Exclusion is an invisible disease | Ronna Timpa | TEDxFremontEastWomen

Discover the professional and personal costs of exclusion and how to perform more inclusively in your work and life.

Ronna Timpa is the founder and chief motivator of Workplace ESL Solutions, an award-winning language communications firm headquartered in Las Vegas with bicoastal satellite offices.

[IglooDweller]

I wasn't bullied at school, but I was excluded. It hurts. I never liked activities where the teacher let us choose our own groups.

[richardhu]

As long as getting used to it, I feel nothing, but someday when I suddenly think of it, I start crying.

[Lildeesz]

I can relate to this so much! I truly put myself out there, try to engage with people, converse & be as genuine as I can be. But for some reason, people never seem to interact with me first. They easily start a conversation with the next person, can talk with each other for hours and hours. And this honestly shuts me down, makes me feel smaller and smaller.

[smantalks]

When I feel excluded, I use it as motivation to do something either empowering and or beneficial. Pain propels me to greatness.

[chelseyrueth]

Thank you so much for bringing awareness to this! It is definitely something I have felt, and lived with my whole life. It is painful, but it takes courage to feel that pain and it makes you stronger. It makes you want to make sure other people don't feel that way. And the people who we think may not feel this way, we're probably totally wrong. Thank you again.

[JennaCiela]

Seeing people and bringing them into existence...that is so powerful! I know that the pain of feeling insignificant and invisible has made me treat others that way unfortunately

[ciialhynat]

Watched this talk some years ago and it helped me so much to pinpoint the exact thing that was making me feel bad in social environments: The importance of being seen. The "I see you" message that is introduced here is huge and should be a common therapy method.
Just stumbled on this talk again after years and I'm surprised it only has about 600 likes. More people need to see and understand this talk!

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I've rewatched this again because the first time around I started crying. Awesome talk!

[stobbinsboy]

This Lady is really something. Smarts, looks and a huge, brave heart. I don't know how or why she does it but she's my new hero.

[supermelodia]

It's not a matter if it hurts, this brutal behavior will destroy your professional life, they will do everything to make you quit, get fired, become mediocre, etc. So don't quit, and the less you speak the better and do your work and make a journal, document everything and take legal action.

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I was excluded by my own family as well as at school and by most other people. There was nothing weird about me other than not playing those power games most people play from a very young age. I still don't get why the social environment needs to be such a permanent warzone.

[Love_Moleboga]

I really enjoyed this talk as I've experienced rejection and exclusion for a long time in my young life. I appreciate this. I just need to correct the South African isiZulu greeting as it was incorrect - I'm from South Africa by the way. The greating is pronounced sa-woo-bona (sawubona) not sawabona. And the response is not sikhona. After sawubona, one asks 'unjani'(singular) or 'ninjani' (plural) which means 'how are you?'. Then the next person(s) will respond by saying 'sikhona' meaning 'we are here' or 'ngiyaphila' (singular) or 'siyaphila'(plural) meaning 'I am alive' or 'we are alive'

[kerrimeberg]

This was excellent! I took notes and I am actually going to try and put these things into practice in my daily life . I really believe I'll be happier for it and I could make an impact on someone's life for the better!

[dianerose]

my brother and his fiance are leaving me out of their wedding party has hurt me. I am groom's only sibling. He talks to me but they left me out. Not nice. If i see direct exclusion from photos and directly they dont let me in a single photo while mom and dad are, i am going to lose it.

[nathanielwilbanks]

Welcome to every waking moment of my entire life

[CogSciEso]

Awesome message, deserves better audio.

[melaniewalker]

Amazing! You rocked this talk!! I'm so proud of you.

[poonamthakur]

I can totally feel the pain it broke my self confidence

[insaniacgaming]

I never realized that but it's been like this since I was younger

[deborahthomas-nininger]

Awesome information - thank you, Ronna for sharing your wonderful insights and perspectives! Powerful stuff!