How to Handle Insults and Criticism like an Elegant Lady

Hello my wonderful elegant ladies!
Have you ever been in a situation where someone tries their hardest to bring you down with insults? Or gives you a backhanded compliment (your hair looks so much better than that long wig)! Or a person critisizes you and masks it as advice?

Well in this video I advise you on ten ways to handle insults hurled at you with poise, class and grace. Never allow people to drag you down to their level rather rise above it using these tried and tested techniques to ensure you always display kindness and elegance but without being a pushover!

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[shalinidixit]

How to handle insults and criticism elegantly:
1. Maintain your composure, dont be impulsive. Deny them the pleasure of getting a reaction.
2. Dont take it personally. Dont let someone's bad behaviour define you. Some people are rude, bitter or just having a bad day; dont let that affect YOU.
3. Think through your reaction.
4. Shelve the urge to attack the attackers. Walk away.
5. Guage the motive behind their words and actions.
6. Well timed humourous comeback
7. Use silence as comeback
8. Remove yourself from such provocative situation
9. When ignoring doesn't work (the crude and distateful behaviour continues), address the situation calmly, assertively and gracefully.
"Could you refrain from saying such in the future"
"Thank you, but I dont remember asking your feedback on this matter"
"Are you okay? Just checking, because that statement was completely inappropriate"
10. Avoid arguments and name calling. Dont roll in mud with pigs.
If you have done something to trigger the rude behaviour, apologise and move on.

[thefemininelife]

This video couldn’t have come at a better time. Someone told me my behaviour wasn’t classy while they’re dating a married man.

[loveforever]

If someone is being rude multiple times, then it is deliberate not unintentional. I think the best thing is to avoid the person altogether. The being silent suggestion and the walking away one is great.

[bEverCurious]

Someone once called me weird and I responded 'thank you'. They said it wasn't meant to be a compliment. I replied 'You give it how you want, I will take it how I want'.

[ayawalia]

The advice to 'not take it seriously' is crucial.

I used to receive repeated comments from someone who claimed that my calmness was a 'sign of weakness' and a 'lack of personality' and I should be reactive like them.

At first, these remarks hurt my self-esteem, but over time, I came to appreciate that my calm demeanor is what allows me to build lasting, meaningful friendships—unlike that person who was always caught up in drama.

Don't take criticism from people you wouldn't want to trade places with.

[ekuanunoo]

Vivian can’t help but to comment! “ don’t roll in the mud with 🐖 pigs” totally agree! Wishing you every blessing, more wisdom and knowledge.

[denisejones]

Queen, you are beautiful, elegant, and exquisite. Don't let anyone steal your joy.

[successfulinspiresandempowers]

Your hair looks absolutely amazing❤❤❤❤

[MichelleTweed]

Thank you kindly. I needed this. I used a lot of these while handling an emotional terrorist. I am glad I handled this elegantly. God bless you!!

[juanelawson]

Thank you for all your points..Also green is your color you look very lovely and elegant .

[michellesinnette]

Thank you so much Vivienne for overcoming negativity, please keep doing these videos as I am sure they take precious time and effort, to give us advice that improve self esteem and elegance.

[anniemukobeko]

A group of women of elegance belong ❤ I win when I react differently

[fzleadventures]

My brother in law always says something about my weight when I’m pregnant or right after pregnancy. And in front of all our family. I’m usually a normal fit size but I gain a lot of weight quickly with each pregnancy (50+lbs) but then lose it within 8 months. The funny thing is he’s actually very chubby himself! I may have bitten back with ‘yeah you’re right I’m pregnant tho so what’s your excuse?’ 🤭😅

[dredheadluna]

Take a deep breath.

I always see dealing with this as an energetic exchange. They want your money (energy), dont let them have it. Refuse the transaction

Laugh in their face.

[arabiamea]

Thank you Vivienne for making this video, perfect timing, HalleluYAH! God bless you 🕊️💕

[Sugarlala--mia]

Sometimes silence would look like you have accepted the insult and disrespect.

[Aprilgrant-ef]

Having 2 or 3 dry wit responses have a withering impact; more so than yelling or cursing in response. One of my "go tos" is: 'Anything else?' Then walk away like a Queen.

[melindaferreira]

Such a needed video! Thank you so much for the example responses.

[britneylifestyleandmentorship]

The way you talk and express yourself is elegant enough for me😊❤

[OctaviaH-uq]

I love your content. Keep teaching us etiquette and poise.