What we can learn from narcissists | Keith Campbell | TEDxUGA

What do Kylie Jenner and the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge have in common? Dr. W. Keith Campbell argues that both require a little bit of narcissism. As head of UGA's Department of Psychology and a leading scholar on narcissism, Dr. Campbell has devoted more than 20 years to studying narcissism and in his tenure, has authored more than 150 academic publications. His talk addresses the complex implications of narcissism: how we can harness its power and avoid failing under its influence.

Dr. W. Keith Campbell is Head of the Department of Psychology. He holds a BA from the University of California at Berkeley, an MA from San Diego State University, and a PhD from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. Dr. Campbell is the author of more than 150 scientific articles and chapters, and the books, When You Love a Man Who Loves Himself: How to Deal with a One-way Relationship, The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement (with Jean Twenge), and The Handbook of Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Theoretical Approaches, Empirical Findings, and Treatments (with Josh Miller). His work on narcissism has appeared in The New York Times, USA Today, and Time, and he has made numerous radio and television appearances, including The Today Show, NPR’s All Things Considered, Fox News, and CNN.

[VajrahahaShunyata]

As a person who was married to a narcissist for 5 years I would steer far from this mans light take on the dangers present in a relationship with one. They are tricky and present themselves much different to the world than they are behind closed doors. The only way to be safe is to go full no contact. Kindness is seen as weakness and they will not grow out of it with more love or undersanding

[vedabgoogle]

The only thing I learned from my Narc, was how to run and run fast. In the totally opposite direction. Never to be seen again. Like seeing an agent in the matrix, run!

[SugaryPhoenixxx]

In the last "argument" I had with my narcissist ex bf he literally told me he expected me to "bow down to him". I laughed out loud & walked out the door to never be controlled by him again. Please anyone who is in an abusive relationship with someone who may be narcissistic, know your worth & that you deserve to be around people who appreciate you, & want to see you smile everyday.

[auroraverstegen]

This is a joke.. he isn’t talking about how they attack you and make you cry when you haven’t done anything wrong at all..
Nor the manipulation. Or what about about the crushing loneliness and low confidence that a person in a relationship with them feels.
narcissism is dark, complex and difficult for anyone to understand unless they have experienced it. Most people that are actually in a narcissistic relationship don’t even 100% understand it...
is this guy even qualified to talk about this?..

[TheEarthandyou]

The narcissist is: ....what's in it for me.
They are deficient in empathy.
They will try to knock you down to inflate themselves. (Even when asked about this, the narcissist said it is a matter of his policy.)

[morganhelfrich]

THEY ARE SO DANGEROUS they destroy everything they touch...this should not be treated this so lightly.

[MisterJenkins]

Hey Ted. Why don't you talk about true narcissism. ( Malignant Narcissism ) A near complete lack of empathy which results in highly corrosive actions to innocent people...about the machiavellian wolf in sheeps clothing who has no compassion or love and how they live in a barren world of bleak, cold hopelessness.

Thats true narcissism.

[shawnadeyo]

I learned that the more love you put into a narcissist the more they will hate you for it. So as you are giving your heart to this person they are plotting to destroy you. Eventually they have you right where they want you. Which is on the end of their puppet string.

[kimmcleod]

NPD/abusive personality disorder is much more than 1% to 2% of the population. It's much more mainstream than what he's describing.

[lindeycoombs]

This guy is out to lunch narcissism is an epidemic. Half of my office are narcs. 6 out 13. I have a degree in psyche. 4 are covert and 2 overt. Narcissism is a very big problem in society today

[hfortenberry]

"They are more likely to be A LITTLE MANIPULATIVE"??? Seriously??? This guy is TOTALLY misrepresenting narcissism. He is clueless about how dangerous and destructive it is. He is NOT helping.

[karynegough]

You're teaching narcissism? Oh my god. You're talk is shallow and irresponsible.

[hfortenberry]

This guy obviously has zero experience with a real narc.

[cyberlioness]

A toxic but compelling manipulator boss gave me a PhD in narcissism

[kimberc]

Until falling for a narcissist the year my husband died as well as many important people in my life, I never imagined that kind of abuse. It dam near destroyed me. I'm still and prob always will be strongly affected by it.

[mikedonovan]

If you go to work, and you're like, "Everybody suck up to me.  High-five.  I'm awesome!"  And then you go home, and you're like, "Hey kids, Daddy's awesome.  High-five Daddy."  And then you're like, "Hey honey, wanna hear about how awesome I am?"  You could eventually be the President of the United States.

[ClaLu]

I don`t like this. It treats the matter waaay too lightly.

[hfortenberry]

You don't DECIDE to not be a narcissist! WTF??? This guy is a hack! You don't just tell someone to not be a narc and to not have too big an ego. Narcissists have NO EMPATHY. They don't give a DAMN what you tell them.

[kman]

I just decided to cut ties with a narcissist because I was mentally drained. Let’s just say he didn’t take it well.

[grannypattie]

Wow, the comments are so much better to read compared to listening to this Ted Talk.  GO Real People!!