Overcoming Eating Disorders | Can Ask Meh?

- This video contains discussions on weight, body image and eating disorders -

Are you trying to look hot? Did you lose weight? Were you proud of yourself?

These are some of the questions that people who have struggled with eating disorders answer on the season’s last episode of ‘Can Ask Meh?’.

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[Varny]

something in common with all or most of them is that their trigger starts off from a thoughtless remark made by others about their weight or appearance, , , i just wish that everyone can be a bit more mindful and cautious with what they say about others’ appearance;(( lets not bring one another down but lift each other up instead! ❤️

[qiuullery]

actually kinda sad that ppl dont think of the overweight side of eating disorder. i went through a whole ordeal in myself and eventually got binge eating disorder where i just couldn't stop myself from eating no matter how much i tried. i cried because it made me feel like shit and i know its wrong but i couldnt stop. there are eating disorder like that but people always associate eating disorders with losing weight etc. not to undermine anyone going through this because each journey is tough on its own.

[rehtafrey]

the lady who found out that it all boiled down to sexual abuse, you are frigging strong. don't ever think otherwise.

[Yvaia]

what the girl in short hair was saying - i felt her words in my bones. she phrased it so right. it's about thinking you have control over what has control over you instead. just thinking about it all the time, jojo-ing between feeling proud of yourself and feeling completely disappointed and even disgusted, seemingly out of nowhere. also, the girl in black curly hair said that she didn't tell anyone, but she desperately wanted someone to see it. this is so true i can't even begin to describe it. it's like you don't want to be a victim, so you dont say it out loud. but you want them to see all the shit that you're doing, your suffering, so you hope they notice. but then again, you don't want them to treat you differently, so you say you're totally fine. it's a cycle. it's crazy. even as i'm typing this, i already am thinking that i'm overdramatising it way too much so i'm just gonna post

[matchalahteh]

I've heard girls in school jokingly make comments like "you anorexic ah" "you puking out the food ah" idk how they are so comfortable with saying those comments. it's rude and insensitive. it might be even worse if one of the girls are actually anorexic or have other ed.

[throningdale]

Eating disorders have the highest mortality rate out of any mental illness. They are addictive and recovery is tricky and not at all linear. Thank you for bringing this topic up, and to the participants that allowed themselves to be vulnerable and share their story.

[Alan-isjk]

pro tip: when making these types of videos, leaving out scenes with descriptions of ways to purge or which 'diet' to follow, and not telling how much a person lost in weight, is super important when it comes to triggering viewer's EDs or acidentally encouraging people to lose weight in unhealthy in dangerous ways.
i felt like the questions were very stereotypical and didn't invite for a deeper conversation about the topic. changing questions to make them open (where the given answer can't be a simple "yes" or "no") and asking about their feelings at the time, what helped them get better and how they look back on it now would be really insightful, interesting and valueable. :)

[CloudRunnerRex]

As a male who’s going through this right now... It’s hard.

[i_am_team_svt]

17:05 reminded me of how i always try to find something positive in others that i could compliment on... just because that's how i wish someone would do to me

[musingintransit]

Adding on to this, while I appreciate the inclusion of other ED aside from Anorexia, and Bulimia, Binge Eating is actually much more common but unspoken for. Male ED sufferers are also being swept under the carpet a lot of times. And it would be good to mention that many times while ED is rooted from a specific weight or body goal, it is ultimately a mental illness and should be treated as one.

[egypt]

It brings tears to my eyes thinking how someone's backhanded remarks can cause so much hurt for people. My Ed started when I entered fifth grade. I was called fat and shamed and called disgusting for eating a hamburger in my school lunch cafeteria all by a girl I thought was my best friend. I couldn't rely on my family at the time even though I was just a young girl. I'm still struggling with an Ed more in the form of a mental disease now instead of physical. But in the past it was a frightening mixture of me neglecting physical and mental needs.
All I can tell you is once you begin loving yourself you will find your purpose. God bless you.

[yurncj]

“I try to focus on what I am, rather than what I’m not” damn

[AaROnYAnRox]

8:13 i think is such an important point that society overlooks. by complimenting someone for losing weight, we are indirectly communicating the notion that "skinny= good". i've been called sensitive for highlighting this point in the past but i just think words have such a strong place in people's lives, especially preteens and teens who are trying to discern what societal values to absorb as their own.

cannot thank these ladies enough for their courage and strength to share this part of their lives with us <3 lets make their words count and do our part to empower and not bring down!

[buboo]

dont know if the anyone featured or the channel will see this, but I would like to say thank you for sharing these:
I've struggled with my body image for the longest time ever. I'm overweight and being a guy it doesn't help, especially when you have guy friends. no I don't have any disorders, but I can relate to the issue regarding one's body image. and it feels good to know that I'm not the only one

[lallagomez]

The lady who said she was a survivor of sexual abuse broke my heart while she was saying that. You could really see the pain in her words...I pray for your healing and your happiness. I am sorry for what you went through, and I hope your soul and your heart heals someday ❣️ bless you

[im.mirinah]

when she said "yes somethings wrong with me people are noticing!" literally my mood LMFAOFOFOF

[canidie]

although I really appreciate them coming forward to talk about such a sensitive issue, I'm a tad bit unhappy about how some of yall mentioned numbers and things that are obviously triggering to people who are suffering from eating disorders, such as myself. I dont blame yall though, EDs thrive on validation so that's probably why alot of yall felt the need to mention it but a tw beforehand would be nice. I definitely wouldnt recommend anyone who is still struggling with an ED to watch this as it may bring cause more harm than good, I am glad however that yall are bringing awareness to the fact that EDs arent about losing weight and looking pretty, it's more about how it can make you feel in control, how it's a coping mechanism so thank you for that (hopefully this made sense!)

[KeiVC]

I look forward to OGS content. So when the premiere reminder came up, I was excited. And it's a topic that hits very close to home for me.

Struggled with an ED for years (still am) and got help last year only when I started becoming suicidal. I've never been hospitalised however, and that fact has always made me feel invalid. I felt like I didn't deserve help yet because I wasn't thin enough. In my mind, I was still a worthless blob of fat.

I just wanted to write this comment because I wanted to say that recovery is possible to anyone out there who is struggling as well. I'm in a much better place because I choose to overcome it and make the effort to change. It's a long journey, and a tiring one, because it's essentially a battle with myself (and the habits and behaviours that make me disordered). Eating disorders are usually tied to one's identity and without it, I felt like no one. But I slowly realised I was much more than my weight, my body and appearance, the size of my waist or wrists...I had a personality, likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses that made me me. [Cheesy!]

Thank you again OGS for exploring content that hopefully sparks some much neede conversations and awareness around EDs in Singapore. Like many other mental illnesses, there's a lot of misconceptions and stigmas that need to be addressed. :)

[Side note: Do comments get deleted once the premiere ends? Hopefully not? xD Maybe I'll repost this comment when you guys upload for real HAHA]

[kzibvwb]

The hardest part for me actually are when you try to overcome it, and then start gaining some weight. I'm still try to figuring out how to end this circle

[sinneruki]

Jeezuz - I hope everyone are mindful about their words.. words hold such considerable amount of weight.

Each and every one of you here are beautiful, believe me
Be the best version you are
And also, your loved ones love you for who you are
They want you to be happy because seeing you happy makes them happy
They don’t care about that stretch mark, that water weight you gained overnight, that pimple etc


Love you