How To Handle Insults

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[UncontrolledxXx]

When the short doesnt fulfill its prophecy

[jwhard]

If we aren't friends, I don't make fun of you.

[hoosfoosfull]

Constant ribbing leads to insults. People have no boundaries.

[GrandrEYEsing]

The difference between 'ribbing' and "hassling" someone is easy to distinguish if you are the RULER of your own ego. The way I handle insults is to ask my insulter QUESTIONS about their view of me... How they connect their judgment... In logical reasons... To their PERSPECTIVE. It walks them straight into a brick wall... Because THEY can't explain their OWN LOGIC. And I always do it with KINDNESS. Unless I decide to just carry on instead. It all depends on the right strategy in the situation. If you don't recognize it... It's what GRACE looks like IN ACTION. Three dimensional minds would VIEW it from the outside as WEAK, while I AM ACTUALLY in the strongest position.

[joshschneider]

I remove myself from the situation where possible and ignore it else wise. Like a man.

[GurneroMaelstrom]

Words can't hurt you. They only hurt your ego. Treat me like roaches, avoid them unless they're really crawling over you

[c.galindo]

Best answer is be calm and mindful of your surroundings, what the situation can effect, what it can lead to, whether retaliation is necessary if it gets too personal, what the context of it is or can be narrowed down to, and just not letting your emotions become controlled by another’s actions against you. Be wise and calculating on such sudden instances

[GM-ubqy]

I laugh about it but if I feel its repetitive or hostile then I become less talkative and show anger through my face. If you act like nothing is wrong it will get worse.

[dogma]

Here's the deal. You can be chill when someone insults you. You can think to yourself that this person is a piece of garbage and their opinion means nothing.
So you let it go. After a few more times, they realize there's no boundaries. And it gets worse. Same a bullying.
The time it goes from ribbing to disrespectful is the time you need to set it straight. Call them on it by repeating it back to them and ask them "what do you mean by that?"
Regardless of what they answer, ask them "what do you gain by talking like that?" Put them on the spot. Make it uncomfortable for them.

[parlojanmihai]

Simple. "Thank you, the same!" for any insult and do your thing.

[c.h.]

Good-natured ribbing is fun. Joking with meaning that you're too afraid to address is cowardice.

[olsparkywisenheimer]

I handle insults with a barrage of jokes about their mom..

[matthewcoolidge]

I am the same, if you start proding and get nasty, i have to fight back the anger and hold that back and sometimes the disrespect is to much. And i have to remove myself before i do something stupid.

[B_Trott]

I had someone ask, “how do you handle insults and learn to give them back”.
Let’s define our terms. When we’re talking about handling insults or giving them back, we’re really talking about verbal conflict or verbal violence.
There are different kinds of violence.
There is the kind where you are literally playing (we do this as boys). You flick your friend on the ear and he taps you back on your arm. It hurts a little but neither of you are trying to cause harm.
There is sparring where you are trying to be technical and you are trying defeat the other person, but you still don’t want to cause each other any harm. But it sharpens your skills and gets you tougher because not only can you improve your methods but you learn to take a punch without quitting.
And then there is destructive violence. This is combat, assault or self defense. In this case you are trying to harm and defeat your opponent (to whatever appropriate degree).
In all of these cases, you are defending yourself against attacks and attacking the opponent. This requires you to know your weaknesses and defend against them, but also to look for their weaknesses and attack them.
Most people who want to be good, never think to look for weaknesses in other people. But good men should be capable of looking for weaknesses in others and use that knowledge appropriately. If that person is discouraged, you know how to build them up. If they are stepping out of line you know how to put them back in line.
If you want to be able to give it back, start noticing things that people are/would be insecure about. Their quirks, idiosyncrasies and flaws. Then try to describe that in funny ways. You don’t have to be vulgar - as a matter of fact, sometimes the more low-key it is, the more it stings.
**They’re fat (as I am)**
“Man, you look real nervous that the cost of insulin may increase in the next few years”.
**They’re skinny**
“You look like you can’t wait to have a daughter so you don’t have to explain yourself when you buy pants in the girl section”.
Do this as an inner dialogue.
And then, if you have friends you can trust, start verbally sparring with them until you have thicker skin and you can get them back. You start off trying to survive, but eventually you learn to enjoy it. Go for it!!! Become stronger!!!

[k.u.erhardt]

Just right in time. Needed that advice so badly these days. Thx.

[hairyelder]

Simple : when someone starts insulting me I just say “good” 😊

[playerzero]

Usually ignore them since they have no bearing over my life anyways. If I feel like being a dick, ask them if they're ok as if they're a crazy person

[LukeSpurgeon.]

This was perfectly articulated, thank you.

[B_Trott]

As a guy who was always overweight and socially awkward, I had to learn this through great personal pain.
I had friends who teased me so harshly, I hated them. But once I learned to not take myself so seriously and laugh at myself, the sting in their comments were gone. Then, I developed the ability to give it back. I can either be the most encouraging mentor/friend you’ve ever had, or put you in therapy for the rest of your life. Now, my best friends and I say the most awful things to each other, and it’s genuinely fun.

Own your flaws and insecurities. Stop being self conscious. Realize you don’t need people’s approval. Use discipline to gain some successes and you’ll have confidence. Then be able to laugh at yourself. It removes anyone’s ability to get under your skin.

[VastPodcast]

You insulted us by not answering the question 😅😅