningful connections with others due to their lack of empathy. Their charm may mask a superficiality in their relationships, as they prioritize their own needs and desires over fostering genuine emotional bonds. Be cautious of forming close relationships with charming individuals who seem emotionally distant or disconnected.

Inability to Understand Others' Perspectives: Empathy involves the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Charming individuals may struggle to truly understand or empathize with others' perspectives, leading to misunderstandings or conflicts in interpersonal relationships. Beware of charming people who seem dismissive of others' emotions or experiences, as they may lack the capacity for genuine empathy.

Potential for Hurtful Behavior: Without empathy to guide their actions, charming individuals may inadvertently or intentionally hurt those around them.

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[steggopotamus]

Personally, I go straight for the deep conversations and see if they have their own way of phrasing things. Like, if you bring up a a common moral topic like feminism, racism, or even relationship boundaries (do you think it's ok to go through your partner's phone?) they'll only say the usual catch phrases, but if you ask them to go into detail, they'll have an empty explanation, or they'll phrase it in a sketchy way. Make sure to not correct them. Just have them keep explaining, keep asking questions. They'll get more brazen as you don't react to the smaller infractions.

Also, check to make sure it's consistent over time and pay close attention to the way they account for differences in opinion for when it's them vs when it's someone else. "Rules for thee but not for me"


And lastly, if they ever show any sign with jumping to who to blame run. One toxic person I knew of we had the slightest issue, like a wrong turn. "You didn't tell me!", missed something important "nobody told me!" Etc. thought they were just insecure at first, well, yeah, very toxic people are actually often very insecure.

But compared to people pleasers, who are also blame focused but they'll just take the blame even if it's itt not their fault at all, which can be toxic too, but evaluate if they're capable of growing and if you're in a place where you can deal eith that.

[notaclue]

one writer whose name escapes said of charmers, "the snake charmer doesn't dance to the music."

[RainFall]

Give people the benefit of the doubt . Plenty of us our charming because we have to be and actually find it exhausting and prefer the deep stuff

[nicolas_-_-_]

Hello Doctor Becky!
Thank you for this video! Well, I'm not one of those guys 😄
PS: Feel free to ignore my comment, I won't feel offended 😁