How to communicate with your avoidant husband

I completely understand your pain (or atleast I'm trying to), I completely understand how angry and invalidated and unprioritized you might feel. You are justified and you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect and you deserve to be appreciated and selflessly loved. BUT...when he neglects you, I'm simply saying criticism and blame and shame never lead anywhere healthy and they usually only hurt your marriage worse. I'm not saying calm words will change him, I'm just saying we have to be careful. Your anger is justified, but your shame or criticism isn't. I value your marriage enough to remind you of that.

#anxiousattachment #marriageadvice

The fact that you feel neglected is still a HUGE deal. I just want you to talk with a professional before your complaints and criticisms turn into resentment and you begin hating this marriage. Praying you both can move in each other's direction through vulnerability and empathy and healing.

[ArkansasPilgrim]

I just shared this with my wife, who discovered your channel and pointed me to it. Unless I miss my guess, which I actually do a lot, this may have communicated to her what I have been trying to communicate for decades. You are a gift from Jesus. God bless.

[elizabethjones]

It feels like walking on eggshells, though.

[colinangelaandhaydenwright]

Difficult to do when you're feeling hurt and dismissed.

[jaylamcarthur]

Can you provide examples of what that looks like?