Break Away From Negative Thoughts & Experience Life | Kip Hollister | TEDxBeaconStreet

CEO and Mindfulness Expert Kip Hollister spoke at TEDxBeaconStreet on how to be more focused, fulfilled, and successful in both work and life by bringing your vision to fruition. Using her over 30 year history in the staffing industry and her passion for mindfulness in achieving one’s full potential, Kip leads listeners on a journey to remove negative thoughts and find happiness. She discusses the roadblock in her life that led her to start the Hollister Institute and start living a more mindful life.

Kip Hollister began Hollister Staffing in 1988 because she realized that helping the right people and the right companies come together was not about transactions – it was about relationships. Since then, as the leader of a prominent women-owned, full service recruiting firm in New England, Kip has fulfilled the promise she made when opening the company’s doors, continuing to strive to create successful relationships between great companies and the people who anchor their work. Kip serves on the Workforce Investment Board and the Workforce Development Committee of Massachusetts. She sits on the Board of The Alliance for Business Leadership and on City Year’s, Seventh Generation Board.

In her time leading Hollister, Kip has won numerous awards, including the 2012 Ernst & Young Entrepreneur of the Year Award as a National Finalist, the YMCA Training Inc. award as Employer of the Year, and one of the Small Business of the Year Award winners by the Greater Boston Chamber of Commerce.

[kimberlyhoward]

Loving yourself is happiness, nothing on the outside will change that. That's why it doesnt matter what you have or how successful you are, people will always feel who they truly are on the inside. Self reflection is the true path to happiness. I want to travel feel retired and enjoy life without tons of money in the bank. What will make me happy is knowing that I alone made that happen. What I dont want is to work my life away, so money can sit in my bank account while I'm tired, overworked and have a false sense of happiness or success. ❤❤❤

[tamara]

One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreased—even before he received any advice or support.
Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that “a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved, ” i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable.
Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others?
We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings.
A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent force—the force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other.
If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other people—giving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within.

[igorshekhtman]

i am
grateful that people like she exist. They help us to understand that we are not alone

[donnawoodford]

I am always interested in the struggles and how someone overcame them. Sometimes people have to endure naysayers, so the trick is to honor yourself. How many worksites provide a meditation room for their employees, and why not, when timeout would be so useful for business, health, and relationships. We need more innovative thought leaders like this. I'm with her on this one.

[marialovs]

Self reflect, realign with passion, and focus on goal (remove distractions). Thank you for sharing your experience. 🙏🏽

[MaggieMelanson]

Kip, thank you for sharing your story. I cannot tell you how incredibly helpful your words are to me.

[Filip_eF]

you can see that some of audience is suffering inside with the problems she is talking about. Hope we'll all go through it and we'll start loving ourselves

[clhunt]

It's amazing to see how many people are so focused on a quick fix answer that they completely missed the insight of this woman's story. She didn't talk about herself, folks. She told her story. And she told it in a way so others can understand what she did and exactly how it helped her. Her advice on how to let go of negative thoughts and live life is obvious to me. What is in your ears that is blocking the message from getting to you?

[natalisha_lisha]

I like this woman . She really has inner beautiful world 🙏🏼

[mariamkinen]

I would not be the humble perfection of a person . Unless I had shaken or taken a negative look at life. I was by exception blessed with plenty in rebounds after my unconventional birth history. I thank God. In quiet. I am blessed. N in great gratitude . I return that to you.

[adventurecoalition]

Great story, very relatable. That “Negative chatter” can be strong at times. That “passion & purpose” is what keeps one going and continues to change. Wish more employers were like you 👍 Thx for sharing your story

[MrsValSyharath]

Love This message. The insight, optimism and evidence makes me hopeful that we can be a part of the solution.

[pesthlm]

2019 now and wherever I go, I see people in the street staring into their phones. In cars, on the subway, on cafes, I even see couples who are out together and have their headphones on. It's sad, actually very sad - it's not so strange that the world looks as it does today. Soon we do not even have to think for ourselves.

[karmenjane]

This was exactly what I needed. I am going through this in my life now.

[kiptomkin]

Truly, it does make the "WORLD OF DIFFERENCE".
So well put & so VERY APPRECIATED.

[owentomos]

The moral to this great talk and others like it is not to believe every thought which enters your mind.

[kadelu]

She seems like a genuinely lovely person

[StephanOnisick]

I too had problems with video synchronization--but she is worth the phase variance. Good Talk! Motivating!

[humanearthling]

When one feels good about oneself, one will trust their emotional and intellectual capacities to know and understand how the world works to render them effective in their communications and relatedness with others. . .A real mouthful. But a little explanation is required here.

As it turns out, most people base their good feelings about their faculties on how popular their opinions are. And, as it turns out, popular opinions are conditioned in us through 24/7 Major media efforts. Anyone who has an original ieea or thought or opinion, is more likely to be viewed as someone who has unorthodox ideas that are labeled somewhere on the range of ' trouble maker' for bringing up the issue in the first place and sheer idiocy in broaching the I know, because when ever I asked a question of any of my teachers, what I got was "don't start _ _ _ _ _ _" even though I was sincere and truly interested in issues like Foundations, politics, and the many contradictions in the narrative I had caught; and other issues I raised throughout my school years beginning with third grade. My parents had to yank me out of mid third grade because I could not stop crying when the nun told her class to bow their heads in prayer for my soul, for simply asking a question about a contradiction I'd noticed in the catechism from the prior day to this lesson today. In my youthful naievet'e I thought God would smite me dead for questioning the WORD. I thank God still today, for providing me parents who believed I had a right to ask questions. I thank God today for having a mind that has always been used to learn things I did not know before my questions. I thank God for having the strength to veer from the crowd when I discerned that the direction of the crowd was not going where I wished to go no matter that the path was marked "to success".

[Enrico_Fusai_Counselor]

At 8:30 put your phone down/look somewhere else and just enjoy her speaking. Sync problem solved 😉