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[Sy-Sushma]

Its all about them. Their image, their control, their feelings, their shame. Its not about you. From a bubbly person I became silent

[Islandgirl]

Sure did. Brain fog set in. Depression. Questioning my sanity. Questioning my talents… I was transformed into a door mat.

[yuu_miran]

The more cheerful, passionate, virtuous and nice person is the tastier they are in the eyes of a narc. Those are cannibals/envious vampires

[WorldOfARandomVegan]

100% happened to me. I am both introvert and extrovert but after this relationship I no longer care to be in social settings like before. I prefer to be alone.

[annekenney]

Yes! I was an energetic joyful little girl and my narc mom turned me into a shy person. I feel that if you see someone that is shy, they were abused. Shy is different than introverted. An abused dog will be cautious with people. The same goes for an abused person with people.

[kikidee]

I slowly figured it out over the years that the cold disengaged demeanor I experienced after having time out of the house with friends wasn’t that I did anything wrong, or that I stayed out too late, they just didn’t approve of me being out and having something outside of their control. It’s crazy how oblivious anyone can be to their manipulation before it’s too late and you’re lonely and anxious most days.

[dianabailey]

Never ever be the attention getter. Never sparkle. Only point out how awesome they are. Spot on. Absolute truth
Took years to recultivate friends and genuinely laugh !

[JennyBWhite-bnpw]

I went from traveling the country, filming, talking to so many people, friends, and family... just everyone... to being completely afraid to go to the grocery store. And order deli meat. Now, making a phone call makes my knees shake. YUP, you are SO right, as always Dr. Ramani!

[rachaelroessler]

Yes 😢 and I was mostly introverted to begin with. I used to laugh and smile much easier. I just feel drained constantly…

[larachaplauske]

I'm naturally gregarious, Autistic, and was raised by a couple of malignant narcissists. No socialization because we moved a lot. I'm 54, and still trying to figure out who I really am. It's really hard to separate defense mechanisms from my core personality.

[CP-peul]

I was the scapegoat child at home, learned to be quiet and remain invisible so I stayed in my room and read a lot. The awkwardness at home prevented me from ever inviting friends to my at school, I was a different person. I belonged to many clubs, participated in sports, was very extroverted and well liked.
I was absent from school one day due to an illness and a group of about a dozen kids came by my house to visit, I saw them approaching my house and my heart sank, my worlds were about to collide and I knew there was going to be a fallout from there was.
My narc mother was very nice to them, she conversed with them, offered them snacks and drinks and was the perfect hostess (my friends even gushed about what a lovely person my mother was)....after they left her expression changed and she informed me that I was no longer allowed to participate in any extra curricular activities and had to come straight home from school. I was required to be home by 3:30 PM. It seems that my extroversion was a huge problem for that witch.

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[Ben-ruju]

The smear campaign made me an introvert. It made me realize people can be weaponized against me. Being seen and known isn’t always good. I’m hoping with healing I become more extraverted.

[alexandracummings]

I’ve always been described as quiet, however the narcissists in my life stole my funny bone. I see the humour in life and was known for my “ turn of phrase”, lol...so to speak. I’m finding that side of myself again, well into my sixties. I run back to the safety of my small apartment after an exhausting, yet brief, social outing. My parents and husband and my sister hated me because I was nice.

[LostCreekMix-denl]

Holy crap. This happened to me. I’m such a mess, socially, when I used to be very outgoing . Now I find myself just hiding out in my little corner of the house not wanting to talk to anyone. It’s truly awful. I need to end this relationship. I feel myself circling the drain, so to speak. Unwell physically and mentally and it’s all because of what she’s done to me over the last 12 years.

[stephanieurick]

Absolutely!! I don’t try to make friends anymore. I don’t trust anyone.

[brigitteotto]

Yup!!! ONE date, and I immediately sensed that he didn’t like my interaction with the server!! How dare I be joking with them!

[erikavaleries]

Yes! NM sabotaged many relationships and friendships, and I became ashamed of the lies & smear campaigns. I got used to being alone.

[kimberlyvergez]

I think the covert narcissist can be especially difficult on this one. Their shame and social anxiety make it difficult for them to engage. When they're in a relationship with someone bubbly and warm, they see others respond positively to their partner, but less so to them. This is of course very difficult for the CN, because they really want that glory for themselves but don't have the tools to get it. So they have to make the partner, or the people they're talking to, wrong, in their own minds, and then with what they say to their partner. They'll make them feel self-conscious or like they're intrusive. The covert narcissist will often form an "audience" by having their own business or other situation where they get validation from a lot of people who don't actually know them beyond their projected image. These aren't true friendships, but then they feel popular.
Their partner, on the other hand, isn't allowed access to this group, and real friends who would come to the house, for instance, are put off or discouraged.

[marywilson]

Yes! When you are with them - it's their show. Your input is not needed or wanted. There is no place for you to be yourself and laugh, ect because it's their time to reign.

[rosemadder]

He 100% stole mine. I realized when I was able to start work again, andnthen college, , that I'm not quiet and boring and afraid to speak. It wasn't true. That "nobody likes you" wasn't true. The amount of confidence that came back to me when I made just ONE friend was astounding. And the narcissistic definitely punished me for it. But it didn't work, his new attacks nd accusations and sabotaging my schooling, didn't work. I've kept my newly discovered old self in spite of it all. Now I have a career where I help others and my confidence just continues to grow ❤