'Nice Guys' Never Have These 4 Traits Women Crave

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The 4 qualities mentioned:
1. Self-respect
2. Emotional stability
3. Decisiveness
4. Independence & passion

[mikesgamelab]

I’m a nice guy, probably close enough to the internet stereotype, whatever it actually is, and I think I’m gonna stay that way. 3 reasons:
1) the definition seems to change when it’s convenient. I realized this when treating people with respect was regularly regarded as manipulative behavior. 2) I know guys who don’t treat women with respect, and they have laundry lists of girls they’ve slept with. I tried their way and it didn’t work for me because it wasn’t genuine. These days, I have my own style, and I don’t really care for those sorts of women anyway. 3) my kindness has never been weakness. It comes with a strong sense of justice. I don’t mix well with people who play stupid games.

[Ziggle-kykv]

There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal

[KW-gsgp]

Guys, just be yourselves and if a woman doesn’t like it kick her out and don’t look back.

[jeffjenkins]

Why is treating somebody with respect and dignity a bad thing? I will never understand how other people think. While younger, you want the the asshole but then later you grow up and suddenly want the guy who would have done anything to be with you 20 years ago? Get lost!

[AlexTheLin]

I am a very nice person. I don’t any issues with self respect, being decisive or any of the things Courtney mentioned in this video. It’s called being a gentleman and having class and manners. I’m also very successful. I can’t tell you the amount of women who when we were in high school and college would look past me but now desire to be in a relationship with me. If you’re weak then yeah change that. If you’re a nice guy, gentlemen with class and manners then keep being you. These women out here aren’t changing who they are to accommodate you in any way. Let that sink in.

[Ciberbuster]

I find the " Nice guy card" is brought mostly so women can reject decent guys that lack swagger/ritz/looks/money or whatever they are truly attracted and don't look shallow or superficial by admitting.

[tossedpenny]

It's funny because now that I'm older I'm surrounded by older women who are broken and helpless after going through all of the not so nice guys. They're begging for a nice guy and asking where are they all hiding? Oh sweetie, it's not "where" they're hiding, it's "when." You left them in your past, looked right over them, and destroyed any that you did get your hands on. They're settled down now with someone that saw and valued what they had to offer and they're not buying time machines to go back to give you a second chance.

[lawrence]

The best thing I could have done for myself in the last few years is to simply focus on myself. I am happy and thankful with where I am at right now in my life. I feel confident and I aim to keep a positive, rational perspective on the things I do day-by-day. It's normal to want more (believe me, I know the feeling), and I take the pro-active approach at a pace I feel most comfortable with. I still have a long way to go, and at this point, I'm going to simply enjoy the journey and the pleasures that life has to offer each day.

[briar]

The real issue isn’t being a nice guy. It’s those 90% of men that don’t have the necessary physical traits that women require before she will even communicate with a man. That initial attractiveness is what gives a man the chance to interact with women. Tall, handsome, muscular with the appearance of wealth and status wins the race. But Female content creators will never come out and actually say it. Especially those with a system to sell. Selling false hope is terrible. The man looses his money and is still alone.

[BryJovi]

I've always been a nice person simply by being of the mindset of 'treat people how you expect to be treated in return'. This is absolutely nothing to do with inadequacy with regard to confidence or having severe childhood trauma.

I will not hide away from the fact that my parents divorced, but this was an extremely young age and I wasn't even old enough to witness or remember the breakdown in my Mother and Father's marriage actually happening. My Stepdad has been there for as long as I can remember and lived with me for most of my living memory too. My Dad also got remarried around 11 years ago and on the whole it's been a typical upbringing.

I just go about life trying to set the standard for every other human out there, be the bigger person and sort of resonate being a decent person onto others and be humble and respectful in doing so. The fact that so many women do not desire a man of higher standards is frankly a reflection on themselves and their own imperfections, laziness and lack of empathy and/or ability or willingness to try and be a decent person to everyone you come across. If someone gives you a reason to no longer be decent to them then you just no longer have them in your lives or interact with them. Basically the silent treatment, and that works much more powerfully than falling down to their level and playing them at their own 'everyone is flawed', 'nobody is perfect' games. State the obvious with those two statements, but it sure as hell doesn't prevent you from trying to be the very best version of yourself both to yourself and to anyone you encounter in this life. If a woman doesn't have the balls or bravery to even give a 'nice' guy a chance, then that's on her.

[V-effect]

As someone who used to be the nice person, I realize that it was deeply rooted to severe childhood trauma since as a kid I was heavily neglected and abused. Now, I'm on my healing journey with self work and therapy.

[PikUpYourPantsPatrol]

This is not true. Plenty of genuinely nice guys have these traits and women still don't want them. Women are politically correct and they speak in platitudes. Women like toxicity, regardless of how they'll try and spin it.

[evanjohnmo]

One of the most significant things my girlfriend in high school ever told me is that certain girls like mean guys or bad boys because they actually crave the attention from their friends, sisters, and family when the guy does something wrong. They are willing to take that sorrowful attention over the negative activities that the guy partakes in. I would say this to dudes, be careful of a girl who is attracted to you because you are a bad boy type; if the relationship progresses any significant amount you could be the one left wondering, and not understanding the position you eventually find yourself in.

[austinmcnair]

This was a super helpful video! Like rewind, journal, and really self-reflect on this all month helpful. Having been a rejected people pleaser all my life, I could never really figure out why I felt so "stuck" in this perpetual state of being the "nice guy." It comes down to seeing yourself just as valuable as everyone else. Thanks Courtney! 😁

[alwaysemployed]

This is truly a universal trait that is not gender-specific. Really nice people do not know when they are being nice because they simply do what they think is the right thing to do. Being a nice person is not like putting on a shirt and suddenly becoming a nice person.

[williamturner]

Yup, I am a nice guy. If women don't like it then move on I don't want you. There is always someone who will appreciate you. Do not ever be so nice that you allow your girlfriend, wife, co-worker or friends to walk all over you. This is your life and a women in it is a blessing or can be a horrible curse.

[stevenwallace]

Being a "nice guy" often comes from us acting towards women the way our (often single) mothers drilled into us from day one that we were to act towards women.

My mom had poor experiences with mine and my sisters' dads, and she was determined to make me different. And so she did. I became exactly the man she intended, but for whatever reason she didn't realize until later that she had "saved" some non-existent woman in the future by condemning her own son.

[MikeIver-ye]

I am reminded of a conversation with a coworker several years ago about post divorce dating, and his observation of “the worse you threat them, the better off you are”. That holds water. It shouldn’t.

All of this relationship mud Reminds me of the verse about being more attracted to darkness than to light. There needs to be a lot more “resist the devil, and he will flee…”’instead of contemporary style of embracing the devil.

[quietbychoice]

"Avoiding conflicts" can go both ways. You can make a fuzz about anything. Or you can stand your ground when necessary. Choose your battles wisely.